my moms drug addiction is killing me

leigh09 · 12-22-2008, 03:59 PM

Well my mom is 35 right[im 16] now and I just moved in with her in May. We kinda have a love and hate relationship. She has been on drugs as long as I can remember. She left us alot when I was young with my dad to take care of us[she left him 2]. For her drugs and her friends. Now that i live with her things havent really changed much. See My mom has been on stuff for like half of her life and still on it. When I was little I really didnt understand much at all.

Like alchol , needle,speed,acid,herion,OC's. You name it she has tried it. These day its anti depressants,alchol,kolnopins. She thinks she always need sinus pills,goody powders,tylonel. She takes them like candy,I always tell her she doesnt need them but she gets mad and say " my back is hurting or I have a cold,my head hurts".She's always makeing excuses to go to the doctor to get some pain meds. She thinks she is better now that she doesnt do the needle drugs. Recently she has found out that she has Hep.C. But yet she still drinks and take pills. She tells me that the doctar gives then 2 her but, she abuses then she will have like 40 and run out in a day or 2. Then she searches for a different doctor to get some more. Recently I found her over dosed on top of my fan. She was drooling from hre mouth and cursing me when i tried 2 help her up. To go 2 the bathroom. That was the night she recently camefrom rehab and the doctors told me and my uncle that she has been seeing four doctors. They knew by the presriptions that she had.

Well that has been like a month or 2 now and she hasnt got any better. She does havea job ay Mickey D's. But its only been a few days first job she has had in years. Before she started it she got really messed up on kolnipns. When I confrontedher about it she would get mad at throw things saying"im not messed up I try and Im not if i get accused of it I might as well do it."

I really dont know waht to do. She has been in and out of rehab clincs and jail but they seem not to have an effect on her. When she got out of rehab this last time she went to like 1 or 2 AA meetings then the next week she got messed up . I told hwer what was the use of those metings when u know ur not going 2 try.

When she got messed up about a week ago. On somas, she wanted to go job hunting. It was raingin outside my aunt was on the couch my mom walked up to her and asked her if she could borrow a "Rainbow!"....we were like What..she said..you know..a rainbow!

Everyone just looked at her my cousin said do u mean a unbrella Tammy? She goes yea yea. She embrasses me all the time to the point that I dont want to go out in public with her.

I cant take it she makes me crazy sum times

! I have to watch her like a child like when she falls asleep with a cig in her mouth. When she gets drunk and tries to cook. It makes me want to move in with my dad, I dont want to because his new wife. WE dont get along!

If any1 caould give me advice or anything please do.

thank you
-Courtney

IphigeniaSaysHi · 12-22-2008, 04:26 PM

Feel free to PM me I work in a Drug Court with licensed substance abuse therapists.

Karmageddon · 12-22-2008, 06:52 PM

Why are you living with her and not your father?

luvs2kayak · 12-22-2008, 07:01 PM

This sounds like a very unhealthy living situation for you. Please do whatever you can to save yourself. She is not your responsibility and she will take you down with you if you don't get away from her.

Best to you...

hersmudders · 12-22-2008, 07:19 PM

Have you looked into Alateen? It's a program for teenagers whose parents or family members are addicts. It will help you take care of yourself instead of trying to take care of her. Is there anyone else you can stay with? My mom is an alcoholic & drug user & I had similar experiences at your age. Please let me know if you have any questions about Alateen or anything else.

wish4me · 12-23-2008, 09:14 AM

So sorry to hear your story. It reminds me so much of my childhood. Mom would get drunk, out everynight while i was watching my younger brother. There were always arguments with her with my step dad too. She would fall asleep with a cigarrette, he would urinate everywhere. I hated Christmas as a child because I was always worried if a fight would start. Mom would drink herself stupid Christmas morning and then our Christmas lunch would be ruined.

I really don't look foward to Christmas each year but make the effort to make sure that both my young children have a true, peaceful Christmas they can always look back and remember.

Can you stay with cousins or a aunt? I know what you are going through.

Prayers, Kel

leigh09 · 12-23-2008, 01:21 PM

Thank you all for responding. I...never have done this befor I just posted this yesterday it's my first time speaking openly about this. I live with my aunt and uncle my mom didnt have anyplace to go,nobody wanted her around. So they let her come to live with them, as well they dont want her to drink and do drugs but she would sneek them in anyway. Like last night her and her boyfriend was here in the diningroom. He borrowed money off my uncle my mom siad it was for cigs. But, when her boyfriend went to the storehe tried to come in the back door. But we figured he bought beer instead. I heard my uncle fussin at her and I asked her did she use that money to buy beer and she told me no. So I decided to go out back on the patio and there set a 6 pack of natural ice[beer]. So I took it and showed my uncle. nobody was suprised she lies about everything. He just took the can and sit ti in front of her. A few minutes later i went down stairs to get my clothes out of the dryer and she gave me hateful looks. then she said something about my cousin wants her to go to her house. Then I said tonight? She goes "I was atlking to Gary!"[the boyfriend] Then I siad your mad....why?[i knew] She goes did u find thid. Holding the can infront of my face and I said yea I did. Then she is leaving in 2 weeks and she expects me to go live her and her boyfriend. I dont want to I want to stay with my uncle and ant. I cant wait till' she leaves. I love her but i dont want to put up with her stuff. All I would be is a babysitter anyways.

