Are you close with your siblings?

scared and alone · 07-06-2009, 12:52 AM

I do miss all of mine, despite us annoying each other when I lived with them lol. But i miss my older sister the most. Its funny what they say, you grow up with a sibling, a few years a part, hating each other and making each others life hell, but when you are adults, you are as close as best friends. I really miss my big sister. We talk on the phone a lot, but I do miss just seeing her in person and having here there physically, even though i was always so jealous and resentful of her growing up. Its funny but shes like one of the few relatives I have that I actually WANT to talk to on the phone.

hersmudders · 07-06-2009, 12:54 AM

My sister and I are 10 months apart. Growing up we HATED each other. Physical fights nonstop...she hated me b/c I interfered with her friends (who were all pretty much my friends b/c we were all the same age) and stuff liek that.

Now, we're very close. It took a few adult years to get close without arguing still but we're much better. She's having a baby in November and I'm moving down to where she is to be closer to her and the baby and her husband. We talk nearly every day in some form (text, phone, facebook).

onewithbooks · 07-06-2009, 01:06 AM

No. I have one brother and we are estranged.

Sometimes I think when I move to another city, I will just tell people I am an only child. It is certainly not far from the real truth.

secretness87 · 07-06-2009, 02:16 AM

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Originally Posted by onewithbooks

No. I have one brother and we are estranged.

Sometimes I think when I move to another city, I will just tell people I am an only child. It is certainly not far from the real truth.

Lol I feel the same way like this with my brother too. It's rather sad I think. We have nothing in common, he is kind of awkward and it's hard to talk to him. We'll be in the same room for hours and not say a word to each other.. we'll just do our own thing. It's sad actually. I'm jealous of my friends who are really close with their siblings because I don't think it's something my brother and I will ever have.

onewithbooks · 07-06-2009, 02:42 AM

My brother and I too have nothing in common, but there is such an animosity there that we cannot sit in the same room. For me he is toxic and that is not something I can have in my life.

jdpreacher · 07-06-2009, 12:31 PM

Hate them...every flipping one of them...and there are five, well, four left, one was murdered...one is in poor health and I'm kind of couting down the days until I get some time off paid.

Before you judge, there is a lot of backstory...they are breathing air that someone else could better use. Trust me, I'm a Preacher.

Preacher

Qut81 · 07-06-2009, 03:40 PM

No, but we try. My sister and I are just really different. Too different to have anything in common and shes extremely sensitive.

My half bros and I didnt talk at all until I emailed one of them. Wrote a thread about them...

anya · 07-07-2009, 09:21 AM

I consider myself close to both of my sisters, I like different aspects to each of them. We all try although they are not so close with each other.

Despite always bickering, the middle one and I were inseparable as youngsters but as teens we grew further apart. Now we only get together a few times a year and we don't really keep in close contact in between, but everytime we see each other we're able to reconnect easily and have fun. We respect our differences and are always there for each other when it matters.

We got on but with a four year gap, I never really connected with my older sister until I was 18. Now our families' are very close and see each other all the time.

sidehop · 07-10-2009, 02:22 PM

Absolutely, my one & only younger sister is far away. Did we fight a lot when we were younger

Now we're best friends of course.

WomanWriter · 07-10-2009, 09:05 PM

No, sadly.

My (half) sister is 10 years older than me and used to beat up on me growing up. Although we generally got along OK as adults (but not close and don't talk except during family dinners), she recently decided to "disown" my mom and brother (because they defended her son during an argument--she is abusive towards him). So I guess she disowned me too. My grandma has been trying to reach her and she won't respond. She's kind of psycho, to be honest. But it's really sad because my mom raised her son along with me and my brother so I hope I can still see my nephew--we're not super close, but I do love him and out of all of them, I'm closer to him than my siblings-- (my niece, on the other hand, is a horrid brat...but still sad we can't see her either).

My brother is a criminal, basically. We were starting to tolerate each other as adults, but he stole a lot of money and does other shady things that I can't respect. I can be civil to him at family gatherings, but that's about it.

I guess I'm the most emotionally healthy person in my family, although that isn't saying a lot because I can be depressive and anxious, although I'm working on those issues.
My siblings are just basketcases and extremely emotionally immature, manipulative, and ABUSIVE! They are also addicts.

My family is really screwed up...that's probably why I miss my ex's family so much...

