hormonal trust issues.

SamiJayne · 06-17-2009, 02:57 AM

I'm having a little problem I'm trying to sort by myself. During this pregnancy I'm finding it hard to trust my partner. If he just looks at a girl, I'm jealous. Obviously I don't loose it and tell him. I normally let it build up, and then we talk about it all. He's very supportive.

He seems to think its all because of the lies he's told. He thinks the whole situation is his fault. But I do agree to a point, because I'd have no reason to think what I think at the moment if he hadn't lied in the past. Which is SORTED completely... we delt with the lies and moved on. I've never been like this, only when I'm pregnant..

Yet here i am pregnant, and hormonal and all the emotions are here again. Grrr~

He offers to let me look at his pc, phone, email, bank statements, work email, etc. To try and make me feel better and trust him.

I don't want too. I want to trust him. I want that back. So I tell him if I don't look I won't be adding fuel to my little problem.

Is that best to deal with it? By just talking to the things I keep thinking, him reasuring me.. I refuse to be the girl who has to check everything on her boyfriend.

When I'm feeling "fine" like now.. I'm embarrassed by the way i am, and can't believe I think or feel the way I do. My partners amazing, we have ups and downs but I have no right to think the way I do.

top bloke · 06-17-2009, 03:08 AM

Its ok. I worry if my wife didnt get a little jealous sometimes. Also now that you are having a baby its normal for certain behaviours to change. It is understandable. Also yes you are dealing with it well by discussing it with him and not creating mistrust by looking at everything too close..hope this helps

06-17-2009, 02:57 AM	#1
SamiJayne Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 594	hormonal trust issues. I'm having a little problem I'm trying to sort by myself. During this pregnancy I'm finding it hard to trust my partner. If he just looks at a girl, I'm jealous. Obviously I don't loose it and tell him. I normally let it build up, and then we talk about it all. He's very supportive. He seems to think its all because of the lies he's told. He thinks the whole situation is his fault. But I do agree to a point, because I'd have no reason to think what I think at the moment if he hadn't lied in the past. Which is SORTED completely... we delt with the lies and moved on. I've never been like this, only when I'm pregnant.. Yet here i am pregnant, and hormonal and all the emotions are here again. Grrr~ He offers to let me look at his pc, phone, email, bank statements, work email, etc. To try and make me feel better and trust him. I don't want too. I want to trust him. I want that back. So I tell him if I don't look I won't be adding fuel to my little problem. Is that best to deal with it? By just talking to the things I keep thinking, him reasuring me.. I refuse to be the girl who has to check everything on her boyfriend. When I'm feeling "fine" like now.. I'm embarrassed by the way i am, and can't believe I think or feel the way I do. My partners amazing, we have ups and downs but I have no right to think the way I do.

06-17-2009, 03:08 AM	#2
top bloke Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 41 Posts: 2,057	Its ok. I worry if my wife didnt get a little jealous sometimes. Also now that you are having a baby its normal for certain behaviours to change. It is understandable. Also yes you are dealing with it well by discussing it with him and not creating mistrust by looking at everything too close..hope this helps __________________ You have choices!