What to do about gym class?

Victoria66 · 04-20-2009, 10:19 AM

It is a school policy in my son's school that you must wear the official school gym uniform during PT class. He has one, I make sure it is in the bag HOWEVER, he refuses to wear it. He has said he is not changing in front of other students. Now I admire his modesty and his teacher has decided to not pick a point with him about it, but that is not saying next year's teacher will feel the same. Should I talk to the teacher and see if arrangements can be made for him to change someplace else? I really feel he should wear the gym uniform if that is what is required, he should follow the rules like the other kids.

waveseer · 04-20-2009, 10:23 AM

Can he wear the uniform under his clothing?

Victoria66 · 04-20-2009, 10:26 AM

I am not sure he would do that R2H, he has really big sensory issues to fabric, it is an exercise just to get socks on his feet in the morning, if they are NOT right (whatever that means) we have hissy fits. I am not sure if he would go for that but I can try.

**annie24** · 04-20-2009, 10:27 AM

can he go to the bathroom in the locker room and change in there? that's what i would tell him to do.

waveseer · 04-20-2009, 10:28 AM

I have the sock think too, so I can understand where he's coming from. One school of thought would be to offer him a choice. Either wear the uniform under his clothing or change in front of others.

Dako · 04-20-2009, 10:30 AM

Catering to him can turn him into the butt of jokes, since many of the other kids are also shy about their bodies and see him as a way to deflect attention.

He'll probably suffer less if he grits his teeth and conforms.

Victoria66 · 04-20-2009, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by ready2heal

I have the sock think too, so I can understand where he's coming from. One school of thought would be to offer him a choice. Either wear the uniform under his clothing or change in front of others.

Yeah, if I was there that is what would happen.....LOL........once he is out of my sight that is another matter

the little begger.

Victoria66 · 04-20-2009, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by annie24

can he go to the bathroom in the locker room and change in there? that's what i would tell him to do.

Public bathrooms make him CRINGE, he has a thing about public washrooms.

Victoria66 · 04-20-2009, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Dako

Catering to him can turn him into the butt of jokes, since many of the other kids are also shy about their bodies and see him as a way to deflect attention.

He'll probably suffer less if he grits his teeth and conforms.

Yes, I think he should conform, however trying to be sensitive to his needs as well as he has sensory issues ,OCD and high functioning Autism. It is hard to strike a balance there, between following the rules and pushing TOO hard. He is not made fun of now he goes to a very small school with kids he has been to school with since he was 3. They have also been read the riot act by the Principal that nothing of that nature will happen in that class. I know he has been made fun of before because he is a very thin child and always has been and this may be part of it.

**annie24** · 04-20-2009, 10:35 AM

have you told him that all the other kids are changing in front of each other, and that there is nothing to be ashamed of! everyone has the same parts...

04-20-2009, 10:19 AM	#1
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	What to do about gym class? It is a school policy in my son's school that you must wear the official school gym uniform during PT class. He has one, I make sure it is in the bag HOWEVER, he refuses to wear it. He has said he is not changing in front of other students. Now I admire his modesty and his teacher has decided to not pick a point with him about it, but that is not saying next year's teacher will feel the same. Should I talk to the teacher and see if arrangements can be made for him to change someplace else? I really feel he should wear the gym uniform if that is what is required, he should follow the rules like the other kids. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

04-20-2009, 10:23 AM	#2
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,062	Can he wear the uniform under his clothing? __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

04-20-2009, 10:26 AM	#3
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	I am not sure he would do that R2H, he has really big sensory issues to fabric, it is an exercise just to get socks on his feet in the morning, if they are NOT right (whatever that means) we have hissy fits. I am not sure if he would go for that but I can try. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

04-20-2009, 10:28 AM	#5
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,062	I have the sock think too, so I can understand where he's coming from. One school of thought would be to offer him a choice. Either wear the uniform under his clothing or change in front of others. __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

04-20-2009, 10:27 AM	#4
annie24 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	can he go to the bathroom in the locker room and change in there? that's what i would tell him to do.

04-20-2009, 10:30 AM	#6
Dako Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Gender: None Specified Posts: 9,113	Catering to him can turn him into the butt of jokes, since many of the other kids are also shy about their bodies and see him as a way to deflect attention. He'll probably suffer less if he grits his teeth and conforms.

04-20-2009, 10:35 AM	#10
annie24 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	have you told him that all the other kids are changing in front of each other, and that there is nothing to be ashamed of! everyone has the same parts...