My own mom didn't realize why yesterday would be hard for me.

scared and alone · 06-22-2009, 10:23 PM

Fathers day. How nice :| I don't know why this is surprising to me. I kinda figured it wouldn't occur to her, but to hear her say that, kinda hurt. And before anyone asks why, i lost my father almost 10 years ago. I mean, even my bf's parents were worried about me yesterday, but my own mom didn't even think about it. sting.

**greensleeves** · 06-23-2009, 01:20 AM

I'm sorry that you had a tough day and that your Mom didn't acknowledge that it might be difficult for you. There's a good chance that it was an oversight on her part and she just wasn't thinking about how the day might affect you. I doubt that she intentionally meant to hurt you though.

scared and alone · 06-23-2009, 02:03 AM

well, my mom is very thoughtless, when it comes to her own kids. so i dont think she ever thinks about how something to do with dads could possibly get to me and my sister. in fact, she told me a story of this past weekend that really upset me, that has to do with another person losing their parent, but she didn't think about her own daughter.

**greensleeves** · 06-23-2009, 11:04 PM

I'm sorry. I know how hard it is, I lost my Dad when I was 21 amd I still get emotional about it sometimes and it's decades ago.

Everyone handles grief differently and maybe for your mom it's difficult to talk about. I know that in my ex's home their were nine children (all grown now), but his Dad died when he was a teenager. He was never spoken about, there were no pictures of him in the house...it like he never existed. His mom's a wonderful woman, but I think it was her way of coping because she was very angry that he had died.

I'm sorry that it feels that your Mom's thoughtless though, that must be very hard for you, but maybe it's just how she deals with it.

06-22-2009, 10:23 PM	#1
scared and alone Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,207	My own mom didn't realize why yesterday would be hard for me. Fathers day. How nice :\| I don't know why this is surprising to me. I kinda figured it wouldn't occur to her, but to hear her say that, kinda hurt. And before anyone asks why, i lost my father almost 10 years ago. I mean, even my bf's parents were worried about me yesterday, but my own mom didn't even think about it. sting.

06-23-2009, 01:20 AM	#2
greensleeves Online Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 2,941	I'm sorry that you had a tough day and that your Mom didn't acknowledge that it might be difficult for you. There's a good chance that it was an oversight on her part and she just wasn't thinking about how the day might affect you. I doubt that she intentionally meant to hurt you though. __________________ Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. Dalai Lama

06-23-2009, 11:04 PM	#4
greensleeves Online Super Moderator Join Date: Dec 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 2,941	I'm sorry. I know how hard it is, I lost my Dad when I was 21 amd I still get emotional about it sometimes and it's decades ago. Everyone handles grief differently and maybe for your mom it's difficult to talk about. I know that in my ex's home their were nine children (all grown now), but his Dad died when he was a teenager. He was never spoken about, there were no pictures of him in the house...it like he never existed. His mom's a wonderful woman, but I think it was her way of coping because she was very angry that he had died. I'm sorry that it feels that your Mom's thoughtless though, that must be very hard for you, but maybe it's just how she deals with it. __________________ Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. Dalai Lama

06-23-2009, 02:03 AM	#3
scared and alone Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 1,207	well, my mom is very thoughtless, when it comes to her own kids. so i dont think she ever thinks about how something to do with dads could possibly get to me and my sister. in fact, she told me a story of this past weekend that really upset me, that has to do with another person losing their parent, but she didn't think about her own daughter.