acne affect attraction??

Brig · 07-22-2009, 01:19 AM

So I met this girl, we've been dating for a few weeks now and things are going good. We get along well and we are very compatible sexually. Here's my problem. I don't suffer from acne but there's certain things that cause me to break out, one being if I go to long without getting good sleep. Well, I've been partying more than usual with her, she's been sleeping in my bed every night for the last two weeks and that takes some getting used to, and so my sleep hasn't been as well as it was before we started seeing eachother. Low and behold, I have this massive breakout that finally surfaced today. Try as I might, I can't help but be self conscious about it. It really bothers me. It seems to shake my confidence and affect my demeanor. It frustrates me that this happened now while things are developing between us because I'm not secure enough in the relationship to not care about it yet. So this causes me to have a few questions from outside perspective:

If a person is attracted to another person, would a thing like a breakout or a cold sore or something cause that person to be less attracted to the other, even if blemish or whatever was temporary?

Is the anxiety this is causing me pretty common for people in new relationships or am I making a bigger deal out of this than most people would.

any constructive or encouraging insight to this "trivial" problem would be appreciated

Laura11111 · 07-22-2009, 01:24 AM

I don't think most people would be put off by a temporary blemish or break-out. I wouldn't.

I think that you're not abnormal to be thinking about it. Everyone's a little self-conscious at the beginning of a new relationship.

hersmudders · 07-22-2009, 01:24 AM

as someone who still suffers from bad acne myself, i'm much more forgiving over stuff like htat. you're human. you're not perfect. don't feel anxious about it!

ay0_x · 07-22-2009, 01:25 AM

It shouldn't affect her attraction to you at all! If she's like most girls (TMI warning), she'll probably break out around the time of her period, too. If not, I'm sure one of these days she'll get razor burn/ a pimple/ dark circles under her eyes, what have you.

She's already sleeping with you.. do you think she'd stop because of a few dots on your face? I doubt it very much.

If it bothers YOU, get some skincare and drink tons of water

. And rest a little more. Lack of sleep can't be great for you in a lot of other ways

Laura11111 · 07-22-2009, 01:25 AM

P.S. If that's you in the picture, you have nothing to worry about. Hot!

TFulton88 · 07-22-2009, 01:31 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Laura11111

P.S. If that's you in the picture, you have nothing to worry about. Hot!

just wanted to reiterate that fact. no worries, kid.

Brig · 07-22-2009, 02:00 AM

Thankyou for the compliments, I appreciate it. As far as a regimen, I'm pretty healthy and drink tons of water. I'm pretty sure it happened cuz my sleep has been out of whack. It doesn't even happen very often at all, it just so happened at an inopportune time this time.

faithful14 · 07-22-2009, 02:09 AM

i wouldn't be turned off...it happens and just about everyone has dealt with acne before. I wouldn't worry about it too much...if she likes you for you, she's not going to even care about it. I really don't think you have anything to worry about here.

Jd1118 · 07-22-2009, 02:55 AM

Don't worry, you're only human. Everyone has their own imperfections at one point or another. It's not a big deal at all, and if she's that shallow to begin with - she doesn't deserve you. Other than that, most people won't mind at all.

Ivory_Tower · 07-22-2009, 03:11 AM

As a girl I certainly wouldn't be too bothered about a few break-outs here and there. I think that most people get a pimple or two when they are stressed out anyways.

I would recommend that you get this:

[Only registered and activated users can see links. ]

This stuff works great! Just use it everyday when you shower. It only costs around six bucks and it will give you beautiful skin! You can even feel the oxygen bubbles when you use it!

Bottom line---you won't have to deal with troublesome acne again. If you don't believe me I will put a picture up. This stuff rocks!

