new boss convinces me to revoke resignation

denise_14 · 07-21-2009, 07:44 AM

My resignation is effective July 30. A lot of changes are taking place in our branch (I work in a bank). Probably, these changes were also contributing factors to my resignation. The set up and transition in management is quite confusing.

The new manager is actually convincing me to stay. The branch needs an "overhaul" because of unsatisfactory audit findings. I would like our branch to pass the next audit, that's why I'm trying to finish all my tasks before I finally leave my post.

I know it will be hard for them to find an immediate replacement for me, and likewise to train the newbie. I also know that by resigning, I am taking great risks, which includes being unemployed ( and broke for that matter) for a considerable period of time; and probably being questioned by potential employers (the duration of my stay in the bank is only 3 and a half months).

I left primarily because I am no longer happy with my work. My professional needs are not satisfied. How would I deal with the persistent convincing of my boss? I must admit she is good in persuading people, and I'm afraid I might suddenly change my mind. I've still got one week.

retired1 · 07-21-2009, 08:00 AM

In what way are you professional needs not being met? 3.5 months on the job seems a bit short to be making huge expectations regarding career expectations.

While 3.5 months on a resume may not be a red flag, the reason behind it would be. To me it would indicate impatience and a tendency to quit if I didn't get my way. While this may not be the case, perception is everything when it comes to that first interview.

d24 · 07-21-2009, 08:00 AM

make unreasonable demands if she tries to convince you to stay.

if she says no, she'll stop trying to convince you
if she says yes, you'll get that huge payrise you always wanted

win win in my opinion.

hike14 · 07-21-2009, 08:15 AM

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Originally Posted by tuxthecutey

make unreasonable demands if she tries to convince you to stay.

if she says no, she'll stop trying to convince you
if she says yes, you'll get that huge payrise you always wanted

win win in my opinion.

I was thinking the same thing. Negotiate money and/or your expectations in the job. She might say yes. If in a few more months you are still unhappy you can always reconsider. And perhaps the job market will be better by then.

shes2smart · 07-21-2009, 08:22 AM

What I'm not understanding is why you need to resign before you have a new job lined up....especially since you mention being concerned about being unemployed for an extended period of time. You haven't mentioned any extreme circumstances that would make sense for an immediate exit (such as they've asked you engage in illegal activities, or you're working with people who are mentally/physically abusive, or they've stiffed you on your pay), only that you're not happy with the work.

Seems to me it would make more sense to hang out at your current job and keep collecting a check while you conduct a job search. If you hadn't tipped your hand about wanting to leave, you could've done that in relative peace, too.

karvala · 07-21-2009, 08:36 AM

Yeah, I'd second s2s's comment. If I were broke, had a job where the boss was trying to persuade me to stay, and had only been working there for 3 1/2 months, I'd need a VERY good reason to resign and become unemployed. General dissatisfaction certainly wouldn't cut it. By all means look for another, better, position, if you think you really can't make it work where you are, but walking out into unemployment without savings after just 3 1/2 months seems a bit on the reckless side.

**avman** · 07-21-2009, 08:37 AM

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if she says yes, you'll get that huge payrise you always wanted

Which would only be temporary. Trust me as soon as the bank feels they can live without you they'll fire you because you've shown you won't stick around.

It's up to you. If you can't stand it anymore than just leave as you planned. If you can put up with it for a few more weeks to give them time to adjust and give you more time to job hunt then that's fine too. However I would not assume that you can keep this current job long term.

denise_14 · 07-21-2009, 08:40 AM

thanks for the replies... ^_^

retired1, i've thought of that too... 3.5 months is indeed short. guess i'll just need to come up with a really acceptable reason why i decided to leave too soon. at least i was honest and true to myself. I just couldn't seem to picture myself staying in this industry for long. i don't see the point of staying and forcing myself to do something that doesn't make me happy.

tuxt and hike14, great ideas. unfortunately, the negotiations are not possible.. and it's not actually all about the pay. i can settle for a low paying job, as long as i get the sense of fulfillment and i'm passionate with what i do. i came from a financially stable family and money is a lesser concern.

banking is really not my field. my academic qualifications and previous work record can attest to that. i hope this serves as a lesson to all jobseekers out there. stick to your passion. do what you do best. times are tough and sometimes, we resort to just settle for any available job, just so to have a job. still, know what you're getting into and be very critical.

denise_14 · 07-21-2009, 08:46 AM

btw, the temporary unemployment wouldn't really leave me broke... perhaps it would just mean i 'd need to cut down on unecessary things, like going out and excessive shopping. i've also started jobhunting prior to filing my resignation. i also gave them considerable time, one month notice, as a sign of courtesy.

