Baby's father won't quit?

spring09mom · 01-11-2009, 09:23 PM

I am having my first child with an ex-boyfriend in May of this year. We broke up over drug issues (he won't quit smoking marijuana) about a month before I found out I was pregnant. Since telling him, he has been supportive for the most part, but will not budge when it comes to his drug habit.

When he is high, he is either extremely angry or he is so forgetful he doesn't even know his name. However, he wants partial custody of our daughter. He says he won't smoke while the baby is around, but I still don't feel comfortable with this type of scenario. He has taken to lying about the fact that he does drugs, but it is apparent (and he has admitted that he has no plans of quitting).

Legally, what are my options in this scenario? I don't want him around our child without my supervision, as it makes me uncomfortable. But I'm new to this whole custody thing and I'm afraid I won't have too much of a choice.

Also, we're both 22 years old. I am a college graduate with a steady job; he is about 1/4 of the way through school and frequently changes jobs.

spring09mom · 01-11-2009, 09:50 PM

Forsaken Love: not a chance. He's already proven to me that the drugs come first. At this point I want my daughter to know her father, but I'd never forgive myself if anything happened to her. I just can't, in good conscience, let him manipulate me into compromising her safety.

haha and yes, I'm not a male. I'm also not good at using computers

alli · 01-11-2009, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by spring09mom

Forsaken Love: not a chance. He's already proven to me that the drugs come first. At this point I want my daughter to know her father, but I'd never forgive myself if anything happened to her. I just can't, in good conscience, let him manipulate me into compromising her safety.

haha and yes, I'm not a male. I'm also not good at using computers

Good for you.

MyheartorHis · 01-11-2009, 10:09 PM

Awe, I am praying for you, dear! *hugs*

01-11-2009, 09:23 PM	#1
spring09mom Offline Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: North Carolina Gender: Female Posts: 2	Baby's father won't quit? I am having my first child with an ex-boyfriend in May of this year. We broke up over drug issues (he won't quit smoking marijuana) about a month before I found out I was pregnant. Since telling him, he has been supportive for the most part, but will not budge when it comes to his drug habit. When he is high, he is either extremely angry or he is so forgetful he doesn't even know his name. However, he wants partial custody of our daughter. He says he won't smoke while the baby is around, but I still don't feel comfortable with this type of scenario. He has taken to lying about the fact that he does drugs, but it is apparent (and he has admitted that he has no plans of quitting). Legally, what are my options in this scenario? I don't want him around our child without my supervision, as it makes me uncomfortable. But I'm new to this whole custody thing and I'm afraid I won't have too much of a choice. Also, we're both 22 years old. I am a college graduate with a steady job; he is about 1/4 of the way through school and frequently changes jobs. Last edited by spring09mom; 01-11-2009 at 09:26 PM. Reason: additional information

01-11-2009, 09:50 PM	#2
spring09mom Offline Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: North Carolina Gender: Female Posts: 2	Forsaken Love: not a chance. He's already proven to me that the drugs come first. At this point I want my daughter to know her father, but I'd never forgive myself if anything happened to her. I just can't, in good conscience, let him manipulate me into compromising her safety. haha and yes, I'm not a male. I'm also not good at using computers __________________ "Go do something you hate. Being miserable builds character."

01-11-2009, 10:09 PM	#4
MyheartorHis Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Tennessee Gender: Female Posts: 478	Awe, I am praying for you, dear! hugs