Tired of feeling unappreciated overworked & unloved?

[outrelationshi]

I am currently in a common law relationship for twelve years now. We have a ten year old daughter. I have two kids from a previous marriage. I work full-time evening hours feeling very deprived from quality time with my kids. I have to yell constantly at my spouse to do anything around the house. He claims he's always tired from work or feels sick!!!! So I end up doing 80% of housework and my kids 15% and I will give him the last 5%. He never gives me a compliment or tells me he cares. I was packing to leave a month a go and he went and bought me a dozen roses and told me he didn't want his family to leave. But on the other hand he has not made any improvements yet. I must be really blind just wondering how many women out there are going through the same thing out there?

[John Bendix]

Originally Posted by outrelationshi

I am currently in a common law relationship for twelve years now. We have a ten year old daughter. I have two kids from a previous marriage. I work full-time evening hours feeling very deprived from quality time with my kids. I have to yell constantly at my spouse to do anything around the house. He claims he's always tired from work or feels sick!!!! So I end up doing 80% of housework and my kids 15% and I will give him the last 5%. He never gives me a compliment or tells me he cares. I was packing to leave a month a go and he went and bought me a dozen roses and told me he didn't want his family to leave. But on the other hand he has not made any improvements yet. I must be really blind just wondering how many women out there are going through the same thing out there?

There are many. And there are many divorces out there that have been caused by what you feel is going on in your life. The anger you are showing (yelling at your spouse) may be the beginning of a series of intense emotional reactions. At this point, I would guess that both of you have withdrawn from each other to some degree. This may be done by both parties in emotional self defense.

Communication, in a meaningful way, is the key to any and all relationships. When the resentment (from numerous sources) builds, the communication between the couple futther breaks down. If not recognized and acted on by both parties, the relationship can completely breakdown.

Do yourself a favor and go to divorcebusting.com for a better insight into the dynamic that you are dealing with.

[90_hour_sleep]

Originally Posted by John Bendix

There are many. And there are many divorces out there that have been caused by what you feel is going on in your life. The anger you are showing (yelling at your spouse) may be the beginning of a series of intense emotional reactions. At this point, I would guess that both of you have withdrawn from each other to some degree. This may be done by both parties in emotional self defense.

Communication, in a meaningful way, is the key to any and all relationships. When the resentment (from numerous sources) builds, the communication between the couple futther breaks down. If not recognized and acted on by both parties, the relationship can completely breakdown.

Do yourself a favor and go to divorcebusting.com for a better insight into the dynamic that you are dealing with.

many here will testify to that fact. i know i will. what a horrible feeling to be caught in a torrent of resentment over a person that you love.

sorry to hear you're going through this.