Smoking and drinking

FriendnorFoe · 04-18-2009, 07:42 PM

I have found I dont really enjoy smoking(pot) or drinking much anymore. It seems like anytime I do I freak out, think way too much and get kinda depressed about my breaking up situation, its like day 1 or NC every time all over. Even if I am with my friends, I become distant and off in my head away from what conversation they are having so I deceided I jsut cant do it anymore,Has any one else experience anything similar?

Binoo · 04-18-2009, 07:46 PM

Yes. With alcohol, it generally depends who I'm with but I find most of the time, I become very depressed. Same thing with any other drug I've tried.
I don't do any of them. So, I don't have to worry about it.

vertigoxo · 04-18-2009, 07:48 PM

Quit doing drugs, dude. That's all there is to it.

LemonCheesecak · 04-18-2009, 07:52 PM

I told myself back at the start of the month I was cutting out the alcohol entirely, it was the low the next day I hated, even if I'd had a fantastic carefree night. It's proving difficult though when I'm trying to be more social and do more things with friends and they're all drinking, coaxing me to have one. Which leads to two, etc etc etc.

FriendnorFoe · 04-18-2009, 07:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vertigoxo

Quit doing drugs, dude. That's all there is to it.

I posted this to see if anybody had any similar experiences, also later I did say I didnt feel like doing it anymore, I never was a big drinker jsut occasionaly might have a couple of beers so I dont really appreciate you talking down to me like a drug addict or somethin. I have younger brothers older than you that were heroine addicts and it destroyed their lives as well as my parents, I think I learned some valuable lessons there, so I dont really need advice or a pep talk from a 18 year old girl, thanks

vertigoxo · 04-18-2009, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by FriendnorFoe

I posted this to see if anybody had any similar experiences, also later I did say I didnt feel like doing it anymore, I never was a big drinker jsut occasionaly might have a couple of beers so I dont really appreciate you talking down to me like a drug addict or somethin. I have younger brothers older than you that were heroine addicts and it destroyed their lives as well as my parents, I think I learned some valuable lessons there, so I dont really need advice or a pep talk from a 18 year old girl, thanks

Woah there. I have never intended to write out my response as a way of talking down on you in any way at all. All I'm saying is to just quit doing those things, it just won't help you at a time like this. I mean, people are hitting the bottles just because they think it will take away all the pain... It might, just only temporary, then you're back to square one.

Oh brilliant idea, pointing fingers at my age. Good job, with that attitude you'll go very far in life. Sorry for being brutal, but I really do hate it when people turn to ageism to get another person down.

PS. I am terribly sorry for your brothers and your parents. Truly.

FriendnorFoe · 04-18-2009, 08:25 PM

lessons in life are based more off experience than intuition, and as far as your age is concerned I wasnt putting you down, just most people at 18 at 19 usually dont have too much in this department, no offense. your mom will tell you not to touch the stove cause youll get burned, but you wont know what burned is until you touched the stove, thats how I see it. I dunno you very well could be mature for your age, whatever thats fine, didnt mean to make a general assumption but your post did come off kinda offensive to me even though that might have not been its intention, I just have had alotta heartache, lessons and death when it comes to drug addictions with friends and family.

under_my_amberella · 04-18-2009, 08:31 PM

I often agree with you when it comes to younger persons posting advice, especially when it's someone several years younger than me who's never had a long term relationship and is posting marriage advice.

However, on this forum, any such remarks are not well received. Better to ignore the age and take posts based on their merit. Hard to do, I know.

Regarding your situation, I think you should explain to your friends how you feel so that either they will break out the beers and pot less often, perhaps take you out to catch a game or get some fresh air instead, or at least they will understand when you get that distant look in your eyes.

(I've never really experienced that so can't give any direct experiences, sorry)

itsallgrand · 04-18-2009, 09:26 PM

Yes, that was how it was for me too.

I went from smoking pot pretty much every day and enjoying partying on the weekends, to all of a sudden one week deciding "I'm done".

It just wasn't fun anymore, and made me feel worse. Especially the pot.

Haven't looked back and don't feel like it is a sacrifice at all. Honestly don't miss it.

waveseer · 04-18-2009, 09:29 PM

I spent 9 years trying to stay mind-altered and it led me absolutely nowhere fast. These days I am trying to conserve every last working brain cell, lol.

04-18-2009, 07:42 PM	#1
FriendnorFoe Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: USA Gender: Male Posts: 449	Smoking and drinking I have found I dont really enjoy smoking(pot) or drinking much anymore. It seems like anytime I do I freak out, think way too much and get kinda depressed about my breaking up situation, its like day 1 or NC every time all over. Even if I am with my friends, I become distant and off in my head away from what conversation they are having so I deceided I jsut cant do it anymore,Has any one else experience anything similar? __________________ "Nobody loves no one." Chris Isaak

04-18-2009, 08:25 PM	#7
FriendnorFoe Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: USA Gender: Male Posts: 449	lessons in life are based more off experience than intuition, and as far as your age is concerned I wasnt putting you down, just most people at 18 at 19 usually dont have too much in this department, no offense. your mom will tell you not to touch the stove cause youll get burned, but you wont know what burned is until you touched the stove, thats how I see it. I dunno you very well could be mature for your age, whatever thats fine, didnt mean to make a general assumption but your post did come off kinda offensive to me even though that might have not been its intention, I just have had alotta heartache, lessons and death when it comes to drug addictions with friends and family. __________________ "Nobody loves no one." Chris Isaak

04-18-2009, 09:29 PM	#10
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,062	I spent 9 years trying to stay mind-altered and it led me absolutely nowhere fast. These days I am trying to conserve every last working brain cell, lol. __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

04-18-2009, 07:46 PM	#2
Binoo Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 525	Yes. With alcohol, it generally depends who I'm with but I find most of the time, I become very depressed. Same thing with any other drug I've tried. I don't do any of them. So, I don't have to worry about it.

04-18-2009, 07:48 PM	#3
vertigoxo Online Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 2,034	Quit doing drugs, dude. That's all there is to it.

04-18-2009, 07:52 PM	#4
LemonCheesecak Offline Silver Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: United Kingdom Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 427	I told myself back at the start of the month I was cutting out the alcohol entirely, it was the low the next day I hated, even if I'd had a fantastic carefree night. It's proving difficult though when I'm trying to be more social and do more things with friends and they're all drinking, coaxing me to have one. Which leads to two, etc etc etc.

04-18-2009, 08:31 PM	#8
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	I often agree with you when it comes to younger persons posting advice, especially when it's someone several years younger than me who's never had a long term relationship and is posting marriage advice. However, on this forum, any such remarks are not well received. Better to ignore the age and take posts based on their merit. Hard to do, I know. Regarding your situation, I think you should explain to your friends how you feel so that either they will break out the beers and pot less often, perhaps take you out to catch a game or get some fresh air instead, or at least they will understand when you get that distant look in your eyes. (I've never really experienced that so can't give any direct experiences, sorry)

04-18-2009, 09:26 PM	#9
itsallgrand Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: following my grace... Gender: None Specified Posts: 6,783	Yes, that was how it was for me too. I went from smoking pot pretty much every day and enjoying partying on the weekends, to all of a sudden one week deciding "I'm done". It just wasn't fun anymore, and made me feel worse. Especially the pot. Haven't looked back and don't feel like it is a sacrifice at all. Honestly don't miss it.