My 12 year old sister is a spoiled brat

[Iwantittoend]

Just recently I've been noticing more and more how spoiled and stubborn my little sister is. She constantly picks fights with my older sister (14 years old) and thinks of every way possible to annoy her. They sit at the dinner table every night bickering back and forth, but mostly because the 12 year old eggs her on. It came to the point where my mom left the room crying and laid on the floor in tears for an hour before leaving. This happens at least once a week, and it's a daily thing with my sisters...

My younger sister also waits to do her homework until the last possible minute, even though my mom tells her all day to do it. She texts constantly on her phone. She acts non-chalant about just about anything that is important. My dad sat her down tonight to speak to her about her behavior, and she had her hood up and kept leaning backwards. Whenever he'd say something to her, her response was, "Whatever" or "I don't know"...yet my dad gets her just about anything she wants. My dad recently gave her $200 just to go spend at the mall, among other things. She acts as if she gets nothing but she's probably the most spoiled kid I've ever seen.

My dad is threatening to send her to boarding school and she still doesn't care. Is it possible she just doesn't get it? Doesn't think we're being serious here? I'm sick of her attitude. It's wearing thin on all of us.

[Butterfly~Wrists]

She "knows" she can have what she wants when she wants. The youngest child tends to be most spoiled, and the oldest is expected to set a good example. She is the baby.
What needs to happen, is your parents stand upto her. If they say something, they have to follow through.
Somehow i think these things have been said before, and never happened? This will make your sister think/believe they are just saying this, to humor you and your older sister.

[Iwantittoend]

Originally Posted by Butterfly~Wrists

Somehow i think these things have been said before, and never happened? This will make your sister think/believe they are just saying this, to humor you and your older sister.

This does happen quite often. I know many times my parents will say they're taking her cell phone away, and then give it right back 30 minutes later. My dad tends to talk a big talk but he has no bite. He seems to always give in. I just thought my sister was better than what she showed today. How non-chalant she acted about everything when we sat down and had a talk with her really disturbed me.

[karvala]

Originally Posted by Iwantittoend

My dad is threatening to send her to boarding school and she still doesn't care. Is it possible she just doesn't get it? Doesn't think we're being serious here?

Of course she doesn't, because so far her experience has taught her that you're not serious, or in particular your dad isn't serious. Behaving badly gets her $200 to spend at the mall. Do you think that's going to make her behave better? She's learned to just ignore what people say, just switch off during the lectures, and wait for the handout the following day. Until your parents together start acting consistently with what they're saying to her, she will remain like this, and whether they know it or not, they're slowly ruining her life. When she gets out into the Big Wide World, people who have no loyalty towards her will have no hesitation in crushing her the moment she steps out of line. It's going to be awfully tough for her to change by then, and awfully necessary, and you won't want to be around when that happens.

[Dating Coach]

I want to smack your parents in the head.

My aunt did the same thing with her daugher, and her daughter acted the same way. Cussed out her mom, ignored her, was nasty to both mom, dad, and siblings, and yet she always got her way, always got to carry around mom's credit card, etc. She's racked up probably well over 10k worth of debt over the years. In all honesty I would not be surprised if it weren't 30-40k. She's put her family through hell, and as much as it is her actions and decisions, I blame her mom. Her mom rewarded bad behavior by trying to appease her daughter. The few times there were punishments they were very temporary or they were ignored all together and she got away with ignoring it. My cousin knew how to manipulate her mom by exploiting all of her weaknesses.

I can tell you now, that my cousin has MAJOR issues in life that I won't even get into. While she actually performed academically well, her life is in shambles and she's talking about going to the navy in an attempt to start over. I don't know if it's talk or not because her whole life has been manipulative lies to get what she wants.

Your sister is acting the EXACT same way and it started around the same age. My cousin probaby began showing serious signs of this around 10-11 range, although the little signs were probably foreshadowed much younger. The appeasing her mom gave her started much sooner, I just believe that she didn't learn how to take advantage of it to that next level till around 10-11.

Tell my story to your parents, try to get them to speak to a specialist, do SOMETHING NOW while you can. If you don't, trust me this will not go away. My aunt argued that it was a phase, that she would grow out of it, that this was just how she was, and all kinds of excuses. This behavior CAN and MUST be stopped NOW. There are ways to deal with it and your parents need to be the parents and step up to do the right thing before this girls attitude scars her for life.