07-22-2009, 01:19 AM	#1
Brig Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Utah Gender: Male Posts: 86	acne affect attraction?? So I met this girl, we've been dating for a few weeks now and things are going good. We get along well and we are very compatible sexually. Here's my problem. I don't suffer from acne but there's certain things that cause me to break out, one being if I go to long without getting good sleep. Well, I've been partying more than usual with her, she's been sleeping in my bed every night for the last two weeks and that takes some getting used to, and so my sleep hasn't been as well as it was before we started seeing eachother. Low and behold, I have this massive breakout that finally surfaced today. Try as I might, I can't help but be self conscious about it. It really bothers me. It seems to shake my confidence and affect my demeanor. It frustrates me that this happened now while things are developing between us because I'm not secure enough in the relationship to not care about it yet. So this causes me to have a few questions from outside perspective: If a person is attracted to another person, would a thing like a breakout or a cold sore or something cause that person to be less attracted to the other, even if blemish or whatever was temporary? Is the anxiety this is causing me pretty common for people in new relationships or am I making a bigger deal out of this than most people would. any constructive or encouraging insight to this "trivial" problem would be appreciated

07-22-2009, 01:24 AM	#3
hersmudders Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: 6151 Richmond St, Miami, Florida Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 8,320	as someone who still suffers from bad acne myself, i'm much more forgiving over stuff like htat. you're human. you're not perfect. don't feel anxious about it! __________________ "yeah but i want a glow in the dark clone of my penis!!!!"--Epicproportion Spay or neuter your pets! Don't breed or buy while shelter animals die! Remember to click "helpful post" if something on a thread was helpful!

07-22-2009, 01:25 AM	#4
ay0_x Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Female Posts: 945	It shouldn't affect her attraction to you at all! If she's like most girls (TMI warning), she'll probably break out around the time of her period, too. If not, I'm sure one of these days she'll get razor burn/ a pimple/ dark circles under her eyes, what have you. She's already sleeping with you.. do you think she'd stop because of a few dots on your face? I doubt it very much. If it bothers YOU, get some skincare and drink tons of water . And rest a little more. Lack of sleep can't be great for you in a lot of other ways __________________ If I wanted silence, I would whisper. If I wanted loneliness, I'd choose to go. If I liked rejection, I'd audition. & if I didn't love you... you would know.

07-22-2009, 03:11 AM	#10
Ivory_Tower Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: The Imagination of Michael Ende Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 959	As a girl I certainly wouldn't be too bothered about a few break-outs here and there. I think that most people get a pimple or two when they are stressed out anyways. I would recommend that you get this: [Only registered and activated users can see links. ] This stuff works great! Just use it everyday when you shower. It only costs around six bucks and it will give you beautiful skin! You can even feel the oxygen bubbles when you use it! Bottom line---you won't have to deal with troublesome acne again. If you don't believe me I will put a picture up. This stuff rocks! __________________ <----R.I.P Jonathan Brandis (1976-2003) "Your story is Neverending in our hearts." In the beginning, it is always dark. -The Childlike Empress What kind of fool, what kind of fool am I ? I look for shadows in the sun, for memories of days to come, In your eyes I feel the flames of love. -Fancy, "Flames of Love"

07-22-2009, 01:24 AM	#2
Laura11111 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 415	I don't think most people would be put off by a temporary blemish or break-out. I wouldn't. I think that you're not abnormal to be thinking about it. Everyone's a little self-conscious at the beginning of a new relationship.

07-22-2009, 02:00 AM	#7
Brig Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Utah Gender: Male Posts: 86	Thankyou for the compliments, I appreciate it. As far as a regimen, I'm pretty healthy and drink tons of water. I'm pretty sure it happened cuz my sleep has been out of whack. It doesn't even happen very often at all, it just so happened at an inopportune time this time.

07-22-2009, 02:09 AM	#8
faithful14 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 532	i wouldn't be turned off...it happens and just about everyone has dealt with acne before. I wouldn't worry about it too much...if she likes you for you, she's not going to even care about it. I really don't think you have anything to worry about here.

07-22-2009, 02:55 AM	#9
Jd1118 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 1,144	Don't worry, you're only human. Everyone has their own imperfections at one point or another. It's not a big deal at all, and if she's that shallow to begin with - she doesn't deserve you. Other than that, most people won't mind at all.