So Depressed

debg2003 · 02-24-2009, 10:09 PM

For those who did not read my last post, I am in an abusive relationship right now and have been for about two and a half years. I don't know what to do. I don't understand how a person can do this to another person. And what I don't understand is how I can say I love him? I used to say I would never ever stay with a man who hit me. But when your in the situation it's just so different. I know I have a problem but I don't know how to get out ot this. I feel really depressed everytime after it happens. Just Sunday night we were arguing and he got mad and just came at me. I was sitting on the couch and I turned trying to block my face, and he got on me and just started punching me in the back over and over. I three really bad bruises on my back. I have just been so depressed, I haven't even gone to work the past couple days. I am feeling more depressed with each time it happens, and this wasn't even the worst. There has been way worse assaults than this one. What do I do. I know everyone will say leave him, but it's not that easy. Does anyone out there know what I'm going through? Is there anyone who is going through the same thing or was going through it and how did you get out?

SaraNala · 02-24-2009, 10:46 PM

My mom went through this. I was very young when she did and very seldom do I ever ever ever talk about it. YOU HAVE TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER and go to a safe haven. There are places you can go to hide from this guy while putting legal processes in order. I don't care if you love him, love is completely blind and this guy can leave you for dead if he has the balls to beat on you like he is. Where are you from? How long has this been going on? How many times has he physically attacked you and have the police ever gotten involved?

redhearts · 02-24-2009, 10:50 PM

Can you go to your parents and tell them what is going on? I'm sure they will fight for you to not see him.

ScubaDiva · 02-26-2009, 02:12 PM

You have a choice. You can either stay or leave. It is simple! The longer you stay, the worse it will get and perhaps he will end up killing you. Do you value yourself so little, that you would rather stay in this toxic and dangerous relationship than start over from scratch and have a chance at real happiness? There is always a way. Find out your options and leave...

02-24-2009, 10:09 PM	#1
debg2003 Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 7	So Depressed For those who did not read my last post, I am in an abusive relationship right now and have been for about two and a half years. I don't know what to do. I don't understand how a person can do this to another person. And what I don't understand is how I can say I love him? I used to say I would never ever stay with a man who hit me. But when your in the situation it's just so different. I know I have a problem but I don't know how to get out ot this. I feel really depressed everytime after it happens. Just Sunday night we were arguing and he got mad and just came at me. I was sitting on the couch and I turned trying to block my face, and he got on me and just started punching me in the back over and over. I three really bad bruises on my back. I have just been so depressed, I haven't even gone to work the past couple days. I am feeling more depressed with each time it happens, and this wasn't even the worst. There has been way worse assaults than this one. What do I do. I know everyone will say leave him, but it's not that easy. Does anyone out there know what I'm going through? Is there anyone who is going through the same thing or was going through it and how did you get out?

02-24-2009, 10:46 PM	#2
SaraNala Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Philadelphia Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 51	My mom went through this. I was very young when she did and very seldom do I ever ever ever talk about it. YOU HAVE TO GET A RESTRAINING ORDER and go to a safe haven. There are places you can go to hide from this guy while putting legal processes in order. I don't care if you love him, love is completely blind and this guy can leave you for dead if he has the balls to beat on you like he is. Where are you from? How long has this been going on? How many times has he physically attacked you and have the police ever gotten involved?

02-24-2009, 10:50 PM	#3
redhearts Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4,620	Can you go to your parents and tell them what is going on? I'm sure they will fight for you to not see him.

02-26-2009, 02:12 PM	#4
ScubaDiva Online Bronze Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: London Gender: Female Age: 36 Posts: 252	You have a choice. You can either stay or leave. It is simple! The longer you stay, the worse it will get and perhaps he will end up killing you. Do you value yourself so little, that you would rather stay in this toxic and dangerous relationship than start over from scratch and have a chance at real happiness? There is always a way. Find out your options and leave...