Do I tell him I have Social Anxiety disorder?

shoppingGirl · 05-18-2009, 06:08 PM

I just started talking to a guy online and he lives nearby and we have a lot in common...he asked me on a date. The problem is I don't know if I should be honest about my anxiety condition. It has really disabled me from functioning normaly in some areas of my life...like working and meeting new people. I think I can go on the date ok...but I am on disability for the anxiety and panic attacks. He asked me what i did for work and I told him I am a CNA which is what I was before I was diagnosed with the disorder. He thinks I work...and I feel bad because I lied about it. But if I tell him it will scare him off most likely. What to do?

Ruede · 05-18-2009, 06:13 PM

That's tough. I think you should tell him the truth; it's not right to start lying, just because you never know where you'll end up if you do. I wonder if he can ease you into meeting? Maybe you can have a phone call?

ellandroader · 05-18-2009, 06:15 PM

Hey,

I suffer from it too and I think you should be honest...these kinds of things need to be known in order to clear up any potential misunderstandings. I told my ex early on and she accepted it, and I think she appreciated me telling her.

Good Luck!

ghost69 · 05-19-2009, 10:21 AM

i think you should tell him. it might actually help with your disorder of being so anxious and scared to socialize.

mfan · 05-19-2009, 11:17 AM

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Originally Posted by ghost69

i think you should tell him. it might actually help with your disorder of being so anxious and scared to socialize.

Agree completely with this.

gary1958 · 05-19-2009, 12:11 PM

funny post.... I was in a 2 year relationship with someone who had Panic/Anxiety disorder. Although I saw crazy things right from the getgo, She didnt inform me of her condition until a full year into the relationship. Oh yeah and her meds were in the glovebox of her car...she didnt like the side affects. She left me 2 years later in panic mode over some perceived slight. I often think back now, 2 years later and wonder if it would have been different, her telling me and me understanding the situation.

05-18-2009, 06:08 PM	#1
shoppingGirl Offline Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 360	Do I tell him I have Social Anxiety disorder? I just started talking to a guy online and he lives nearby and we have a lot in common...he asked me on a date. The problem is I don't know if I should be honest about my anxiety condition. It has really disabled me from functioning normaly in some areas of my life...like working and meeting new people. I think I can go on the date ok...but I am on disability for the anxiety and panic attacks. He asked me what i did for work and I told him I am a CNA which is what I was before I was diagnosed with the disorder. He thinks I work...and I feel bad because I lied about it. But if I tell him it will scare him off most likely. What to do? __________________ You know your in love when you can't sleep because reality is better than your dreams...

05-18-2009, 06:15 PM	#3
ellandroader Offline Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Yorkshireman trapped in Florida...Summer home, a Cylon Basestar Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 986	Hey, I suffer from it too and I think you should be honest...these kinds of things need to be known in order to clear up any potential misunderstandings. I told my ex early on and she accepted it, and I think she appreciated me telling her. Good Luck! __________________ http://northern-grit.blogspot.com/ Feel free to visit... "Fight when others fold, pursue when others retreat, conquer when others quit and make right when all else is wrong" "How can you know where I am headed when you don't know where I have been?" "It is more shameful to deny fear, than it is to run from danger...."

05-19-2009, 10:21 AM	#4
ghost69 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Desert Gender: Male Posts: 33,424	i think you should tell him. it might actually help with your disorder of being so anxious and scared to socialize. __________________ Not only am I friendly, but I'm invisible too. Too perfect of a relationship is too weird-g69 If you say you are normal, I'd think you are weird-g69 The world can only get better, it depends on how you look at it-g69 'As wicked as you are, you're beautiful to me'-5fingerdeathpunch you cannot control the world, you can only live in it the best you can for you-g69 NooOoOoooOOoOoOoooooo

05-18-2009, 06:13 PM	#2
Ruede Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 255	That's tough. I think you should tell him the truth; it's not right to start lying, just because you never know where you'll end up if you do. I wonder if he can ease you into meeting? Maybe you can have a phone call?

05-19-2009, 12:11 PM	#6
gary1958 Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 196	funny post.... I was in a 2 year relationship with someone who had Panic/Anxiety disorder. Although I saw crazy things right from the getgo, She didnt inform me of her condition until a full year into the relationship. Oh yeah and her meds were in the glovebox of her car...she didnt like the side affects. She left me 2 years later in panic mode over some perceived slight. I often think back now, 2 years later and wonder if it would have been different, her telling me and me understanding the situation.