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Old 12-18-2008, 02:32 PM   #1
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The beauty in the letdown.

Hi fellow ENAers.

I've come with good and bad news.

Bad news first, I realize that I am only hurting myself and she is not the one for me. I slowly realize what she has done and that I don't want her back. I've taken all the necessary steps for her to NEVER be able contact me again.

Now for some good news, I realize that I am only hurting myself and she is not the one for me. I slowly realize what she has done and that I don't want her back. I've taken all the necessary steps for her to NEVER be able contact me again.

Haha, hilarious, no? Double edged sword. In the long run, this is what is best for me. To let go and face the reality that she cheated. I've been hurting so badly and I really didn't know what to do lately. Instead of fighting it. I've come to accept the pain and embrace it as my friend. Pain is the equivalence to change. My pain runs so far and so deep, it indicates a big change.

I've been confused lately, but I'm starting to come around. I'm sure this is one of the better days I'll be having. Winter break is almost coming up, hopefully I'll be safe and not so sad.

Just keeping those who are also in pain informed. There is hope at the end of the tunnel. A hope to get better. You just need to let go. NC is the best way to go.

Thanks for reading.
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Old 12-18-2008, 02:38 PM   #2
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Good for you. Growth usually involved pain....maybe that's why we learn from our mistakes? Time is the great healer...along with NC. Happy Holidays.
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Old 12-18-2008, 03:26 PM   #3
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I really wish you all the best. You demonstrate amazing strength and self awareness and I hope you keep focusing on perseverence, because the sun is still shining behind the clouds and storm.

Your subject title reminded me of a song I love, that you might enjoy. In it there's a line that goes: Let go...it's alright, 'cause there's beauty in the break down"...

here's a link to a youtube vid of it, if you want to listen to the song. [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
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Old 12-19-2008, 12:08 PM   #4
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I really wish you all the best. You demonstrate amazing strength and self awareness and I hope you keep focusing on perseverence, because the sun is still shining behind the clouds and storm.

Your subject title reminded me of a song I love, that you might enjoy. In it there's a line that goes: Let go...it's alright, 'cause there's beauty in the break down"...

here's a link to a youtube vid of it, if you want to listen to the song. [Only registered and activated users can see links. ]
that's exactly what i was singing when i opened up the post. love that song/group.
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