So today she had to go to work and she called in sick because she had a hangover! She told them that she had a headache...im not suprised! Hungover because she had drank wine before sneaking in the beer! We cant wait til shes gone!!! my uncle only tolerates her because it is his sister..and he didnt want her living on the streets. THEY are tired of rescuing her! She met her boyfriend at the doctors office.They both chase pills. Shes disappointed me and my sisters[15,12] and my brother[7] all our life.

She left us with my dad to raise us [She left when i was in third grade now im a sophmore]. While my dad was at work I was the mom i had to cook,clean,do laundry,give my brother baths,get him off to pre-school. But I was the only one he could depend on to be there for him. Me and my dad use to be close. But now he was a new wife im happy he has found somebody to take care of him and my little brother and sisters.. But its torn us apart. She doesnt like me we dont get along at all. From the very begging she treated me differetn from everbody else. I remember when I came home from the summer[from my moms family] and dad already moved her in. We was all sitting in the dining room eating dinner me and my sisters where all goofing off laughing ect. Then she spoke in a tone voice"I dont know why everybody has to loose there manners since Courtney came home" that just ran all over me she would make smart remarks about stuff to me. I always tried to be nice to her most of the time when she would talk to me like that I would just sit there. Now my dad always picks her over me so thats why I moved in with my ant and uncle. My dad doesnt even call me or notin I have to call him. One time I did he told me he had to get off because of Tonya[his wife].

I have so many emotions to deal with. Espcially with my dad now rejecting me. Maybe after my mom moves out things will get better.
Thanks again for responding to me it really means alot.

-Courtney

Karmageddon · 12-24-2008, 08:19 PM

Im sorry sweetie. You situation sounds a lot like mine growing up...but without the really cool aunt and uncle. We are here for you when you need to vent! I know what you are going through is not fair & I am very sorry.

12-22-2008, 03:59 PM	#1
leigh09 Offline Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: bristol tn Gender: Female Posts: 2	my moms drug addiction is killing me Well my mom is 35 right[im 16] now and I just moved in with her in May. We kinda have a love and hate relationship. She has been on drugs as long as I can remember. She left us alot when I was young with my dad to take care of us[she left him 2]. For her drugs and her friends. Now that i live with her things havent really changed much. See My mom has been on stuff for like half of her life and still on it. When I was little I really didnt understand much at all. Like alchol , needle,speed,acid,herion,OC's. You name it she has tried it. These day its anti depressants,alchol,kolnopins. She thinks she always need sinus pills,goody powders,tylonel. She takes them like candy,I always tell her she doesnt need them but she gets mad and say " my back is hurting or I have a cold,my head hurts".She's always makeing excuses to go to the doctor to get some pain meds. She thinks she is better now that she doesnt do the needle drugs. Recently she has found out that she has Hep.C. But yet she still drinks and take pills. She tells me that the doctar gives then 2 her but, she abuses then she will have like 40 and run out in a day or 2. Then she searches for a different doctor to get some more. Recently I found her over dosed on top of my fan. She was drooling from hre mouth and cursing me when i tried 2 help her up. To go 2 the bathroom. That was the night she recently camefrom rehab and the doctors told me and my uncle that she has been seeing four doctors. They knew by the presriptions that she had. Well that has been like a month or 2 now and she hasnt got any better. She does havea job ay Mickey D's. But its only been a few days first job she has had in years. Before she started it she got really messed up on kolnipns. When I confrontedher about it she would get mad at throw things saying"im not messed up I try and Im not if i get accused of it I might as well do it." I really dont know waht to do. She has been in and out of rehab clincs and jail but they seem not to have an effect on her. When she got out of rehab this last time she went to like 1 or 2 AA meetings then the next week she got messed up . I told hwer what was the use of those metings when u know ur not going 2 try. When she got messed up about a week ago. On somas, she wanted to go job hunting. It was raingin outside my aunt was on the couch my mom walked up to her and asked her if she could borrow a "Rainbow!"....we were like What..she said..you know..a rainbow! Everyone just looked at her my cousin said do u mean a unbrella Tammy? She goes yea yea. She embrasses me all the time to the point that I dont want to go out in public with her. I cant take it she makes me crazy sum times! I have to watch her like a child like when she falls asleep with a cig in her mouth. When she gets drunk and tries to cook. It makes me want to move in with my dad, I dont want to because his new wife. WE dont get along! If any1 caould give me advice or anything please do. thank you -Courtney __________________ -Courtney Last edited by leigh09; 12-22-2008 at 04:07 PM. Reason: fogot to state my age

12-22-2008, 06:52 PM	#3
Karmageddon Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 40 Posts: 1,115	Why are you living with her and not your father? __________________ "watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love... but rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along again"

12-22-2008, 07:19 PM	#5
hersmudders Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: 6151 Richmond St, Miami, Florida Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 8,320	Have you looked into Alateen? It's a program for teenagers whose parents or family members are addicts. It will help you take care of yourself instead of trying to take care of her. Is there anyone else you can stay with? My mom is an alcoholic & drug user & I had similar experiences at your age. Please let me know if you have any questions about Alateen or anything else. __________________ "yeah but i want a glow in the dark clone of my penis!!!!"--Epicproportion Spay or neuter your pets! Don't breed or buy while shelter animals die! Remember to click "helpful post" if something on a thread was helpful!