07-06-2009, 12:52 AM	#1
scared and alone Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,207	Are you close with your siblings? I do miss all of mine, despite us annoying each other when I lived with them lol. But i miss my older sister the most. Its funny what they say, you grow up with a sibling, a few years a part, hating each other and making each others life hell, but when you are adults, you are as close as best friends. I really miss my big sister. We talk on the phone a lot, but I do miss just seeing her in person and having here there physically, even though i was always so jealous and resentful of her growing up. Its funny but shes like one of the few relatives I have that I actually WANT to talk to on the phone.

07-06-2009, 12:54 AM	#2
hersmudders Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: 6151 Richmond St, Miami, Florida Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 8,311	My sister and I are 10 months apart. Growing up we HATED each other. Physical fights nonstop...she hated me b/c I interfered with her friends (who were all pretty much my friends b/c we were all the same age) and stuff liek that. Now, we're very close. It took a few adult years to get close without arguing still but we're much better. She's having a baby in November and I'm moving down to where she is to be closer to her and the baby and her husband. We talk nearly every day in some form (text, phone, facebook). __________________ "yeah but i want a glow in the dark clone of my penis!!!!"--Epicproportion Spay or neuter your pets! Don't breed or buy while shelter animals die! Remember to click "helpful post" if something on a thread was helpful!

07-06-2009, 01:06 AM	#3
onewithbooks Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 1,586	No. I have one brother and we are estranged. Sometimes I think when I move to another city, I will just tell people I am an only child. It is certainly not far from the real truth. __________________ I sit alone and watch the clock Trying to collect my thoughts And all I think about is you If you Believe in me life is not always what it seems Believe in me Cause I was made for chasing dreams Believe in me I know you've waited for so long Believe in me Sometimes the weak become the strong

07-06-2009, 02:42 AM	#5
onewithbooks Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 1,586	My brother and I too have nothing in common, but there is such an animosity there that we cannot sit in the same room. For me he is toxic and that is not something I can have in my life. __________________ I sit alone and watch the clock Trying to collect my thoughts And all I think about is you If you Believe in me life is not always what it seems Believe in me Cause I was made for chasing dreams Believe in me I know you've waited for so long Believe in me Sometimes the weak become the strong

07-10-2009, 09:05 PM	#10
WomanWriter Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 1,414	No, sadly. My (half) sister is 10 years older than me and used to beat up on me growing up. Although we generally got along OK as adults (but not close and don't talk except during family dinners), she recently decided to "disown" my mom and brother (because they defended her son during an argument--she is abusive towards him). So I guess she disowned me too. My grandma has been trying to reach her and she won't respond. She's kind of psycho, to be honest. But it's really sad because my mom raised her son along with me and my brother so I hope I can still see my nephew--we're not super close, but I do love him and out of all of them, I'm closer to him than my siblings-- (my niece, on the other hand, is a horrid brat...but still sad we can't see her either). My brother is a criminal, basically. We were starting to tolerate each other as adults, but he stole a lot of money and does other shady things that I can't respect. I can be civil to him at family gatherings, but that's about it. I guess I'm the most emotionally healthy person in my family, although that isn't saying a lot because I can be depressive and anxious, although I'm working on those issues. My siblings are just basketcases and extremely emotionally immature, manipulative, and ABUSIVE! They are also addicts. My family is really screwed up...that's probably why I miss my ex's family so much... Last edited by WomanWriter; 07-10-2009 at 09:11 PM.

07-06-2009, 12:31 PM	#6
jdpreacher Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 132	Hate them...every flipping one of them...and there are five, well, four left, one was murdered...one is in poor health and I'm kind of couting down the days until I get some time off paid. Before you judge, there is a lot of backstory...they are breathing air that someone else could better use. Trust me, I'm a Preacher. Preacher

07-06-2009, 03:40 PM	#7
Qut81 Offline Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 1,122	No, but we try. My sister and I are just really different. Too different to have anything in common and shes extremely sensitive. My half bros and I didnt talk at all until I emailed one of them. Wrote a thread about them...

07-07-2009, 09:21 AM	#8
anya Online Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: uk Gender: None Specified Posts: 403	I consider myself close to both of my sisters, I like different aspects to each of them. We all try although they are not so close with each other. Despite always bickering, the middle one and I were inseparable as youngsters but as teens we grew further apart. Now we only get together a few times a year and we don't really keep in close contact in between, but everytime we see each other we're able to reconnect easily and have fun. We respect our differences and are always there for each other when it matters. We got on but with a four year gap, I never really connected with my older sister until I was 18. Now our families' are very close and see each other all the time.

07-10-2009, 02:22 PM	#9
sidehop Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: NH USA Gender: Male Posts: 1,599	Absolutely, my one & only younger sister is far away. Did we fight a lot when we were younger Now we're best friends of course.