In your teens

Regenesis · 12-19-2008, 06:29 PM

Is there anyone on this forum that thought on his teens that he will never have a gf or have sex?
And,who on this forum had suicidal thoughts/attempts when they were teenagers and now they laugh at how stupid they were?

Mguy92 · 12-19-2008, 06:37 PM

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Is there anyone on this forum that thought on his teens that he will never have a gf or have sex?

I'm that way now, and nothing will convince me otherwise. Women don't like me, plain and simple.

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And,who on this forum had suicidal thoughts/attempts when they were teenagers and now they laugh at how stupid they were?

Never attempted, but I've been so depressed feeling to the point where I thought of what type of strategy would be best to end my existence, multiple times in fact. I use to be on Prozac, but that made me feel worse than I do now.

suzexxx · 12-19-2008, 06:37 PM

When i was 17 i put myself in hospital twice over all because a guy i was dating at the time cheated on me. I cut my wrists the first time whilst my parents were out and they came back and found me unconcious in a pool of blood.

Second time i took 50 paracetamol and drank a bottle of vodka. I'll never forget the look on my Mums face when she saw me covered in wires in a hospital bed.

I dont look back and laugh, im actually really ashamed of myself now. I have never even told this to my partner.

Also my best friends Dad hung himself 2 years ago on Christmas Eve and i cant even begin to imagine the pain my best friend went through, and at the time i thought that could of been my family in that much pain, because id selfishly ended my life.

x

littlestar · 12-19-2008, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Regenesis

Is there anyone on this forum that thought on his teens that he will never have a gf or have sex?
And,who on this forum had suicidal thoughts/attempts when they were teenagers and now they laugh at how stupid they were?

When i was a kid i was the laughing stock of the school yard bullies. I was obese and ugly. No one wanted to be my friend let alone my boyfriend. I was scared of never finding to have sex with or share emotions with.

I dealt with it by losing a lot of weight and turning into a 'beautiful swan' and havent had any trouble since finding someone to have sex with or someone who wants to be my bf. Well worth the effort

I did have suicidal thoughts when i was a teen and used to write all over my arms that i am ugly and i hate myself. One day i wanted to run out in front of a train as i was so depressed with my life. Even my Dad said to me "You're a fat ugly cow, why dont you go kill yourself" Man did that hurt to hear my own Dad say those words!

Regenesis · 12-19-2008, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Mguy92

I'm that way now, and nothing will convince me otherwise. Women don't like me, plain and simple.

Finaly,another guy like me.

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Originally Posted by Mguy92

Never attempted

Two attempts I had

Regenesis · 12-19-2008, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by littlestar

When i was a kid i was the laughing stock of the school yard bullies. I was obese and ugly.
I dealt with it by losing a lot of weight and turning into a 'beautiful swan' and havent had any trouble since finding someone to have sex with or someone who wants to be my bf. Well worth the effort

I was fat also.I lost weight,but the thoughts that Ill never have sex or a gf didnt disapeared.I guess you were more confident

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Originally Posted by littlestar

Even my Dad said to me "You're a fat ugly cow, why dont you go kill yourself" Man did that hurt to hear my own Dad say those words!

My mother told me that she is sorry for giving birth to me and my father that I will be a looser in life,that I am not good of anything.
So I understand how you felt

sns256 · 12-19-2008, 07:26 PM

Yes I do feel like it will be a long shot if I ever get a gf or have sex. I just can’t figure out how to talk to women. I feel like I am not the ugliest person in the world. I used to be constantly teased about my weight but I am now an extremely athletic, very in shape person now. But it still doesn’t help attracting women. There is something else about me that drive women away. I am just trying to figure out what it is. I have never been suicidal though.

I think getting a hobby of some sort helps deal with depression quite well. Think of some interests that you like and join a team/club. That is what I did. It hasn’t helped in the gf/sex department. But I don’t feel nearly as bad as I did a couple of years ago. Maybe once you feel better about yourself, you might be able to find that special someone. Good luck.

sarey · 12-20-2008, 10:07 AM

I've attempted more than I can remember. Probably more than 30+ times now all together through my life time. I wouldn't say "laugh" more "scared" at the fact I could have died. It's scary not being able to pull that rope off and regretting even putting it on. It's scary being told your heart could stop. It's scary being told you could have killed yourself. I, to be honest, am quite scared of dying. It's the unknown. You never know, You could wake up in Hell. And yet sometimes, this is Hell to me.

I do not have a Boyfriend and I am still a virgin and I am 16. I do not actually think I will have sex for a long, long time. Reasons being are because I think lowly of myself and I can't even bare to look at myself naked let alone someone else looking at me naked.

