Nieve or mature?

KG · 01-10-2009, 09:24 PM

My son spends hours on the phone/chat with Amber. Today he went to her house for 7 hours, supervised, of course. They text each other constantly.
And they talk on the phone all the time.

So after I picked him up tonite, I asked..." you guys B/F G/F?"
He insisted NO, we're friends. He said that all of their friends that go that route break up in 2 weeks, and don't like each other anymore, but he and Amber don't want to be those couples...they are good friends.

My Q is, is this reasonable for 2 13 year olds, who are smart?
Or 2 kids who like each other but can't express it?
Need an outside opinion.....

shikashika · 01-10-2009, 09:33 PM

Hey dad! leave us alone!

I'd say a lot of 13 year olds don't know themselves!

waveseer · 01-10-2009, 09:38 PM

How about neither? Could it be innocence?

Crazyaboutdogs · 01-10-2009, 09:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KG

My son spends hours on the phone/chat with Amber. Today he went to her house for 7 hours, supervised, of course. They text each other constantly.
And they talk on the phone all the time.

So after I picked him up tonite, I asked..." you guys B/F G/F?"
He insisted NO, we're friends. He said that all of their friends that go that route break up in 2 weeks, and don't like each other anymore, but he and Amber don't want to be those couples...they are good friends.

My Q is, is this reasonable for 2 13 year olds, who are smart?
Or 2 kids who like each other but can't express it?
Need an outside opinion.....

They are only 13...I would say that the ones who are actually dating at 13 should be the ones parents should be scratching their heads about...I think you have a wonderful, smart boy who believes that you can actually be friends with a female without it having to be anything more...it looks like he is resisting peer pressure and has his own mind. Good for him.

KG · 01-10-2009, 09:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazyaboutdogs

They are only 13...I would say that the ones who are actually dating at 13 should be the ones parents should be scratching their heads about...I think you have a wonderful, smart boy who believes that you can actually be friends with a female without it having to be anything more...it looks like he is resisting peer pressure and has his own mind. Good for him.

That gives me hope...they are both good kids!

IphigeniaSaysHi · 01-10-2009, 10:02 PM

I would assume they really like being around each other. Maybe it will or has turned into "feelings", but it's good to learn relationships like that.

His peer awareness is a good sign, IMO. He knows that everything isn't always as good as the hype it comes with.

yellow_sweater · 01-10-2009, 11:25 PM

*sigh*. This is the sweetest thing ever. "From the mouths of babes," eh? I'd say don't worry about it. I don't think it's either naivety nor maturity... it's that nice sweetness when you're very, very young and you like someone and your brain doesn't quite know what to do with that. I don't think it's something that we adults can really understand nor remember anymore. Let it be. From what you've described, your son sounds like a good kid.

YS

catfeeder · 01-11-2009, 12:34 AM

Once we're adults we recognize that no one person can satisfy the role of being another's 'everything' in the same way one friend could be our whole world when we were kids. It's just so hard to remember. But if you think about it, the best friendships we formed were pretty much like newlywed marriages on steroids but without the sex.

...Oh, wait; I did practice french kissing on a best friend when I was 12... ; )

In your corner.

High5girl · 01-11-2009, 12:39 AM

My Son and I are having the same issue with some girl he goes to school with. The more I try to figure them out, the more confused I get.

Anyway, on to my point. Perhaps they do like each other, but haven't done anything about it as far as you know. Either that, he's embarrassed to tell you that he likes her for more than a friend.
If he isn't giving you a reason to be concerned, then let it be until the time comes. If that ever happens.

JeckyllNHyde · 01-11-2009, 12:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by KG

My son spends hours on the phone/chat with Amber. Today he went to her house for 7 hours, supervised, of course. They text each other constantly.
And they talk on the phone all the time.

So after I picked him up tonite, I asked..." you guys B/F G/F?"
He insisted NO, we're friends. He said that all of their friends that go that route break up in 2 weeks, and don't like each other anymore, but he and Amber don't want to be those couples...they are good friends.

My Q is, is this reasonable for 2 13 year olds, who are smart?
Or 2 kids who like each other but can't express it?
Need an outside opinion.....

2 kids who can't express it yet IMO.
either that or he's shy to tell you he has a girllllllllllfriendddddddd..

from what i've seen lately 13 is the age they already begin getting bf/gf's nowdays too..

01-10-2009, 09:24 PM	#1
KG Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: 2 miles east of Hicksville Gender: Male Posts: 4,902	Nieve or mature? My son spends hours on the phone/chat with Amber. Today he went to her house for 7 hours, supervised, of course. They text each other constantly. And they talk on the phone all the time. So after I picked him up tonite, I asked..." you guys B/F G/F?" He insisted NO, we're friends. He said that all of their friends that go that route break up in 2 weeks, and don't like each other anymore, but he and Amber don't want to be those couples...they are good friends. My Q is, is this reasonable for 2 13 year olds, who are smart? Or 2 kids who like each other but can't express it? Need an outside opinion..... __________________ Life is just a word until you go through it. I've got the scars to prove it.

01-10-2009, 09:38 PM	#3
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,062	How about neither? Could it be innocence? __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

01-10-2009, 09:33 PM	#2
shikashika Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 5,299	Hey dad! leave us alone! I'd say a lot of 13 year olds don't know themselves!

01-10-2009, 10:02 PM	#6
IphigeniaSaysHi Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Michigan Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 3,310	I would assume they really like being around each other. Maybe it will or has turned into "feelings", but it's good to learn relationships like that. His peer awareness is a good sign, IMO. He knows that everything isn't always as good as the hype it comes with.

01-10-2009, 11:25 PM	#7
yellow_sweater Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 935	sigh. This is the sweetest thing ever. "From the mouths of babes," eh? I'd say don't worry about it. I don't think it's either naivety nor maturity... it's that nice sweetness when you're very, very young and you like someone and your brain doesn't quite know what to do with that. I don't think it's something that we adults can really understand nor remember anymore. Let it be. From what you've described, your son sounds like a good kid. YS

01-11-2009, 12:34 AM	#8
catfeeder Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern New Jersey Gender: Female Posts: 2,558	Once we're adults we recognize that no one person can satisfy the role of being another's 'everything' in the same way one friend could be our whole world when we were kids. It's just so hard to remember. But if you think about it, the best friendships we formed were pretty much like newlywed marriages on steroids but without the sex. ...Oh, wait; I did practice french kissing on a best friend when I was 12... ; ) In your corner.

01-11-2009, 12:39 AM	#9
High5girl Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: In my happy, but medicated place..Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 240	My Son and I are having the same issue with some girl he goes to school with. The more I try to figure them out, the more confused I get. Anyway, on to my point. Perhaps they do like each other, but haven't done anything about it as far as you know. Either that, he's embarrassed to tell you that he likes her for more than a friend. If he isn't giving you a reason to be concerned, then let it be until the time comes. If that ever happens.