2 People with ADD/ADHD a Good couple?

Funstuff · 06-14-2009, 09:46 PM

Alright well.
Now This is going to be pretty lengthy and confusing, im kinda all over the place about it, just warning you ahead of time.
Alright im 18 years old, Just finished first year university, my girlfriend of 7 months, is 16 almost 17 and still in high school.
We Both have OCD / ADD, by the looks of it. Im diagnosed with Both and she seems to have all the symptoms of both.

We Both find it EXTREMLEY hard to trust people, WE Both are VERY clingy / Attached which is amazing, We Both Are Snoopy / Curious (As in like we've both went on each other facebook's and checked stuff out, sounds stupid i know )
We are both fine with it though because we know the feeling, and that i don't think its invasion of privacy i understand and so does she.
One problem is though, I am very very, good at manipulating, and Lying.
She is good at using guilt to her advantage and lying.
We both have cheated in the past.
she Had only pecked someone, iv cheated and went all the way.
We both can handle guilt very easily.

And i worry, Is that going to happen to us? I Don't want to cheat because i feel as if i really love her, we connect more than i have with any girlfriend, she understands me. and vice versa.

She has the same flaws as me, and i HATE my flaws with a passion. I Don't want to be lied too and such.

I am in Therapy and on Anti-depressents and medication for ADD to help me control it, She is not. so i am worried that the impulsiveness will cause her to cheat of me, and the fact she can lie and handle guilt will prevent her from telling me.

We are both VERY VERY attached to each other.

FireInHeaven · 06-14-2009, 09:59 PM

Sorry, but ADD/ADHD is a farse. It's a disease that's only diagnosed by opinion and not by any real scientific test.

And, Manipulating has nothing to do with ADD (even if it were real.) It seems like you are blaming your relationship problems on these mental problems. Stop thinking it's something you can't control and actually work on it.

And, you may want to check into getting off those anti depressants. They could be contributing to the problem.

jettison · 06-14-2009, 10:04 PM

I thought I knew what you were talking about half way through this, and then I got distracted by this noise coming from my downstairs neigbors, and I couldn't finish it. Ok, let me go back...

... Ok, I think I get it. I... holy smokes, a BEEEE!!!! That could have stung me if I weren't careful. What was your problem again? Let me go back and read the title. ADD. Hmmm. ADD x2. Hmmmm.

I'd say that the only "good" that could come out of it would be that it might be difficult to stay mad at each other because you'll forget why you were mad, and you can be understanding of each other's communication deficiences because you'll frustrate each other equally.

Funstuff · 06-14-2009, 10:12 PM

...?

And I can't get off my anti-depressents, I need them for my OCD and Analytical Depression. So I would not know how they are contributing.

sarey · 06-14-2009, 10:27 PM

I think two people with ADD/ADHD to be a couple is possible, I think you'll find more support and feedback here;
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HeartGoesOn · 06-14-2009, 10:30 PM

How do you know if she has ADD/ADHD? Has she been diagnosed by a professional?

06-14-2009, 09:46 PM	#1
Funstuff Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 321	2 People with ADD/ADHD a Good couple? Alright well. Now This is going to be pretty lengthy and confusing, im kinda all over the place about it, just warning you ahead of time. Alright im 18 years old, Just finished first year university, my girlfriend of 7 months, is 16 almost 17 and still in high school. We Both have OCD / ADD, by the looks of it. Im diagnosed with Both and she seems to have all the symptoms of both. We Both find it EXTREMLEY hard to trust people, WE Both are VERY clingy / Attached which is amazing, We Both Are Snoopy / Curious (As in like we've both went on each other facebook's and checked stuff out, sounds stupid i know ) We are both fine with it though because we know the feeling, and that i don't think its invasion of privacy i understand and so does she. One problem is though, I am very very, good at manipulating, and Lying. She is good at using guilt to her advantage and lying. We both have cheated in the past. she Had only pecked someone, iv cheated and went all the way. We both can handle guilt very easily. And i worry, Is that going to happen to us? I Don't want to cheat because i feel as if i really love her, we connect more than i have with any girlfriend, she understands me. and vice versa. She has the same flaws as me, and i HATE my flaws with a passion. I Don't want to be lied too and such. I am in Therapy and on Anti-depressents and medication for ADD to help me control it, She is not. so i am worried that the impulsiveness will cause her to cheat of me, and the fact she can lie and handle guilt will prevent her from telling me. We are both VERY VERY attached to each other.

06-14-2009, 10:04 PM	#3
jettison Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: West Bay Posts: 4,969	I thought I knew what you were talking about half way through this, and then I got distracted by this noise coming from my downstairs neigbors, and I couldn't finish it. Ok, let me go back... ... Ok, I think I get it. I... holy smokes, a BEEEE!!!! That could have stung me if I weren't careful. What was your problem again? Let me go back and read the title. ADD. Hmmm. ADD x2. Hmmmm. I'd say that the only "good" that could come out of it would be that it might be difficult to stay mad at each other because you'll forget why you were mad, and you can be understanding of each other's communication deficiences because you'll frustrate each other equally. __________________ A unique opportunity... If you were at the deathbed of a woman you secretly loved all your life but whom you never had the courage to tell and then she tells you that she secretly loved you all these years, what a great opportunity that would be to practice your "poker face." "I wish someone knew me. I’d pick them apart and find out who I am." - Equestrian Dynamo

06-14-2009, 10:30 PM	#6
HeartGoesOn Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Massachusetts Gender: Female Posts: 2,660	How do you know if she has ADD/ADHD? Has she been diagnosed by a professional? __________________ ~ Promise me that you'll give faith a fighting chance, And when you get the chance to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance... I hope you dance. ~

06-14-2009, 09:59 PM	#2
FireInHeaven Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Devil Lake Sanitarium Gender: Female Posts: 174	Sorry, but ADD/ADHD is a farse. It's a disease that's only diagnosed by opinion and not by any real scientific test. And, Manipulating has nothing to do with ADD (even if it were real.) It seems like you are blaming your relationship problems on these mental problems. Stop thinking it's something you can't control and actually work on it. And, you may want to check into getting off those anti depressants. They could be contributing to the problem.

06-14-2009, 10:12 PM	#4
Funstuff Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 321	...? And I can't get off my anti-depressents, I need them for my OCD and Analytical Depression. So I would not know how they are contributing.

06-14-2009, 10:27 PM	#5
sarey Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: In the UK, somewhere... Gender: Female Posts: 1,438	I think two people with ADD/ADHD to be a couple is possible, I think you'll find more support and feedback here; [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]