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    Can a married man deeply love his mistress and leave his wife and child for her?

    Does it really happen? or is it just what the other women fantasies?

    Why WOULDN'T you want your lover to divorce his wife for you?

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    Yes I believe so and I think it happens a lot. I wouldn't be seeing a married man in the first place.

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    Stranger things have happened so yes it can rarely happen but for the most part it doesnt. These types of affairs are pursued by married men to add flavor and spice to the existing marriage/relationship but never to replace it. Its like reaching for the spicy steak sauce to add to the hearty 12ounce new york stake, if one can have two together its much better but one would never choose the sauce alone over the steak and if forced to choose one naturally sticks to the steak, better investment.

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    What if the man is just bored of the wife and views the mistress as the steak? I would also say that maybe it happens less because of the men staying for the sake of the kids.

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    It happens sometimes. However the success rate of such relationships is extraordinarily low.
    You can make the world a better place - one person at a time.

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    I think the child makes it hard, especially if he loves and wanted the child.

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    It depends. Many men have no intention whatsoever of ever leaving their wife and child, despite telling the other woman a lot of fantasies about them being together forever 'once he leaves". Then leaving never happens. They like the thrill seeking but will never leave the comfort of their home. They know they have too much to lose and lack the empathy to care that they are hurting people by their infidelity. They care only about themselves but often can be very good actors to both the wife and mistress.

    It depends on the man.

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    And if feelings grow?
    I mean, my father actually had an affair and he's leaving with his mistress now and is planning to divorce my mother but something's got to be broken between the spouses to get to a situation like this, right? (meaning having feelings for the mistress) You have to grow apart from the other to be able to trully feel strongly for the lover. Am I right or it still depends again?

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    Id say anyone who can marry someone, and then cheat on them... has a very misguided and probably incorrect idea of what love really is. Is it possible to 'love' your mistress? I dunno, maybe if you dismiss the fact that by the very act of having a mistress you are debasing the very woman you claim to love (the mistress) and the fact that you have cheated on your wife shows you are crap anyways.

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    My dad cheated on my mom, and my dad did not have much love for or interest in me at all. He still did not leave my mother. She finally had enough and walked out on him at the 28+ year mark of marriage. They had even been in separate bedrooms for a good 5 or 6 years before that.

    Leaving a marriage is something a lot of men won't do.

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