07-21-2009, 07:44 AM	#1
denise_14 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: somewhere here... Gender: Female Posts: 517	new boss convinces me to revoke resignation My resignation is effective July 30. A lot of changes are taking place in our branch (I work in a bank). Probably, these changes were also contributing factors to my resignation. The set up and transition in management is quite confusing. The new manager is actually convincing me to stay. The branch needs an "overhaul" because of unsatisfactory audit findings. I would like our branch to pass the next audit, that's why I'm trying to finish all my tasks before I finally leave my post. I know it will be hard for them to find an immediate replacement for me, and likewise to train the newbie. I also know that by resigning, I am taking great risks, which includes being unemployed ( and broke for that matter) for a considerable period of time; and probably being questioned by potential employers (the duration of my stay in the bank is only 3 and a half months). I left primarily because I am no longer happy with my work. My professional needs are not satisfied. How would I deal with the persistent convincing of my boss? I must admit she is good in persuading people, and I'm afraid I might suddenly change my mind. I've still got one week. __________________ Absence does for love what the wind does for flame: it extinguishes the weak and feeds the strong...

07-21-2009, 08:00 AM	#2
retired1 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Where my hat is Gender: Male Age: 49 Posts: 581	In what way are you professional needs not being met? 3.5 months on the job seems a bit short to be making huge expectations regarding career expectations. While 3.5 months on a resume may not be a red flag, the reason behind it would be. To me it would indicate impatience and a tendency to quit if I didn't get my way. While this may not be the case, perception is everything when it comes to that first interview. __________________ I drank WHAT?!!! -- Socrates

07-21-2009, 08:00 AM	#3
d24 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 1,064	make unreasonable demands if she tries to convince you to stay. if she says no, she'll stop trying to convince you if she says yes, you'll get that huge payrise you always wanted win win in my opinion. __________________ "You act as though you haven't seen trees bow to an unborn child before?"

07-21-2009, 08:22 AM	#5
shes2smart Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: same world, different server Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 5,140	What I'm not understanding is why you need to resign before you have a new job lined up....especially since you mention being concerned about being unemployed for an extended period of time. You haven't mentioned any extreme circumstances that would make sense for an immediate exit (such as they've asked you engage in illegal activities, or you're working with people who are mentally/physically abusive, or they've stiffed you on your pay), only that you're not happy with the work. Seems to me it would make more sense to hang out at your current job and keep collecting a check while you conduct a job search. If you hadn't tipped your hand about wanting to leave, you could've done that in relative peace, too. __________________ "But there's no use crying over every mistake You just keep on trying til you run out of cake"

07-21-2009, 08:36 AM	#6
karvala Online Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,330	Yeah, I'd second s2s's comment. If I were broke, had a job where the boss was trying to persuade me to stay, and had only been working there for 3 1/2 months, I'd need a VERY good reason to resign and become unemployed. General dissatisfaction certainly wouldn't cut it. By all means look for another, better, position, if you think you really can't make it work where you are, but walking out into unemployment without savings after just 3 1/2 months seems a bit on the reckless side. __________________ May you live all the days of your life Trying to heal from after a breakup? Perhaps you need Enhanced No Contact: http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?p=1438257

07-21-2009, 08:40 AM	#8
denise_14 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: somewhere here... Gender: Female Posts: 517	thanks for the replies... ^_^ retired1, i've thought of that too... 3.5 months is indeed short. guess i'll just need to come up with a really acceptable reason why i decided to leave too soon. at least i was honest and true to myself. I just couldn't seem to picture myself staying in this industry for long. i don't see the point of staying and forcing myself to do something that doesn't make me happy. tuxt and hike14, great ideas. unfortunately, the negotiations are not possible.. and it's not actually all about the pay. i can settle for a low paying job, as long as i get the sense of fulfillment and i'm passionate with what i do. i came from a financially stable family and money is a lesser concern. banking is really not my field. my academic qualifications and previous work record can attest to that. i hope this serves as a lesson to all jobseekers out there. stick to your passion. do what you do best. times are tough and sometimes, we resort to just settle for any available job, just so to have a job. still, know what you're getting into and be very critical. __________________ Absence does for love what the wind does for flame: it extinguishes the weak and feeds the strong...

07-21-2009, 08:46 AM	#9
denise_14 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: somewhere here... Gender: Female Posts: 517	btw, the temporary unemployment wouldn't really leave me broke... perhaps it would just mean i 'd need to cut down on unecessary things, like going out and excessive shopping. i've also started jobhunting prior to filing my resignation. i also gave them considerable time, one month notice, as a sign of courtesy. __________________ Absence does for love what the wind does for flame: it extinguishes the weak and feeds the strong...