My NC Success story :D

DjSystemz · 12-28-2008, 11:48 AM

Hopefully this story of mine will bring you're hopes up for everyone going through NC.

I was dating someone i dearly loved for six months. It ended after those six months with her breaking it off with me. So what do I do from here? Beg her to take me back? WRONG. Immediately, I knew NC was the most logical step for me. NC has helped me in more ways than one. So the first thing I did was break off ALL communication from her. I deleted my MySpace. For my sake and for hers. I didn't want the opportunity to "spy" on her. I would just dwell on it more. I deleted her off my buddy list on aim (this includes ALL of her friends as well) I didn't want to have to hear about her from someone else either. This would make the healing process much faster for me and would help for me to move on quickly. I deleted her number and everyone of her friends number out of my phone. This was my recipe for me to move on and by god it worked ! I strongly recommend doing all these steps.

Two and a half months went by of pure no communication. I wanted her to miss me. I wanted her to regret breaking up with me. I wanted her to realize how much i influenced her friends and herself and me not being there would feel incomplete. Well, I was right. Last night she messaged me on aim after two and a half months and told me how much she still loved me and how everything reminds her of me. She told me she can't even think about someone else because it reminds her of what we use to do together. Remember I was her first everything. She even lost her virginity to me. I will be honest with you, I didn't think she would cave in so quickly, I thought I would be the first one to cave. But because I blocked off all communication from her, I was the more stronger person. Now the question is, do I take her back ? Or do I continue to move on ? It feels good to have the upper hand doesn't it ?

waveseer · 12-28-2008, 11:50 AM

I have one question. If you blocked all communications with her, how did you know she was trying to contact you?

DjSystemz · 12-28-2008, 12:01 PM

I deleted her from my buddy list on aim. I didn't actually "block" her. So if she was on I didn't see her, but if i was on, she would have seen me. It was the only loophole in my recipe.

LW4E · 12-28-2008, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ready2heal

I have one question. If you blocked all communications with her, how did you know she was trying to contact you?

That's what I was wondering...

waveseer · 12-28-2008, 12:02 PM

So how did you know that it was time to talk to her? Was it the only time she tried to talk to you?

LW4E · 12-28-2008, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by DjSystemz

I deleted her from my buddy list on aim. I didn't actually "block" her. So if she was on I didn't see her, but if i was on, she would have seen me. It was the only loophole in my recipe.

Makes sense...

DjSystemz · 12-28-2008, 12:04 PM

I knew it was time to talk to her because she tried to contact me. When we broke up she asked me if I could stay friends with her. I told her I couldn't. So if we weren't friends and she contacts me, the reasoning isn't because she wants to go hang out.

waveseer · 12-28-2008, 12:05 PM

Ok, well, good job on doing it exactly the way it's suggested. I guess that means it can really work.

Me and myself · 12-28-2008, 12:06 PM

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So if we weren't friends and she contacts me, the reasoning isn't because she wants to go hang out.

Maybe you are being too logical concerning a heart matter.

BONO · 12-28-2008, 12:13 PM

Have you made sure that the reasons for the split no longer apply?

12-28-2008, 11:48 AM	#1
DjSystemz Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tampa, FL Gender: Male Posts: 185	My NC Success story :D Hopefully this story of mine will bring you're hopes up for everyone going through NC. I was dating someone i dearly loved for six months. It ended after those six months with her breaking it off with me. So what do I do from here? Beg her to take me back? WRONG. Immediately, I knew NC was the most logical step for me. NC has helped me in more ways than one. So the first thing I did was break off ALL communication from her. I deleted my MySpace. For my sake and for hers. I didn't want the opportunity to "spy" on her. I would just dwell on it more. I deleted her off my buddy list on aim (this includes ALL of her friends as well) I didn't want to have to hear about her from someone else either. This would make the healing process much faster for me and would help for me to move on quickly. I deleted her number and everyone of her friends number out of my phone. This was my recipe for me to move on and by god it worked ! I strongly recommend doing all these steps. Two and a half months went by of pure no communication. I wanted her to miss me. I wanted her to regret breaking up with me. I wanted her to realize how much i influenced her friends and herself and me not being there would feel incomplete. Well, I was right. Last night she messaged me on aim after two and a half months and told me how much she still loved me and how everything reminds her of me. She told me she can't even think about someone else because it reminds her of what we use to do together. Remember I was her first everything. She even lost her virginity to me. I will be honest with you, I didn't think she would cave in so quickly, I thought I would be the first one to cave. But because I blocked off all communication from her, I was the more stronger person. Now the question is, do I take her back ? Or do I continue to move on ? It feels good to have the upper hand doesn't it ?

12-28-2008, 11:50 AM	#2
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,065	I have one question. If you blocked all communications with her, how did you know she was trying to contact you? __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

12-28-2008, 12:02 PM	#5
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,065	So how did you know that it was time to talk to her? Was it the only time she tried to talk to you? __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

12-28-2008, 12:05 PM	#8
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,065	Ok, well, good job on doing it exactly the way it's suggested. I guess that means it can really work. __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

12-28-2008, 12:01 PM	#3
DjSystemz Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tampa, FL Gender: Male Posts: 185	I deleted her from my buddy list on aim. I didn't actually "block" her. So if she was on I didn't see her, but if i was on, she would have seen me. It was the only loophole in my recipe.

12-28-2008, 12:04 PM	#7
DjSystemz Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Tampa, FL Gender: Male Posts: 185	I knew it was time to talk to her because she tried to contact me. When we broke up she asked me if I could stay friends with her. I told her I couldn't. So if we weren't friends and she contacts me, the reasoning isn't because she wants to go hang out.

12-28-2008, 12:13 PM	#10
BONO Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Where the streets have no name Gender: None Specified Posts: 609	Have you made sure that the reasons for the split no longer apply?