Are all girls bad at giving handjobs??

Recently a few of my male friends have told me that all girls they have been with have been bad at giving handjobs and don't know what to do. One said that girls could never make him come just from a handjob. This has disturbed me, like I have made guys come from handjobs but now I'm worried even though I could do this, did it actually not feel that great, like a lot worse then when they masturbate?

My friends said girls just tug up and down but that's what I do and now i'm confused as to what you're supposed to do?

i have always been told that to get a perfect hand job or blow job is to be given one by a man! yes thats man on man.

i have a couple of bi friends who told me this.

but as a hetro-sexual if you ask your partner how he would like it then im sure he will obligue. just as you would ask him to touch or carress you in different ways, no shame in it, just make it fun.

thats always worked with me and my girlfriends in the past.

you could even try and do it mutually, that way any humility is quickly disguised.

i hope this helps.

I'd sure hope that's not the case haha... seeing as I've been successful at it. But it is definitely a different angle for us, and as with anything, it takes some communication... and then some rhythm, just like with a blowjob.

Personally I prefer to just use my mouth with my hands, and find the guy usually prefers that too... so I don't understand handjobs that much.

Personally I prefer to just use my mouth with my hands, and find the guy usually prefers that too... so I don't understand handjobs that much.

Hand jobs are that nice in between move when you know she won't let you cum in her mouth, but she likes you touching her so she touches back. It's more of a comfort issue than anything.

Edit: And yes, most girls are bad at it.

so how can we improve? Pls give any hints / descriptions .... I'm sure there are a lot of girls who would be pleased to receive some tips & instructions .... and you'll be doing a public service for those guys who don't give us instructions!!

I am not good in handjobs..just like a lot of men arent good at fingering a woman. Really they are not.

I do believe that guy on guy do a better job at it. The way i hold a penis is just different than how guys hold their penis..i have tried..sometimes it works great..mostly it fails..but also because my arm gets tired..or i squeeze it too hard haha.

But i am good in a lot of other stuff.. The handjob is overrated i think.. but thats probably why i am not that good at it..

the combination of mouth and hand action..works better for me and i enjoy that better too..than the boring handjob..

Hand jobs are that nice in between move when you know she won't let you cum in her mouth, but she likes you touching her so she touches back. It's more of a comfort issue than anything.

 

 

Edit: And yes, most girls are bad at it.

Dayum. Really?? I guess in the beginning I musta been... but I've been pretty successful at getting a guy to come with handjobs... although I do like to throw in a little oral action here and there, when not giving a full blowjob...

so how can we improve? Pls give any hints / descriptions .... I'm sure there are a lot of girls who would be pleased to receive some tips & instructions .... and you'll be doing a public service for those guys who don't give us instructions!!

really and truly you want to know? ok i found and im sure others have that by watching a variety of porn films can give you tips! this not a perv most

sex or relate persons give you this very advice, if they think sex is one other option of saving a relationship.

hope this helps.

the lack of technique comes down to confidence.

ok, offer your fellas a oppurtunity to watch a porn film whilst making love and i can more or less guarantee one or two things, he will crap himself or be as keen as custard to help. so be sensitive but sexy.

not all men are bad at fingering, i for one know where to find the grafenberg spot 2/3 inches in and up (the roof) its not just the g spot where you can pleasure a women there are other sensitive spots in side the house of love you can stimulate!

hope this also helps

Recently a few of my male friends have told me that all girls they have been with have been bad at giving handjobs and don't know what to do. One said that girls could never make him come just from a handjob. This has disturbed me, like I have made guys come from handjobs but now I'm worried even though I could do this, did it actually not feel that great, like a lot worse then when they masturbate?

My friends said girls just tug up and down but that's what I do and now i'm confused as to what you're supposed to do?

So let me get this straight...a bunch of guys and you were sitting around and just having this very intellectual conversation about hand jobs. I can just here it now..."Oh man, Betty was just sooo bad...she had no idea what to do with her hands, she was just worthless with the handjob, I will never bother with her again since her hands didn't please my penis" Let's see...is that the worst thing they can say about these girls...perhaps they should do their own handjob if they are so unhappy with these women!

