Beauty is in the eye of the beholder?

**BlueAfterglow08** · 11-19-2008, 11:29 AM

I never get this. My boyfriends always act like i'm the most gorgeous woman in the world. When really. I'm not that stunning im just your average jane. When I go out with a guy as well, even if they arent that great looking they become the best looking man in the world to me.

Is this just love? Just love really make people more attractive and does this mean that attraction can grow? Thoughts?

waveseer · 11-19-2008, 11:31 AM

This is how it works for me too. Also, if my so starts acting mean he starts looking worse. Some of them end up looking like pigs. lol

MyheartorHis · 11-19-2008, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by ready2heal

This is how it works for me too. Also, if my so starts acting mean he starts looking worse. Some of them end up looking like pigs. lol

Hahaha the longer I'm with someone and the more we fight.. the less attractive he gets, until something comes up and I'm head over heels again!

Scorpion Fury · 11-19-2008, 11:32 AM

Yeah. Where you're in love I think your partner should be the most attractive person to you, at least that's how it happens for me.

testcase · 11-19-2008, 11:33 AM

Yea this has always been the case for me. There would have to be an initial attraction for me though and then it would grow until I thought she was the best thing in the world.

**BlueAfterglow08** · 11-19-2008, 11:34 AM

Yeah thats what I find theirs the intial pull because of their looks and personality and its like their beauty just grows the more you love them and if they hurt you and you start to not like them you see all their flaws.

Aviatormy · 11-19-2008, 11:39 AM

It is called "tunnel vision"

When I am with a woman, she can be drop dead gorgeous at first but if she does not have the personality to go with it, she will be ugly in my books in no time at all.

When I am with a woman that to most people is just your plain "jane"... I will find her to be the most amazingly attractive person as long as she treats me right.

The moment I get a feel for a woman, I get tunnel vision if she is good to me. This does not mean that I do not look at another woman and say to myself "man! the things I would do to her!!!" lol. It just means that I would NOT flirt with another woman because I could not see myself with any other person but the girl I am seeing.

If I see a woman that is attractive and I actually want to persue something with her while I am dating another woman, that is a clear sign that I am not happy and I will usually start to detach myself from my current relationship.

This rarely happens but if it does, I just go with my gut. If a woman treats me right, it does not matter what she looks like, I will stay with her till I die or we are no longer compatable. If the woman I am with does not treat me right, I don't care how physically attractive she is, I will start to detach from her and find someone else that deserves me.

So is this "love" that you and your BF feel? I am not sure... Does this mean that you two are a good match as of now??? DEFINATELY!!!!

I am happy that you are happy!

Best of luck!

Andrew.

WindowTo · 11-19-2008, 11:40 AM

I have read a few studies that confirm this, feelings for a person influence your opinion of their looks to a huge HUGE degree.

testcase · 11-19-2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by BlueAfterglow08

Yeah thats what I find theirs the intial pull because of their looks and personality and its like their beauty just grows the more you love them and if they hurt you and you start to not like them you see all their flaws.

Ah well I haven't seen my ex in a long time but I am pretty sure I would still be attracted to her. That is why my plan it to stay away.

Supa_gurl · 11-19-2008, 11:41 AM

It is sooo true. I am nothing to gawk at for sure. But I am told I am "cute" I am still trying to get used to that one. Im 32 years old, a female and cute? I thought only men could be cute. Oh well!!

11-19-2008, 11:29 AM	#1
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,254	Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? I never get this. My boyfriends always act like i'm the most gorgeous woman in the world. When really. I'm not that stunning im just your average jane. When I go out with a guy as well, even if they arent that great looking they become the best looking man in the world to me. Is this just love? Just love really make people more attractive and does this mean that attraction can grow? Thoughts? __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

11-19-2008, 11:31 AM	#2
waveseer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a world full of possibilities. Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 11,065	This is how it works for me too. Also, if my so starts acting mean he starts looking worse. Some of them end up looking like pigs. lol __________________ Whoever dies with the most "happy" wins! ~ shuttlefish profile pic explained: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xl6yXBnLYYM and more: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CKnw9TM_AAI and if you weren't convinced: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S3fPtMuBtMs and if you're not sick yet: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTvUT_Hx4Dc to accept your partner: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zgP57lJvWRw

11-19-2008, 11:32 AM	#4
Scorpion Fury Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The states Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 4,531	Yeah. Where you're in love I think your partner should be the most attractive person to you, at least that's how it happens for me. __________________ Your attitude determines your altitude.

11-19-2008, 11:34 AM	#6
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,254	Yeah thats what I find theirs the intial pull because of their looks and personality and its like their beauty just grows the more you love them and if they hurt you and you start to not like them you see all their flaws. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

11-19-2008, 11:39 AM	#7
Aviatormy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Albuquerque NM Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,115	It is called "tunnel vision" When I am with a woman, she can be drop dead gorgeous at first but if she does not have the personality to go with it, she will be ugly in my books in no time at all. When I am with a woman that to most people is just your plain "jane"... I will find her to be the most amazingly attractive person as long as she treats me right. The moment I get a feel for a woman, I get tunnel vision if she is good to me. This does not mean that I do not look at another woman and say to myself "man! the things I would do to her!!!" lol. It just means that I would NOT flirt with another woman because I could not see myself with any other person but the girl I am seeing. If I see a woman that is attractive and I actually want to persue something with her while I am dating another woman, that is a clear sign that I am not happy and I will usually start to detach myself from my current relationship. This rarely happens but if it does, I just go with my gut. If a woman treats me right, it does not matter what she looks like, I will stay with her till I die or we are no longer compatable. If the woman I am with does not treat me right, I don't care how physically attractive she is, I will start to detach from her and find someone else that deserves me. So is this "love" that you and your BF feel? I am not sure... Does this mean that you two are a good match as of now??? DEFINATELY!!!! I am happy that you are happy! Best of luck! Andrew. __________________ "Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be"

11-19-2008, 11:33 AM	#5
testcase Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: East Coast Gender: Male Posts: 394	Yea this has always been the case for me. There would have to be an initial attraction for me though and then it would grow until I thought she was the best thing in the world.

11-19-2008, 11:40 AM	#8
WindowTo Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 376	I have read a few studies that confirm this, feelings for a person influence your opinion of their looks to a huge HUGE degree.

11-19-2008, 11:41 AM	#10
Supa_gurl Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Wasting away in San An-tone Gender: Female Age: 33 Posts: 1,496	It is sooo true. I am nothing to gawk at for sure. But I am told I am "cute" I am still trying to get used to that one. Im 32 years old, a female and cute? I thought only men could be cute. Oh well!!