12-23-2008, 01:21 PM	#7
leigh09 Offline Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: bristol tn Gender: Female Posts: 2	Thank you all for responding. I...never have done this befor I just posted this yesterday it's my first time speaking openly about this. I live with my aunt and uncle my mom didnt have anyplace to go,nobody wanted her around. So they let her come to live with them, as well they dont want her to drink and do drugs but she would sneek them in anyway. Like last night her and her boyfriend was here in the diningroom. He borrowed money off my uncle my mom siad it was for cigs. But, when her boyfriend went to the storehe tried to come in the back door. But we figured he bought beer instead. I heard my uncle fussin at her and I asked her did she use that money to buy beer and she told me no. So I decided to go out back on the patio and there set a 6 pack of natural ice[beer]. So I took it and showed my uncle. nobody was suprised she lies about everything. He just took the can and sit ti in front of her. A few minutes later i went down stairs to get my clothes out of the dryer and she gave me hateful looks. then she said something about my cousin wants her to go to her house. Then I said tonight? She goes "I was atlking to Gary!"[the boyfriend] Then I siad your mad....why?[i knew] She goes did u find thid. Holding the can infront of my face and I said yea I did. Then she is leaving in 2 weeks and she expects me to go live her and her boyfriend. I dont want to I want to stay with my uncle and ant. I cant wait till' she leaves. I love her but i dont want to put up with her stuff. All I would be is a babysitter anyways. So today she had to go to work and she called in sick because she had a hangover! She told them that she had a headache...im not suprised! Hungover because she had drank wine before sneaking in the beer! We cant wait til shes gone!!! my uncle only tolerates her because it is his sister..and he didnt want her living on the streets. THEY are tired of rescuing her! She met her boyfriend at the doctors office.They both chase pills. Shes disappointed me and my sisters[15,12] and my brother[7] all our life. She left us with my dad to raise us [She left when i was in third grade now im a sophmore]. While my dad was at work I was the mom i had to cook,clean,do laundry,give my brother baths,get him off to pre-school. But I was the only one he could depend on to be there for him. Me and my dad use to be close. But now he was a new wife im happy he has found somebody to take care of him and my little brother and sisters.. But its torn us apart. She doesnt like me we dont get along at all. From the very begging she treated me differetn from everbody else. I remember when I came home from the summer[from my moms family] and dad already moved her in. We was all sitting in the dining room eating dinner me and my sisters where all goofing off laughing ect. Then she spoke in a tone voice"I dont know why everybody has to loose there manners since Courtney came home" that just ran all over me she would make smart remarks about stuff to me. I always tried to be nice to her most of the time when she would talk to me like that I would just sit there. Now my dad always picks her over me so thats why I moved in with my ant and uncle. My dad doesnt even call me or notin I have to call him. One time I did he told me he had to get off because of Tonya[his wife]. I have so many emotions to deal with. Espcially with my dad now rejecting me. Maybe after my mom moves out things will get better. Thanks again for responding to me it really means alot. -Courtney __________________ -Courtney

12-24-2008, 08:19 PM	#8
Karmageddon Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 40 Posts: 1,115	Im sorry sweetie. You situation sounds a lot like mine growing up...but without the really cool aunt and uncle. We are here for you when you need to vent! I know what you are going through is not fair & I am very sorry. __________________ "watching you walk out of my life does not make me bitter or cynical about love... but rather makes me realize that if I wanted so much to be with the wrong person how beautiful it will be when the right one comes along again"

12-22-2008, 04:26 PM	#2
IphigeniaSaysHi Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Michigan Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 3,310	Feel free to PM me I work in a Drug Court with licensed substance abuse therapists.

12-22-2008, 07:01 PM	#4
luvs2kayak Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 219	This sounds like a very unhealthy living situation for you. Please do whatever you can to save yourself. She is not your responsibility and she will take you down with you if you don't get away from her. Best to you...

12-23-2008, 09:14 AM	#6
wish4me Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 268	So sorry to hear your story. It reminds me so much of my childhood. Mom would get drunk, out everynight while i was watching my younger brother. There were always arguments with her with my step dad too. She would fall asleep with a cigarrette, he would urinate everywhere. I hated Christmas as a child because I was always worried if a fight would start. Mom would drink herself stupid Christmas morning and then our Christmas lunch would be ruined. I really don't look foward to Christmas each year but make the effort to make sure that both my young children have a true, peaceful Christmas they can always look back and remember. Can you stay with cousins or a aunt? I know what you are going through. Prayers, Kel