Telling a good friend you think her religion is very cult like?

ArchToronto · 11-15-2008, 05:09 AM

I won't say which religion but people have associated it with a cult or founded on false facts. I have done much research on it and I feel there is some truth to it.

We talk about a lot of stuff and sometimes we talk about her religion. Would it be wrong of me to tell her this if the topic of religion comes up again. I never care what people's religions are but since she is a good friend of mine I feel like I should at least tell her how I feel once, and its up to her if she agrees with me or not (most likely not the former).

doyathink · 11-15-2008, 05:17 AM

I wouldn't. It's her deal, and hers alone. Let her figure out what she feels is best.

Darkness_Falls · 11-15-2008, 05:22 AM

Maybe you could bring it up as a sort of discussion about religion in general? It's good to have a little debate with friends about things like that, if they aren't too sensitive about it. That's what I would do, casually bring up something about religion and then start to question things about religions in general.

**avman** · 11-15-2008, 09:20 AM

Do you feel she is in some sort of danger? I know some scams can be set up as religions and then they manage to get their followers to give them everything they own, make them akin to slaves, forbid them from contacting their families, etc.

If you feel she's in danger then by all means talk to her about it. If there isn't any danger and you just strongly disagree with the beliefs then that is much more of a sticky area.

agent · 11-15-2008, 10:07 AM

I agree with avman.

Ultimately, religions are a big thing for a lot of people, and I think you have to decide whether it's more important for her to know your opinions on her religion (which she probably doesn't care about) or to lose her because her religion is more important to her than your friendship. If it's that important to her (and members of those smaller religions tend to hold more strongly to their beliefs) she may decide that she can't continue her association with you.

11-15-2008, 05:09 AM	#1
ArchToronto Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 67	Telling a good friend you think her religion is very cult like? I won't say which religion but people have associated it with a cult or founded on false facts. I have done much research on it and I feel there is some truth to it. We talk about a lot of stuff and sometimes we talk about her religion. Would it be wrong of me to tell her this if the topic of religion comes up again. I never care what people's religions are but since she is a good friend of mine I feel like I should at least tell her how I feel once, and its up to her if she agrees with me or not (most likely not the former).

11-15-2008, 05:17 AM	#2
doyathink Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Venus Gender: Female Posts: 5,313	I wouldn't. It's her deal, and hers alone. Let her figure out what she feels is best. __________________ When life hands you lemons, ask for tequila and salt and call me over.

11-15-2008, 09:20 AM	#4
avman Offline Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Minnesota Gender: Male Age: 42 Posts: 6,524	Do you feel she is in some sort of danger? I know some scams can be set up as religions and then they manage to get their followers to give them everything they own, make them akin to slaves, forbid them from contacting their families, etc. If you feel she's in danger then by all means talk to her about it. If there isn't any danger and you just strongly disagree with the beliefs then that is much more of a sticky area. __________________ "Children are a wonderful gift . . . They have an extraordinary capacity to see into the heart of things and to expose sham and humbug for what they are." Desmond Tutu

11-15-2008, 10:07 AM	#5
agent Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 3,891	I agree with avman. Ultimately, religions are a big thing for a lot of people, and I think you have to decide whether it's more important for her to know your opinions on her religion (which she probably doesn't care about) or to lose her because her religion is more important to her than your friendship. If it's that important to her (and members of those smaller religions tend to hold more strongly to their beliefs) she may decide that she can't continue her association with you. __________________ "You have a right to experiment with your life. You will make mistakes. And they are right too." - Anais Nin "Come now, don't make such a funeral face. It isn't dying that's sad; it's living when you're not happy." -Octave Mirbeau "Don't be sad, don't be angry, if life deceives you! Submit to your grief; your time for joy will come, believe me." -Aleksandr Pushkin

11-15-2008, 05:22 AM	#3
Darkness_Falls Offline Gold Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 617	Maybe you could bring it up as a sort of discussion about religion in general? It's good to have a little debate with friends about things like that, if they aren't too sensitive about it. That's what I would do, casually bring up something about religion and then start to question things about religions in general.