Pre-Nups

Moz · 02-23-2009, 05:42 AM

Anyone every had one? Thinking about having one?

Is so, what influenced you to have one?

If I ever married agian I don't think I would have one but can understand that people have them to protect financial interests, particularly if you have children from a previous marriage.

afc_2_dj · 02-23-2009, 07:46 AM

Why not? I would never get married without one.

AFAIK, it does do much to protect you these days, as the courts simply say, "ok becuase you have this or earn this much, you must pay you wife this much cash, even though she messed you around" [happend to to a friend of mine]

Still, I would do the best I can to protect what I have accumulated.

If my future wife refused to get married out-of-community of property then there would be no marriage, in-community has no benefits what so ever unless it was for one party to get rich quick at the others expense. If my wife was better off then I was I would still expect a out-of-community marriage, after all, why should I benefit for her success in the past, its about equality after all [if only women saw equality the same way, not as I'll keep whats mine and take whats your too!]

WhatThe · 02-24-2009, 06:20 PM

A prenup is a good idea if the assets going in are unequal, but they are not iron-clad.

The real b*tch in a divorce is alimony. Even if you put in the prenup that alimony would not be paid in the event of a divorce, the court will probably overrule it. In fact, many prenups covering only assets even are overruled in court these days.

Here is the bottom line on marriage. As soon as you enter into a legal marriage, you lose your property rights in the event of a divorce. Your financial situation will be sorted out by a judge who has SOLE discretion in the event the two divorcing parties can't agree. And no matter which side you are on, you won't like the decision.

If you have any kind of assets or any kind of income, marriage is a bad deal unless your spouse is close to equal on BOTH accounts. This is why the vast majority of rich people either never marry, or never remarry if they do get divorced.

My comments apply to the US. I don't know the situation anywhere else.

indigo777 · 02-26-2009, 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by afc_2_dj

Why not? I would never get married without one.

I would never get married with one.. it's a personal choice to be respected either way, I guess. Pre-nups mean different things to different people.

02-23-2009, 05:42 AM	#1
Moz Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Posts: 241	Pre-Nups Anyone every had one? Thinking about having one? Is so, what influenced you to have one? If I ever married agian I don't think I would have one but can understand that people have them to protect financial interests, particularly if you have children from a previous marriage.

02-24-2009, 06:20 PM	#3
WhatThe Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 81	Voice of reality A prenup is a good idea if the assets going in are unequal, but they are not iron-clad. The real b*tch in a divorce is alimony. Even if you put in the prenup that alimony would not be paid in the event of a divorce, the court will probably overrule it. In fact, many prenups covering only assets even are overruled in court these days. Here is the bottom line on marriage. As soon as you enter into a legal marriage, you lose your property rights in the event of a divorce. Your financial situation will be sorted out by a judge who has SOLE discretion in the event the two divorcing parties can't agree. And no matter which side you are on, you won't like the decision. If you have any kind of assets or any kind of income, marriage is a bad deal unless your spouse is close to equal on BOTH accounts. This is why the vast majority of rich people either never marry, or never remarry if they do get divorced. My comments apply to the US. I don't know the situation anywhere else.

02-23-2009, 07:46 AM	#2
afc_2_dj Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 74	Why not? I would never get married without one. AFAIK, it does do much to protect you these days, as the courts simply say, "ok becuase you have this or earn this much, you must pay you wife this much cash, even though she messed you around" [happend to to a friend of mine] Still, I would do the best I can to protect what I have accumulated. If my future wife refused to get married out-of-community of property then there would be no marriage, in-community has no benefits what so ever unless it was for one party to get rich quick at the others expense. If my wife was better off then I was I would still expect a out-of-community marriage, after all, why should I benefit for her success in the past, its about equality after all [if only women saw equality the same way, not as I'll keep whats mine and take whats your too!]