She and I have been together for more than 4 years now. We love each other dearly, but I think she needs to make a few changes in the bedroom to spice things up a bit.
My g/f is a bit overweight, but I don't mind that at all since I am drawn to thick/curvy/voluptuous women. She wasn't blessed in the athletic department to say the least, and she has always been exercise-averse.
I wonder if this, sheer laziness, or a combination of both account for her sluggishness in bed.
When it comes to foreplay, she tends to be the only one on the receiving end. Yes, I might get an early handjob here and there, but that's about it. Aside from going down on her and fingering her, I massage and bite her all over.
Her favorite position is "woman on top," and it's usually the only one that induces orgasm in her. Once she's had her orgasm (and I haven't), things tend to go downhill from there. She doesn't enjoy going down on me because she claims she has a small mouth, and keeping the mouth open for a prolonged period of time "causes discomfort." She agrees to do it -- rather reluctantly I might add. However, lines like "Don't hold it in," "Are you close to c*mming?," "We have to go downstairs soon" follow, which all seem like ways of saying, "I came and am no longer in the mood -- hurry up and end this already."
Her and I have great sexual chemistry -- and she really does get into the missionary, riding and doggy positions. However, I sometimes feel as if scales are not balanced fairly when it comes to pleasing one another. I feel I do a lot more stuff to her than I get in return. I love to do those things, but she could probably step it up a few notches. She is the only girl with whom I have been intimate, so I cannot draw any type of comparison with a past lover.
Does my g/f sound as if she's lazy, selfish, or both? Has anyone experienced something similar? How should I go about dealing with this?