How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner?

meepmeep20 · 07-07-2009, 09:10 AM

If you were, let's say, making 80k a year, would you date someone who is making 40k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and career?

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Does money and career really matter in establishing a life-long happy marriage?

mca1975 · 07-07-2009, 09:15 AM

I remember your posts regarding where you should be taken on a date and how much money should be spent on you, I think you are slightly obsessed with money tbh. Money doesn't mean NOTHING and I suppose you will learn that the hard way....and yes, I would date someone who earnt 40k a year if I made 80k, tsk....

LilBear · 07-07-2009, 09:20 AM

I'm finishing my BA Ed, while my bf has a diploma in hospitality management. So technically speaking I'm bound to earn more than he does. That doesn't matter to me. He is more ambitious than I am, and I believe he will excel in whatever he undertakes.

Women shouldn't mind men earning less than them and being less educated. Love shouldn't be based on money and status. As long as the man isn't with you just for you money, I don't see why that should matter so much.

**BlueAfterglow08** · 07-07-2009, 09:24 AM

Money and education arent the be all and end all. As long as i had a roof over my head clothes and food. I wouldnt care if they made ten grand a year and i made a hundred, as long as they were decent and treated me right.

A degree and money doesnt make you a better person, however, if you are after a certain type of lifestyle and money and status come before love I can see where your coming from.

EVeryones preferences in a partner are different. And shouldnt be judged.

Brisby · 07-07-2009, 09:25 AM

I'm kinda paranoid about money spending so I think the most important thing for me is to be with someone who is good with his own money and knows how to control himself. I don't make that much compared to some of my friends but they are hideously in debt because they constantly spend spend spend and live above their means. I couldn't be with a guy who was like that, it would just drive me nuts...no matter how much more or less money he made than me.

maverick554 · 07-07-2009, 09:25 AM

my ex made more than twice what I did because she was a college-grad and had a good job, and I was still in college finishing my degree; and I can honestly say that as numerous as our problems were money and career was never one of them.

Cognitive_Canine · 07-07-2009, 09:34 AM

My answer:

It depends.....

If the guy is willing to give up his career and let me be the sole breed winner for when we have kids....maybe.

If he is a very smart man who is doing something he loves and it just so happens to not be that profitable....maybe.

If he settled with a job he didn't like but has little ambition....no

If he began to mooch off me long before he was invited to join bank accounts....no

If he had poor spending habits....no

so...it depends.

Fionnuala · 07-07-2009, 09:37 AM

I don't think it's a big deal. Both of the guys I've been involved with were "less educated" than I am (I have a BA, and neither of them went to college). One of them made less money than I did and the other made more. But they were both extremely intelligent and motivated people, and I think that's what's important.

amipushy · 07-07-2009, 09:41 AM

I'm whats called a wealthy woman but I keep it to myself and put it to the back of my mind and just enjoy getting to know the person.. Sure, I would like them to afford to pay half on nice holidays, a home etc but I also have to be realistic that the men I meet are not going to have the wealth that I have. Anyhow, values and personality and things we have in common are far more important than money.

Qut81 · 07-07-2009, 09:44 AM

It depends. I dont need someone to be a millionaire or wealthy. I dont even need expensive dates etc. All I need to know is that someone has goals in life and wants to succeed. I can not be with a man who works at McDonalds and has no desire to go to school and better himself. I know that I am going to school and Im working for better things in life. I think it would be an uneven balance if I was with someone without the same drive for success.

07-07-2009, 09:10 AM	#1
meepmeep20 Offline Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: new jersey Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 237	How Important Is Money And Career In Choosing A Partner? If you were, let's say, making 80k a year, would you date someone who is making 40k? If you had a college education, would you date someone without one? What about you, women? How would you feel if your man was 'inferior' to you in both money and career? Stories? Does money and career really matter in establishing a life-long happy marriage?

07-07-2009, 09:15 AM	#2
mca1975 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: London Gender: Female Posts: 2,317	I remember your posts regarding where you should be taken on a date and how much money should be spent on you, I think you are slightly obsessed with money tbh. Money doesn't mean NOTHING and I suppose you will learn that the hard way....and yes, I would date someone who earnt 40k a year if I made 80k, tsk.... __________________ mca1975 x

07-07-2009, 09:24 AM	#4
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,256	Money and education arent the be all and end all. As long as i had a roof over my head clothes and food. I wouldnt care if they made ten grand a year and i made a hundred, as long as they were decent and treated me right. A degree and money doesnt make you a better person, however, if you are after a certain type of lifestyle and money and status come before love I can see where your coming from. EVeryones preferences in a partner are different. And shouldnt be judged. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

07-07-2009, 09:37 AM	#8
Fionnuala Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 281	I don't think it's a big deal. Both of the guys I've been involved with were "less educated" than I am (I have a BA, and neither of them went to college). One of them made less money than I did and the other made more. But they were both extremely intelligent and motivated people, and I think that's what's important. __________________ What if I had a thing on the side? Made you cry? Would the rules change up, Or would they still apply? What if I played you like a toy? Sometimes I wish I could act like a boy

07-07-2009, 09:20 AM	#3
LilBear Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Penang, Malaysia Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 719	I'm finishing my BA Ed, while my bf has a diploma in hospitality management. So technically speaking I'm bound to earn more than he does. That doesn't matter to me. He is more ambitious than I am, and I believe he will excel in whatever he undertakes. Women shouldn't mind men earning less than them and being less educated. Love shouldn't be based on money and status. As long as the man isn't with you just for you money, I don't see why that should matter so much.

07-07-2009, 09:25 AM	#5
Brisby Offline Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: midwest Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 98	I'm kinda paranoid about money spending so I think the most important thing for me is to be with someone who is good with his own money and knows how to control himself. I don't make that much compared to some of my friends but they are hideously in debt because they constantly spend spend spend and live above their means. I couldn't be with a guy who was like that, it would just drive me nuts...no matter how much more or less money he made than me.

07-07-2009, 09:25 AM	#6
maverick554 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 184	my ex made more than twice what I did because she was a college-grad and had a good job, and I was still in college finishing my degree; and I can honestly say that as numerous as our problems were money and career was never one of them.

07-07-2009, 09:34 AM	#7
Cognitive_Canine Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 11,351	My answer: It depends..... If the guy is willing to give up his career and let me be the sole breed winner for when we have kids....maybe. If he is a very smart man who is doing something he loves and it just so happens to not be that profitable....maybe. If he settled with a job he didn't like but has little ambition....no If he began to mooch off me long before he was invited to join bank accounts....no If he had poor spending habits....no so...it depends.

07-07-2009, 09:41 AM	#9
amipushy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 1,823	I'm whats called a wealthy woman but I keep it to myself and put it to the back of my mind and just enjoy getting to know the person.. Sure, I would like them to afford to pay half on nice holidays, a home etc but I also have to be realistic that the men I meet are not going to have the wealth that I have. Anyhow, values and personality and things we have in common are far more important than money.

07-07-2009, 09:44 AM	#10
Qut81 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,122	It depends. I dont need someone to be a millionaire or wealthy. I dont even need expensive dates etc. All I need to know is that someone has goals in life and wants to succeed. I can not be with a man who works at McDonalds and has no desire to go to school and better himself. I know that I am going to school and Im working for better things in life. I think it would be an uneven balance if I was with someone without the same drive for success.