NudeMoonbase · 12-21-2008, 03:20 PM

I didn't have sex until I was 21, so I know where you're coming from. I don't know who you are or what you've had to deal with in life but I can promise you that if you keep breathing, it will happen. The thing is you won't have any control over when or how it happens, because human relationships are impossible to predict. Relax and don't make it some kind of holy grail. The best way to get laid or find a girlfriend is not to look for it, but just go out and enjoy people's company (this is HARD, I know; modern society makes it look easy because we tend to notice the success of others more than their failures, and our failures more than our successes, however one defines "success" and "failure"). Don't let society bully you into thinking there's something wrong with you because you're not "average." Your time will come, I promise.

thefoot · 12-25-2008, 03:36 AM

yes. There are people you haven't even met who will love you like you can't believe. The teen years are hard as hell, but if that amazing someone was waiting around the corner, would you stop before it? you have yet to feel the happiest you'll ever feel. And it'll happen more than once. She's waiting, don't disappoint her.

12-19-2008, 06:29 PM	#1
Regenesis Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Romania Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 60	In your teens Is there anyone on this forum that thought on his teens that he will never have a gf or have sex? And,who on this forum had suicidal thoughts/attempts when they were teenagers and now they laugh at how stupid they were?

12-21-2008, 03:20 PM	#9
NudeMoonbase Offline Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 12	I didn't have sex until I was 21, so I know where you're coming from. I don't know who you are or what you've had to deal with in life but I can promise you that if you keep breathing, it will happen. The thing is you won't have any control over when or how it happens, because human relationships are impossible to predict. Relax and don't make it some kind of holy grail. The best way to get laid or find a girlfriend is not to look for it, but just go out and enjoy people's company (this is HARD, I know; modern society makes it look easy because we tend to notice the success of others more than their failures, and our failures more than our successes, however one defines "success" and "failure"). Don't let society bully you into thinking there's something wrong with you because you're not "average." Your time will come, I promise. Last edited by NudeMoonbase; 12-21-2008 at 03:36 PM.

12-19-2008, 06:37 PM	#3
suzexxx Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Worcestershire Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 75	When i was 17 i put myself in hospital twice over all because a guy i was dating at the time cheated on me. I cut my wrists the first time whilst my parents were out and they came back and found me unconcious in a pool of blood. Second time i took 50 paracetamol and drank a bottle of vodka. I'll never forget the look on my Mums face when she saw me covered in wires in a hospital bed. I dont look back and laugh, im actually really ashamed of myself now. I have never even told this to my partner. Also my best friends Dad hung himself 2 years ago on Christmas Eve and i cant even begin to imagine the pain my best friend went through, and at the time i thought that could of been my family in that much pain, because id selfishly ended my life. x

12-19-2008, 07:26 PM	#7
sns256 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 167	Yes I do feel like it will be a long shot if I ever get a gf or have sex. I just can’t figure out how to talk to women. I feel like I am not the ugliest person in the world. I used to be constantly teased about my weight but I am now an extremely athletic, very in shape person now. But it still doesn’t help attracting women. There is something else about me that drive women away. I am just trying to figure out what it is. I have never been suicidal though. I think getting a hobby of some sort helps deal with depression quite well. Think of some interests that you like and join a team/club. That is what I did. It hasn’t helped in the gf/sex department. But I don’t feel nearly as bad as I did a couple of years ago. Maybe once you feel better about yourself, you might be able to find that special someone. Good luck.

12-20-2008, 10:07 AM	#8
sarey Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: In the UK, somewhere... Gender: Female Posts: 1,438	I've attempted more than I can remember. Probably more than 30+ times now all together through my life time. I wouldn't say "laugh" more "scared" at the fact I could have died. It's scary not being able to pull that rope off and regretting even putting it on. It's scary being told your heart could stop. It's scary being told you could have killed yourself. I, to be honest, am quite scared of dying. It's the unknown. You never know, You could wake up in Hell. And yet sometimes, this is Hell to me. I do not have a Boyfriend and I am still a virgin and I am 16. I do not actually think I will have sex for a long, long time. Reasons being are because I think lowly of myself and I can't even bare to look at myself naked let alone someone else looking at me naked.

12-25-2008, 03:36 AM	#10
thefoot Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 75	yes. There are people you haven't even met who will love you like you can't believe. The teen years are hard as hell, but if that amazing someone was waiting around the corner, would you stop before it? you have yet to feel the happiest you'll ever feel. And it'll happen more than once. She's waiting, don't disappoint her.