RE: Reverse Psychology "rebound" Thread

methuselah · 02-04-2009, 11:01 AM

Just wanted to say that that is an awesome thread. Gives me much perspective.

So...my ex (whom I have longed for) has asked me out to dinner on Saturday. In terms of what the "Reverse Psychology" what do I say if she asks me something like "How have you been?" (in terms of dealing with the break up) or "Do you still have feelings for me?"

Do I play it cool or let her know that I've been thinking about her?

Kevma · 02-04-2009, 11:18 AM

play it as cool as the other side of the pillow, but don't play too hard to get if what you really want is to be back together. If your breakup was amicable I would be honest with her to the point of not sounding like all you have been doing is pining over her. Let her know, if she asks, that yes you have been good and have been moving on and working on yourself. Let her ask those sorts of questions, though. If I was in your shoes I would be going w/ little expectations so as to not get hurt again.

columbine · 02-04-2009, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Kevma

play it as cool as the other side of the pillow, but don't play too hard to get if what you really want is to be back together. If your breakup was amicable I would be honest with her to the point of not sounding like all you have been doing is pining over her. Let her know, if she asks, that yes you have been good and have been moving on and working on yourself. Let her ask those sorts of questions, though. If I was in your shoes I would be going w/ little expectations so as to not get hurt again.

Haha, love that phrase.

Don't rely on reverse psychology, go with your gut instinct. As soon as you get involved in reverse psychology it becomes a bit of a game.

hockeyboy · 02-04-2009, 11:25 AM

why has your ex asked you out for dinner?

methuselah · 02-04-2009, 11:36 AM

We parted very amicably though the circumstances were hard. She had a traumatic event happen to her a few months back. She withdrew and said she need "alone time" and "time to reset and rediscover herself". We stay in very light contact now, and she is hanging out with friends.

Ive always been OK with what she needed, but I miss her horribly. This is the first we have spoken extensively and she wants to go out alone with me.

scorpio47 · 02-04-2009, 01:20 PM

Well, it sounds like a good sign. I agree with Columbine - don't get into the "game playing", but at the same time, don't look too needy or pathetic either. Like I said, it sounds like a good sign, so take it slow and see where she's at.

Good luck!

1MoreChance · 02-05-2009, 10:12 AM

wow so much good advice has been given here. take it and best of everything and have fun!

02-04-2009, 11:01 AM	#1
methuselah Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 16	RE: Reverse Psychology "rebound" Thread Just wanted to say that that is an awesome thread. Gives me much perspective. So...my ex (whom I have longed for) has asked me out to dinner on Saturday. In terms of what the "Reverse Psychology" what do I say if she asks me something like "How have you been?" (in terms of dealing with the break up) or "Do you still have feelings for me?" Do I play it cool or let her know that I've been thinking about her?

02-04-2009, 11:25 AM	#4
hockeyboy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: New England Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 2,963	why has your ex asked you out for dinner? __________________ "Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers"

02-05-2009, 10:12 AM	#7
1MoreChance Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 1,357	wow so much good advice has been given here. take it and best of everything and have fun! __________________ Fake it til you make it!

02-04-2009, 11:18 AM	#2
Kevma Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Pennslyvania Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 98	play it as cool as the other side of the pillow, but don't play too hard to get if what you really want is to be back together. If your breakup was amicable I would be honest with her to the point of not sounding like all you have been doing is pining over her. Let her know, if she asks, that yes you have been good and have been moving on and working on yourself. Let her ask those sorts of questions, though. If I was in your shoes I would be going w/ little expectations so as to not get hurt again.

02-04-2009, 11:36 AM	#5
methuselah Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 16	We parted very amicably though the circumstances were hard. She had a traumatic event happen to her a few months back. She withdrew and said she need "alone time" and "time to reset and rediscover herself". We stay in very light contact now, and she is hanging out with friends. Ive always been OK with what she needed, but I miss her horribly. This is the first we have spoken extensively and she wants to go out alone with me.

02-04-2009, 01:20 PM	#6
scorpio47 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 144	Well, it sounds like a good sign. I agree with Columbine - don't get into the "game playing", but at the same time, don't look too needy or pathetic either. Like I said, it sounds like a good sign, so take it slow and see where she's at. Good luck!