anyone helped spouse lose weight?

under_my_amberella · 04-13-2009, 04:10 PM

Has anyone in here successfully helped their partner lose weight and keep it off? Any tips?

Blue Skittles · 04-13-2009, 04:19 PM

Well I haven't exactly helped my spouse lose weight but I've lost a lot of weight myself, so I know what it takes.

Its all about a lifestyle change. To lose weight a person needs both diet and exercise. So for your spouse you need to be planning and cooking healthy meals, lots of vegetables, lean meats, go easy on the carbs, and don't let him keep any junk food in the house. Cut out fast foods all together out of the diet. Even if a person just cut out fast food and junk food, it makes a huge difference.

Then you need to find activities you can do togeher that keep you active. Think golfing, dancing, tennis, going for bike rides, playing frisbee in the park. Summer is coming so think of all the fun you can have!

MollyElise · 04-13-2009, 04:39 PM

I lost alot of weight and in tow my SO followed my lead. We've since broken up, I've gained back 60% of the weight, whereas he's only gained a few pounds.

It was funny because we did a weight loss challenge at the gym together, for some reason when they did the numbers he 'won', he didn't feel he deserved it. Because I had been coaching him...

While my SO followed my lead he lost weight because he wanted to, not because I wanted him to. Once he wanted to he asked questions and was happy for me to encourage and help him lose weight.

I've never seen anyone try to make someone lose weight and have it work, in fact I've typically seen a reverse reaction.

Miss Firecracker · 04-13-2009, 05:08 PM

I've noticed the more I try to help someone, the less they want to try.

under_my_amberella · 04-13-2009, 07:55 PM

My help was requested. Not sure if that makes a difference for the responses here.

We don't eat junk food. We eat healthy home cooked meals. He doesn't drink soda. He just has large portions - but then, he's a big guy (muscular build) and feels weak if he doesn't eat enough.

We went for a jog tonight. That was so fun and I think we'll make it a regular thing.

Mousty · 04-14-2009, 09:42 AM

He might be cutting his portion out too dramatically.
He should maybe only try cutting out 50-100 calories for a week, then gradually go down of 50-100 by each week. I think his system would probably "react" better instead of being in shock to a reduction in portion size.
I totally understand the weak / fainting as that's what happens to me. I can't go on a 1200 restrictive calorie diet like most people here as I am a naturally big portion eater even though I eat healthy things (most of the time =)).

What we will start to do is take regular walks to the market (we're pretty close by) with the stroller but with some kind of goal - go to La Bottega and pick up a few italian goodies for supper or another meal. It's a good 6km walk.
Do you jog with your baby in the stroller? That sounds like an interesting idea when we get more in shape haha.

JeckyllNHyde · 04-14-2009, 09:40 PM

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Originally Posted by under_my_amberella

Has anyone in here successfully helped their partner lose weight and keep it off? Any tips?

Gah! My bf is overweight and had asked me to even make a meal plan for him. I made a draft and he never even followed it lol.
THEn he said we'd go for walks... Uhh... still waiting.

So now I have kind of given up. I'm not his mother and if he really wants to lose it, he'll work on it. In the mean time I'm trying to be a good example by making him healthy snacks when I'm in the mood and we'll share. Or for instance, soon I will be hitting the gym again.

I know he wants to lose it, but he just seems a bit lazy to get off his butt (I don't blame him.. I struggle with excersizing too).

What I found hardest was making a meal plan for his weight and body type since I am much smaller and weigh less.

The only tip I can give is not to stress yourself out or try and police him. Give him some ideas and see if he goes for the healthier choices. And see if you both can work out together or something. Or have him go with a friend.

under_my_amberella · 04-14-2009, 09:45 PM

I can't jog with the stroller. How the heck do you jog while keeping your hands in a fixed position?!?

Mousty · 04-14-2009, 09:50 PM

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Originally Posted by under_my_amberella

I can't jog with the stroller. How the heck do you jog while keeping your hands in a fixed position?!?

Haha that's what I was wondering. I figured you had to bring her somehow? Does she jog along? lol

under_my_amberella · 04-14-2009, 09:55 PM

It was easier when there was snow and we could drag the sled. She's going to have to learn to improve her running speed or we will have to leave her alone at home watching dora the explorer.

04-13-2009, 04:10 PM	#1
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	anyone helped spouse lose weight? Has anyone in here successfully helped their partner lose weight and keep it off? Any tips?

04-13-2009, 04:39 PM	#3
MollyElise Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Austin Tx Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 717	I lost alot of weight and in tow my SO followed my lead. We've since broken up, I've gained back 60% of the weight, whereas he's only gained a few pounds. It was funny because we did a weight loss challenge at the gym together, for some reason when they did the numbers he 'won', he didn't feel he deserved it. Because I had been coaching him... While my SO followed my lead he lost weight because he wanted to, not because I wanted him to. Once he wanted to he asked questions and was happy for me to encourage and help him lose weight. I've never seen anyone try to make someone lose weight and have it work, in fact I've typically seen a reverse reaction. __________________ "Does no one cry here, either? I suppose there's no need to, in heaven" Age of Innocence

04-14-2009, 09:42 AM	#6
Mousty Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Quebec Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 2,688	He might be cutting his portion out too dramatically. He should maybe only try cutting out 50-100 calories for a week, then gradually go down of 50-100 by each week. I think his system would probably "react" better instead of being in shock to a reduction in portion size. I totally understand the weak / fainting as that's what happens to me. I can't go on a 1200 restrictive calorie diet like most people here as I am a naturally big portion eater even though I eat healthy things (most of the time =)). What we will start to do is take regular walks to the market (we're pretty close by) with the stroller but with some kind of goal - go to La Bottega and pick up a few italian goodies for supper or another meal. It's a good 6km walk. Do you jog with your baby in the stroller? That sounds like an interesting idea when we get more in shape haha. __________________ Watching her little baby grow everyday.

04-13-2009, 04:19 PM	#2
Blue Skittles Offline Gold Member Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Canada Age: 26 Posts: 1,091	Well I haven't exactly helped my spouse lose weight but I've lost a lot of weight myself, so I know what it takes. Its all about a lifestyle change. To lose weight a person needs both diet and exercise. So for your spouse you need to be planning and cooking healthy meals, lots of vegetables, lean meats, go easy on the carbs, and don't let him keep any junk food in the house. Cut out fast foods all together out of the diet. Even if a person just cut out fast food and junk food, it makes a huge difference. Then you need to find activities you can do togeher that keep you active. Think golfing, dancing, tennis, going for bike rides, playing frisbee in the park. Summer is coming so think of all the fun you can have!

04-13-2009, 05:08 PM	#4
Miss Firecracker Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 4,157	I've noticed the more I try to help someone, the less they want to try.

04-13-2009, 07:55 PM	#5
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	My help was requested. Not sure if that makes a difference for the responses here. We don't eat junk food. We eat healthy home cooked meals. He doesn't drink soda. He just has large portions - but then, he's a big guy (muscular build) and feels weak if he doesn't eat enough. We went for a jog tonight. That was so fun and I think we'll make it a regular thing.

04-14-2009, 09:45 PM	#8
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	I can't jog with the stroller. How the heck do you jog while keeping your hands in a fixed position?!?

04-14-2009, 09:55 PM	#10
under_my_amberella Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 5,035	It was easier when there was snow and we could drag the sled. She's going to have to learn to improve her running speed or we will have to leave her alone at home watching dora the explorer.