Dependent personality disorder causing me to cheat my diet.

[Luke Skywalker]

...the methods of cheating on my diet are getting more tricky. I wont buy sugar foods myself. However, I'll ask my mother to buy it for me if we are shopping together. That way, I feel I have my mother's endorsement or permission to eat the "sugar" product and feel less guilty about eating it, but then kick myself very hard for eating it.



Case 1: Last Friday. Health Food Store. There was a store coupon where you would get a sticker if you spent $ 50.00 in groceries. The bill came up to $ 46.00. Needed a $ 5.00 item to get a coupon. Naturally, I would think of Goats Milk Ice-cream. I got my mom to buy this for me.

The whole ice-cream, 1 litre, was consumed within 2 days. About 100 grams of fat, at least 64 grams of saturated fat, were consumed.

Case 2: Today, some old family friends and my mom and I went to Red Lobster to eat. When it was desert time I ordered a lava cookie and ice-cream. Again, since I got my mother to pay for the desert I felt like she endorsed it and gave me permission to eat it...and I ate the cookie, but felt very, very bad afterwards.

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I'm not sure how I can expect a reader to answer this. Basically, I want to shift the blame to my mother for eating sweets, potentially getting more overweight, and diabeities, and say, I love eating sweets, but if anything goes wrong, my mom gave me permission to eat these sweets.


I think this is a manifestation of a 'dependent personality disorder' syndrome.
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Although I'm not officially diagnosed, I feel some of this criteria is especially present here.

My mom caves in whenever I tell her I want something sweet to eat. It's like my heart is totally into it, and she feels she has to buy it for me. I feel like I won the right to eat some sweet stuff that's a violation with my diet because she bought it.

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Also: I'm going to the gym and exercising, giving me the feeling like I can have some slack with the sugar, but will talk to my personal trainer about that later.

[Dako]

At what age do you live without Mother's permission?

[Mousty]

What are your reasons for swearing off sugar so religiously in the first place?
Why is it so much better than to allow yourself to have some in reasonable quantities ex: half a cup of ice cream per day?
If you allowed it to yourself, then you wouldn't be in "violation" now would you? =P

[Luke Skywalker]

Originally Posted by Dako

At what age do you live without Mother's permission?

I would say age 14. I'm 33 years old. Therefore it would have to be a personality disorder to need to have her permission about anything, especially what I'm eating.

I have to have a dependent personality disorder if I require my mother's permission before eating sugar substances thinking that will absolve me of guilt.

[jenny_mcs]

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

Also: I'm going to the gym and exercising, giving me the feeling like I can have some slack with the sugar, but will talk to my personal trainer about that later.

OK, I'm not going to comment on the mom stuff, because I don't really know what to say. But, as far as the quote I pulled out above... a lot of people make this mistake when they start to work out. If you are trying to lose weight, 90% of it will be through changing your diet.

Working out a few times a week does not give you license to go hog wild with food. For example, a 180 lb person jogging for 30 minutes burns about 350-400 calories. 2 scoops of ice cream has about 500-600 calories.

Regularly eating foods like ice cream will kill any progress you are making by working out.

[Dako]

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

I would say age 14. I'm 33 years old. Therefore it would have to be a personality disorder to need to have her permission about anything, especially what I'm eating.

I have to have a dependent personality disorder if I require my mother's permission before eating sugar substances thinking that will absolve me of guilt.

I see. Makes sense to me.
You're on to something, Luke.

[Luke Skywalker]

Originally Posted by Mousty

What are your reasons for swearing off sugar so religiously in the first place?
Why is it so much better than to allow yourself to have some in reasonable quantities ex: half a cup of ice cream per day?
If you allowed it to yourself, then you wouldn't be in "violation" now would you? =P

The reasons for swearing it off is I've been fighting to keep my weight in line to about 215 lbs, right now it's 216lbs, and I'm one pound over my target weight. The recent sugar consumptions may throw me further back.

Secondly, I have not got a blood test in about a year. I have to be tested annually to ensure I don't have any insuline resistance or pre-diabities. It's sort of a phobia I have right now. Last year I got tested and I didn't have any problems.

I've know of people who have died from diebeties or who have a hard life because they have diebeties. Since I like sugar, this is viewed as a health-hazard. Also, cravings for sugar could be caused due to symptoms of yeast infection. That too will have to be investigated.

Right now I consider myself to be at war against sugar and salt until a blood test is taken. I intend to take a blood test sometime this week. If I'm cleared, then it would be a weight issue. I'm going to the gym regularly with intense work-outs to burn up some of the calories I have consumed.

Ideally, if I don't have any diebeties or risk towards that, and it's not having an impact on my weight, and I am getting regular exercise, then I won't care.

I've failed myself with the ice-cream and don't think I have any self-control. If I buy a bag of potatoe chips, I just much it all down, initially promising to stop later, until I eat too much, then I think the damage is already done and I may as well just eat the rest. I get emotions, or feel unstable when there is sugar or carbs in the environment and feel I have to munch on something. Buying these things are no longer an option since I have chronically shown patterns that I lack discretionary powers of self-control.

[Luke Skywalker]

I'm going to drink dandialion tea -- that should help stimulate the liver to make bile which will break down the fat. A laxative may be going too far.
Also, I'm taking pro-biotics to add more healthy bacteria to the intestines, hoping this will reduce sugar cravings and will obviously try to drink more water. Lethigin (a fat emulsifier) will also be taken to assist in the break-down of fat of the substances I've just taken.

[Lowconfidence]

Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

The reasons for swearing it off is I've been fighting to keep my weight in line to about 215 lbs, right now it's 216lbs, and I'm one pound over my target weight. The recent sugar consumptions may throw me further back.

Out of curiousity, how tall are you? And are you strong for someone that weight? Can you do chin-ups?

[Luke Skywalker]

Originally Posted by Lowconfidence

Out of curiousity, how tall are you? And are you strong for someone that weight? Can you do chin-ups?

About 5'11 - 6 feet tall. I'm working on building my muscles at the gym.
I can not comfortably do complete chin-ups.