Wedding rings...what do you think?

jen483 · 03-29-2009, 08:10 PM

A friend of mine's fiance just told her that he will not wear a wedding ring once they are married. They are recently engaged, and I was at her house helping her plan the big day. I find it a little odd that her fiance came straight out and told her that he will not wear a ring. We were looking at some bands, and she asked him what he liked, and he just said, "you pick them babe, it's not like I am going to wear it on my finger." When she questioned him, he said that he does not like to wear jewelry, and that he will wear it around his neck. At that point, I saw that she was starting to get upset, so I just told them that I had to meet a friend for dinner, and I politely excused myself and left their house. I think it is a little odd that a man doesn't want to wear a ring. What do you think?

la'isla · 03-29-2009, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by jen483

A friend of mine's fiance just told her that he will not wear a wedding ring once they are married. They are recently engaged, and I was at her house helping her plan the big day. I find it a little odd that her fiance came straight out and told her that he will not wear a ring. We were looking at some bands, and she asked him what he liked, and he just said, "you pick them babe, it's not like I am going to wear it on my finger." When she questioned him, he said that he does not like to wear jewelry, and that he will wear it around his neck. At that point, I saw that she was starting to get upset, so I just told them that I had to meet a friend for dinner, and I politely excused myself and left their house. I think it is a little odd that a man doesn't want to wear a ring. What do you think?

it doesn't seem odd. i don't like rings myself either. it bothers my hands and i hate when they feel tight. i'd definitely be open to wearing it around my neck.

rivercitystein · 03-29-2009, 08:18 PM

It does seem odd to me that he won't even attempt to wear it first before dismissing it. I can understand it if his job would make wearing a ring dangerous

Ac143 · 03-29-2009, 08:18 PM

It depends, I know a lot of men that dont like to wear jewelry especially rings. If my SO didn't want to & wanted to wear his ring on a necklace I would be ok with it.

My dad doesn't wear his
My SO's dad never wore his
I have about 4 cousins that dont wear their's either...
A few guy friends that dont either..lol

So to me, not odd at all.

Binoo · 03-29-2009, 08:19 PM

I would be upset by this.
However, I'm not really into the whole diamond jewelry thing.
I'd prefer to get a tattoo and it would be great if my partner were up for the same thing. Either way, I would want him to have something on his finger to symbolize his wedding vows. And personally, I would wear my ring as an alternative to having nothing there at all.

Do you think he may consider this as an alternative to a ring?

jenny_mcs · 03-29-2009, 08:20 PM

My dad and my older brother don't wear wedding rings. They both just hate jewelry. I don't think it's that odd.

_Asti_ · 03-29-2009, 08:27 PM

Thats quite interesting.
I'd definitely be bothered by it though.
I've never come across this, except for certain professions where wearing jewelry is not allowed.

Cognitive_Canine · 03-29-2009, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by jen483

A friend of mine's fiance just told her that he will not wear a wedding ring once they are married. They are recently engaged, and I was at her house helping her plan the big day. I find it a little odd that her fiance came straight out and told her that he will not wear a ring. We were looking at some bands, and she asked him what he liked, and he just said, "you pick them babe, it's not like I am going to wear it on my finger." When she questioned him, he said that he does not like to wear jewelry, and that he will wear it around his neck. At that point, I saw that she was starting to get upset, so I just told them that I had to meet a friend for dinner, and I politely excused myself and left their house. I think it is a little odd that a man doesn't want to wear a ring. What do you think?

Wearing it around the neck is what I plan to do. Doesn't seem weird.

Mousty · 03-29-2009, 08:38 PM

It wouldn't bother me - I can't stand rings myself.... though I will wear them on the occasion but nothing permanent.

jen483 · 03-29-2009, 08:46 PM

He is an attorney, so wearing one is not a hazard. I just got off the phone with her, and she is really upset. She claims that he does not like the way a ring feels on his finger, but he dismissed the idea before he even tried it. She is telling me that this is a dealbreaker, and wants to call the wedding off. I told her to relax, and he may change his mind. But he is as stubborn as stubborn gets, so I do not see him changing his mind, but I am certainly not going to tell her that!!!

03-29-2009, 08:10 PM	#1
jen483 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 25	Wedding rings...what do you think? A friend of mine's fiance just told her that he will not wear a wedding ring once they are married. They are recently engaged, and I was at her house helping her plan the big day. I find it a little odd that her fiance came straight out and told her that he will not wear a ring. We were looking at some bands, and she asked him what he liked, and he just said, "you pick them babe, it's not like I am going to wear it on my finger." When she questioned him, he said that he does not like to wear jewelry, and that he will wear it around his neck. At that point, I saw that she was starting to get upset, so I just told them that I had to meet a friend for dinner, and I politely excused myself and left their house. I think it is a little odd that a man doesn't want to wear a ring. What do you think?

03-29-2009, 08:18 PM	#4
Ac143 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Paradise city.... Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 2,260	It depends, I know a lot of men that dont like to wear jewelry especially rings. If my SO didn't want to & wanted to wear his ring on a necklace I would be ok with it. My dad doesn't wear his My SO's dad never wore his I have about 4 cousins that dont wear their's either... A few guy friends that dont either..lol So to me, not odd at all. __________________ Soon to be Mrs... on 6/6/09 & I cannot wait :) We did it!!.......

03-29-2009, 08:27 PM	#7
_Asti_ Online Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 2,357	Thats quite interesting. I'd definitely be bothered by it though. I've never come across this, except for certain professions where wearing jewelry is not allowed. __________________ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ __________________ I got so much love For you darlin' and I, I wanna let you know how I feel And it's true that I love you And it's true your the only one and I do, I adore you And it's true You make me feel alive ___________________

03-29-2009, 08:38 PM	#9
Mousty Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Quebec Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 2,689	It wouldn't bother me - I can't stand rings myself.... though I will wear them on the occasion but nothing permanent. __________________ Watching her little baby grow everyday.

03-29-2009, 08:18 PM	#3
rivercitystein Offline Silver Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Midwest Gender: Female Posts: 299	It does seem odd to me that he won't even attempt to wear it first before dismissing it. I can understand it if his job would make wearing a ring dangerous

03-29-2009, 08:19 PM	#5
Binoo Offline Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 525	I would be upset by this. However, I'm not really into the whole diamond jewelry thing. I'd prefer to get a tattoo and it would be great if my partner were up for the same thing. Either way, I would want him to have something on his finger to symbolize his wedding vows. And personally, I would wear my ring as an alternative to having nothing there at all. Do you think he may consider this as an alternative to a ring?

03-29-2009, 08:20 PM	#6
jenny_mcs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 1,618	My dad and my older brother don't wear wedding rings. They both just hate jewelry. I don't think it's that odd.

03-29-2009, 08:46 PM	#10
jen483 Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 25	He is an attorney, so wearing one is not a hazard. I just got off the phone with her, and she is really upset. She claims that he does not like the way a ring feels on his finger, but he dismissed the idea before he even tried it. She is telling me that this is a dealbreaker, and wants to call the wedding off. I told her to relax, and he may change his mind. But he is as stubborn as stubborn gets, so I do not see him changing his mind, but I am certainly not going to tell her that!!!