selfish900

indigo777 · 01-18-2009, 04:43 AM

Hi there, missy..

I read your post before you deleted. I'd typed out my response and hit post and the thread was gone.

I really wanted to respond to you - so I tried to send you a private message but you don't have that function turned on.

I wondered if that was an accident and if so, whether you would like to turn it on?

cristal · 01-18-2009, 08:26 AM

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Originally Posted by indigo777

Hi there, missy..

I read your post before you deleted. I'd typed out my response and hit post and the thread was gone.

I really wanted to respond to you - so I tried to send you a private message but you don't have that function turned on.

I wondered if that was an accident and if so, whether you would like to turn it on?

I have been wondering if there is an epidemic regarding post deleting.

I have been a long time member and have never seen post deleleting reached such epidemic proportions.

My honest opinion is, that this feature of post-deleting by the OP, should only be allowed, when there are extenuating circumstances involved.

It should not however be allowed, simply because the OP has received his or her answers and felt that they have garnered enough knowledge, so that there is no reason to leave the post for others to view. I think that this is a selfish act on the part of the OP. Also I like to review what I have written. And post deletion, also affect post count.

I have gained such a fund of knowledge, from posts that have been archived, that is similar to some of the issues that I have experienced at that time, rather than from some of the current posts.

So to the "post-deleters", ENA is a learning experience. If you think that just maybe someone can learn from your story, maybe it will encourage you to leave your threads standing and revel in the comfort that you may have just helped someone with your story today.

waveseer · 01-18-2009, 08:30 AM

I delete stupid or irrelevant topics I post before anyone responds. It helps me because my initial self-censorship needs a bit of work yet. So I'd like it if the op retained the ability to delete topics which have no responses.

cristal · 01-18-2009, 08:39 AM

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Originally Posted by ready2heal

I delete stupid or irrelevant topics I post before anyone responds. It helps me because my initial self-censorship needs a bit of work yet. So I'd like it if the op retained the ability to delete topics which have no responses.

When you post, you have to prepare yourself, that sometimes no one responds to your posts. I have had that happen and it hurts.

But there are posts that have contained numerous responses and later when you go back to read them, it is like poof, they are gone.

To write an intelligent response, requires a bit of time and thought, only to have it deleted, by one touch of the delete button.

Unfair in my opinion.

catfeeder · 01-18-2009, 11:22 AM

Hello All,
One idea that might be helpful: typing responses onto a textpad. I copy full quotes to the pad, where I can see the layout better, fix HTML, run spellcheck, and when I paste my post back into the browser, my original sits on the pad until submission is successful.

If the thread disappears, you can save your text file and use it again should you find that the thread is just moved, not deleted.

Hope this helps, and my best,
Cat

Mousty · 01-18-2009, 10:03 PM

I've deleted threads for personal reasons other than I didn't want others to read my posts in the future. Either there was too much personal information which I didn't feel comfortable having online anymore or other. But I agree, people shouldn't delete them just because they have an answer.

selfish900 · 01-19-2009, 04:02 AM

Hi Indigo, i am sorry i deleted my thread. when i wrote it i needed to let it out. after posting i felt vulnerable. i was afraid he may read it, or both of them may read it by chance. i realise i cannot handle losing my boyfriend. these two years both of us went through emotional roller coaster, and still are. he may be visiting forum for advice too, i am not sure...

i didn't turn off the PM. i don't know if i could recieve or not. let me check again...

indigo777 · 01-19-2009, 04:04 AM

Hi selfish900! No, i guessed why you deleted.. fear of too much info.. ive deleted a post before for this reason too.. let me know if you manage to turn your PM on.. I saved my post to you

selfish900 · 01-19-2009, 04:10 AM

hi, i tried to turn on my PM, but i can't find it. i went to user CP but there is no such option. can u teach me?

selfish900 · 01-19-2009, 04:14 AM

i just checked, i am not privilleged to use the PM

never mind, you could post your post here, i don't mind.

01-18-2009, 04:43 AM	#1
indigo777 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 1,472	selfish900 Hi there, missy.. I read your post before you deleted. I'd typed out my response and hit post and the thread was gone. I really wanted to respond to you - so I tried to send you a private message but you don't have that function turned on. I wondered if that was an accident and if so, whether you would like to turn it on?

01-18-2009, 08:30 AM	#3
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,062	I delete stupid or irrelevant topics I post before anyone responds. It helps me because my initial self-censorship needs a bit of work yet. So I'd like it if the op retained the ability to delete topics which have no responses. __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

01-18-2009, 10:03 PM	#6
Mousty Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Quebec Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 2,688	I've deleted threads for personal reasons other than I didn't want others to read my posts in the future. Either there was too much personal information which I didn't feel comfortable having online anymore or other. But I agree, people shouldn't delete them just because they have an answer. __________________ Watching her little baby grow everyday.

01-18-2009, 11:22 AM	#5
catfeeder Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern New Jersey Gender: Female Posts: 2,558	Hello All, One idea that might be helpful: typing responses onto a textpad. I copy full quotes to the pad, where I can see the layout better, fix HTML, run spellcheck, and when I paste my post back into the browser, my original sits on the pad until submission is successful. If the thread disappears, you can save your text file and use it again should you find that the thread is just moved, not deleted. Hope this helps, and my best, Cat

01-19-2009, 04:02 AM	#7
selfish900 Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 10	Hi Indigo, i am sorry i deleted my thread. when i wrote it i needed to let it out. after posting i felt vulnerable. i was afraid he may read it, or both of them may read it by chance. i realise i cannot handle losing my boyfriend. these two years both of us went through emotional roller coaster, and still are. he may be visiting forum for advice too, i am not sure... i didn't turn off the PM. i don't know if i could recieve or not. let me check again...

01-19-2009, 04:04 AM	#8
indigo777 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 1,472	Hi selfish900! No, i guessed why you deleted.. fear of too much info.. ive deleted a post before for this reason too.. let me know if you manage to turn your PM on.. I saved my post to you

01-19-2009, 04:10 AM	#9
selfish900 Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 10	hi, i tried to turn on my PM, but i can't find it. i went to user CP but there is no such option. can u teach me?

01-19-2009, 04:14 AM	#10
selfish900 Offline Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 10	i just checked, i am not privilleged to use the PM never mind, you could post your post here, i don't mind.