I think most guys would rather get a "bad" handjob than none at all. Why else would they ask for one?

I guess I can kind of relate it to when I get touched downstairs. It usually takes a lot of practice for them to be able to get the right technique and amount of pressure. I can certainly do it better myself, but I still enjoy it because it turns me on. I'm guessing it must be the same for the guys?

So let me get this straight...a bunch of guys and you were sitting around and just having this very intellectual conversation about hand jobs.

 

 

 

about these girls...perhaps they should do their own handjob if they are so unhappy with these women!

i totally agree, hear hear! i bet they wont admit to doing it to themselves!

intellectual? id say immature if they are speaking of women like that!

Handjobs? A bit of baby oil helps, plus asking the guy where it feels best and what degree of pressure - everyone's different in this respect...

I think the key is to pleasing and being pleasured partner is communication. Being open about what feels good and what feels 'less good' can go a long way. Ask the guy what he likes and what feels good and guys....be verbal about what you enjoy, where you like to be touched, what feels good and better. Don't be afraid to learn and to teach. Handjobs, blowjobs, fingering etc are sexual skills and as with any skill they need to be learned and are subject to practice, maintainence and improvement. Maybe this sounds a bit clinical in description but I believe openess, playfulness and the will to explore are essentials in learning to be a good lover (or giver of handjobs) And if that fails just look for tips on the net..there are plenty.

the answer is obviously no. not all girls suck at giving hand jobs. you are proof because you can do them.

Dayum. Really?? I guess in the beginning I musta been... but I've been pretty successful at getting a guy to come with handjobs... although I do like to throw in a little oral action here and there, when not giving a full blowjob...

As most guys here will say and others here have already said, "It doesn't matter if you are bad at it, doing it is good enough." I will throw in that there is no point if they never cum off of it though. So you might have discovered the secret technique to finish the job, but honestly I have a hard time imagining a guy looking you dead in the eye after you finished him off and saying, "I have had better." Most will just say you did an amazing job and hint that you do it again.

This goes for girls as well...express your needs to your lover..and guys be interested in your womans body, ask her what she enjoys and where she likes to be touched and how.

Fot the folks that haven't a clue about what they enjoy.......you possess all the tools you need to find out!

i've been told i'm pretty good at it!

huh... You cant really say "all" girls are bad at giving handjobs. Im definitely not.Seeing as they rly enjoyed it and also came from it.

There will be girls who are bad at it and there will be ones who are great at it..

Just like there are guys who are bad at pleasing a woman and ones who are great at it...... Some guys are easy to please some are hard to please...Its different. You cant generalise.

I don't know..it sort of makes sense to me. When guys masturbate, they all seem to have a different way of going about it and no girl is going to know (right away) which exact way her man likes it. Plus, it's not like we have the firsthand (no pun intended) experience...we have to learn! Just like guys have to learn what to do with us. We know how to manually please ourselves and can get off that way but when a guy tries to do it, often times he fails miserably.

that doesnt surprise me... i dont like being fingered. i'd rather do it myself.

I think the biggest problem is that women seem to feel they have to be somewhat gentle. Go head and beat it like it stole from you.

^ But that is different for everyone. Some guys will tell you to ease up on it. lol

I think iLMBC is right. How can we be skilled at something we cannot really do for ourselves without practice?

I think many women would agree they haven't been with a ton of men who were good at oral and whatnot.

You just have to tell them what you want.

I think the biggest problem is that women seem to feel they have to be somewhat gentle. Go head and beat it like it stole from you.

 

When I first gave a guy a hand job I hurt him by doing it too hard! lol

There are some girls out there who give bad handjobs, but there are girls out there who know what they are doing. In my own experience I dont think that some women know how to give a hand job and never really develop a technique. In addition to that some women dont use lubrication, which is not ideal.

When I first gave a guy a hand job I hurt him by doing it too hard! lol

well you aren't trying to squeeze a tube of toothpaste.