Break the Routine

lonelycop · 02-11-2009, 09:13 AM

Things in the intimacy department have fallen into routine. Does anyone have any ideas to spice it up between my wife and I? I want to try role play but am not sure how to approach her on it. I thought about trying to have a playful affair with her. Send her flirty emails while she is at work, than meeting for a drink or something. Anyone have any ideas?

girl68 · 02-11-2009, 11:34 AM

You have enough ideas yourself; you need to put your own ideas into action. That depends on how sexually open, experimental, and fun she is and you her husband should know that. She willing to try new things? If yes ask her one day to go to a sex store with you. Have fun, make jokes, pick up stuff, play with stuff, point out things you like, point to costumes, purchase a sex game... etc. Once you've opened the door to that the rest should be easy.

DO sent her kinky messages, do cook her a romantic meal and go with the flow, light some candles and massage her sexually, you dress up as a cop and arrest her, go out to a bar/ pub or club make her dress urber sexy, and "pick her up" and "take her home".

lonelycop · 02-11-2009, 12:20 PM

I do have some good ideas, just needed a women's opinion. We have been to a sex shop and bought stuff but have not used them. Why? I am not sure, into the closet they went. So she is open to some kinky stuff.
ok, so sending her kinky emails is a good idea. I think we'll go to a pub and I'll pick her up.

girl68 · 02-11-2009, 01:18 PM

Why don't you take those purchases out of the closet and use them.

Of course this stuff is always slightly embarrassing at first and a tad hard to initiate... but it's worth it! Maybe she feels that YOU'RE not the one interested in your purchases as you did nothing to object from her putting the toys in the closet...

Or take out handcuffs (or other toy) write a little I'd love to tie you up with these when you get home... and put the little note and handcuffs in her car, or by the door... etc. get creative.

She may just need you to be the instigator in it all... valentines... great opprotunity to get started, at least this way something playful or fun/ kinky isn't so much of a shock on the big V-day...

lonelycop · 02-12-2009, 06:28 AM

Thanks for the advice. I already started to email her yesterday at work to get the ball rolling. After I got home from work I found myself on a ladder and installing metal eyehooks into the ceiling joists. Valentine's Day should be fun!

girl68 · 02-12-2009, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by lonelycop

After I got home from work I found myself on a ladder and installing metal eyehooks into the ceiling joists. Valentine's Day should be fun!

What does this have to do with being kinky/ valentines day? Or am I missing something?

NJRon · 02-12-2009, 12:04 PM

Hehe.. I get it

Just be careful of what you send to and from work email.. it can be monitored and such. If possible, I would stick to text messages on the cell.

lonelycop · 02-12-2009, 01:52 PM

NJRon- Yeah, that occured to me about the 3rd or 4th email. So we have since moved to each other's cell phones. <whew>

lonelycop · 02-12-2009, 01:54 PM

Girl68: Yes you are missing something. Putting eyebolts into the ceiling joints gives me something to tie the rope to. Her hands tied up above her head. LOL.

girl68 · 02-12-2009, 01:57 PM

^ ahhh! I like :P

You had it in you all along, have fun!

02-11-2009, 09:13 AM	#1
lonelycop Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manhattan, NY Gender: Male Posts: 10	Break the Routine Things in the intimacy department have fallen into routine. Does anyone have any ideas to spice it up between my wife and I? I want to try role play but am not sure how to approach her on it. I thought about trying to have a playful affair with her. Send her flirty emails while she is at work, than meeting for a drink or something. Anyone have any ideas?

02-12-2009, 12:04 PM	#7
NJRon Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: New Jersey Gender: Male Age: 39 Posts: 3,242	Hehe.. I get it Just be careful of what you send to and from work email.. it can be monitored and such. If possible, I would stick to text messages on the cell. __________________ I just don't get it! She seems totally uninterested in me, despite my smothering obsessiveness! - Nathanial Mayweather I'm not the moose! Nor am I a certified advice giver of any kind... so take everything I say as my opinion... throw away what doesn't work and keep what does. - Me

02-11-2009, 11:34 AM	#2
girl68 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Beatutiful Britsh Columbia Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 1,485	You have enough ideas yourself; you need to put your own ideas into action. That depends on how sexually open, experimental, and fun she is and you her husband should know that. She willing to try new things? If yes ask her one day to go to a sex store with you. Have fun, make jokes, pick up stuff, play with stuff, point out things you like, point to costumes, purchase a sex game... etc. Once you've opened the door to that the rest should be easy. DO sent her kinky messages, do cook her a romantic meal and go with the flow, light some candles and massage her sexually, you dress up as a cop and arrest her, go out to a bar/ pub or club make her dress urber sexy, and "pick her up" and "take her home".

02-11-2009, 12:20 PM	#3
lonelycop Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manhattan, NY Gender: Male Posts: 10	I do have some good ideas, just needed a women's opinion. We have been to a sex shop and bought stuff but have not used them. Why? I am not sure, into the closet they went. So she is open to some kinky stuff. ok, so sending her kinky emails is a good idea. I think we'll go to a pub and I'll pick her up.

02-11-2009, 01:18 PM	#4
girl68 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Beatutiful Britsh Columbia Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 1,485	Why don't you take those purchases out of the closet and use them. Of course this stuff is always slightly embarrassing at first and a tad hard to initiate... but it's worth it! Maybe she feels that YOU'RE not the one interested in your purchases as you did nothing to object from her putting the toys in the closet... Or take out handcuffs (or other toy) write a little I'd love to tie you up with these when you get home... and put the little note and handcuffs in her car, or by the door... etc. get creative. She may just need you to be the instigator in it all... valentines... great opprotunity to get started, at least this way something playful or fun/ kinky isn't so much of a shock on the big V-day...

02-12-2009, 06:28 AM	#5
lonelycop Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manhattan, NY Gender: Male Posts: 10	Thanks for the advice. I already started to email her yesterday at work to get the ball rolling. After I got home from work I found myself on a ladder and installing metal eyehooks into the ceiling joists. Valentine's Day should be fun!

02-12-2009, 01:52 PM	#8
lonelycop Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manhattan, NY Gender: Male Posts: 10	NJRon- Yeah, that occured to me about the 3rd or 4th email. So we have since moved to each other's cell phones. <whew>

02-12-2009, 01:54 PM	#9
lonelycop Offline Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Manhattan, NY Gender: Male Posts: 10	Girl68: Yes you are missing something. Putting eyebolts into the ceiling joints gives me something to tie the rope to. Her hands tied up above her head. LOL.

02-12-2009, 01:57 PM	#10
girl68 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Beatutiful Britsh Columbia Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 1,485	^ ahhh! I like :P You had it in you all along, have fun!