I've been wondering why my ex avoids me at all costs. It's the weirdest thing ever and makes me feel SO bad.
Seriously, he avoids me like I'm the plague or the swine flu!
I would understand if I was a crazy stalker, who bad mouthed him or created scenes. However, for the past 5 months, I've only texted him twice, once in March and once in his birthday monday. He has texted me once and called on my birthday in April. Basically, we've been in quite strict NC considering we were eachother's best friend for 3 years.
When we first broke up in 2008 we maintained contact and would call eachother all the time. Seriously, anything and everything I needed, he'd be there and vice versa. Even when he started dating someone else, he'd drop her or anything to be with me, help me, talk to me.
After our bad split in february, things just changed SO much. In January, he would hold me and say that he could never, ever let me go even if he didn't want to date me because I had hurt him, that we had this surreal connection and where eachother's soulmate, best friend.
When he decided to take his new girlfriend seriously though, this completely changed. Of course it makes sense, because he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend knows how close we were and how he cared about me. I understand that. I respect that. Which is why I've been in almost complete NC and trying to respect them 100%.
However, it's been almost 6 months now and he is still avoiding contact with me.
I live in HIS hometown but throghout our relationship I got very close to his friends and their girlfriends. I love his friends and get along with them so well, but they are HIS childhood friends. However, on graduation parties, birthdays, gatherings, he just DOES NOT attend. He does NOT hangout with his friends anymore because their girlfriends are my best friends. I feel bad because it's like my presence, and I don't even go to these gatherings, but just my friend's presence makes him and his girlfriend uncomfortable.
I've been very good about this, in my opinion, so if it's one of the guy's thing, I don't go, and if it's one of the girl's thing, I do go.
Sunday is my closest friend's birthday (out of this group, but she's become one of my best friends) and she's having a very nice party. My ex loved this girl and is childhood best friend's with her boyfriend. She told me that her boyfriend is almost sure he's not going, because he's been so weird lately and don't even go to the guy's gatherings... So yeah, I got the e-mails of everyone confirming and he's the only of his group of 10 best friends that says "probably not, can't confirm".
It just makes me sad that it comes down to this you know??? I know I shouldn't care but I just feel bad... I haven't done anything to him or his relationship, so why does he "hates" me this much to avoid places that me or my friends will be?
Diplomatically, we are on good terms, I send a cold bday text on monday and he was very nice and replied thanking me, asking how I was, wishing me happiness as well... to which I didn't reply.
But I mean, actions speaks louder than words and when he avoids places, events, his friends because of ANY connection to me just makes me wonder why he just HATES me this much? Anyone have a similar situation?