Heeellppp me!

teddylove · 11-03-2008, 07:01 AM

Please i need some help...I was in an abusive relationship for 3 1/2 years and now i have finnally left him for good. But he doesnt seem to want to leave me alone. I have switched of my phone so he wont be able to call. But today he has called my dad and complained about me. I have explained to my parents..they are well..neutral about it..not much supportive. But im afraid this is not the last from him. Im scared and restless. I dont know what he might do next. What would he do? How do I deal with this? He has come unpredictable so i really dont know who to antecepate his next move. Can someone tell me..out of their experience...what happens?
thank u soooo sooo much..i apperciate it.

CallingAllAngels · 11-03-2008, 07:12 AM

This is not uncommon behavior of an abuser. Most woman are in danger when they leave.

Do you have someone to stay with? If he threatens you, go to the police.

Trooper5 · 11-03-2008, 07:27 AM

Go to your local courthouse and visit the Dept. of Domestic Battery. If you are from a smaller area go to a magistrate court or whatever court system you have. File a legal and binding restraining order which should not allow him to contact you, be within 1000 feet of you, or contact your parents.

Explain the abuse you endured in detail to your parents to make an impression upon them as to why you want away from him.

Keep a note book log of every time he tries to contact you and violates the restraining order. Since you were in a relationship you may qualify for a domestic violence petition. These carry much more weight and deny the person who the DVP is filed against from carrying a weapon.

Prepare your house. Light up the outside, put an alarm in your car that sense motion. Put door blocks and dead bolts on every window. If you are comfortable with firearms go to your local Sheriff's Dept. or Law Enforcement Agency and inquire about going through a concealed weapon and basic firearm class. This class will teach you the anatomy and physiology of a weapon, how to use it, and when to legally use it to protect yourself. Always keep a cell phone with you while your in your house. If he were to cut your phone lines to make entry into your house and your phone is in your car, your gonna want it.

Consider an alarm for your house as well. The main thing is to not be a victim. Fight back, you control your future. Troop.

Victoria66 · 11-03-2008, 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Trooper5

Go to your local courthouse and visit the Dept. of Domestic Battery. If you are from a smaller area go to a magistrate court or whatever court system you have. File a legal and binding restraining order which should not allow him to contact you, be within 1000 feet of you, or contact your parents.

Explain the abuse you endured in detail to your parents to make an impression upon them as to why you want away from him.

Keep a note book log of every time he tries to contact you and violates the restraining order. Since you were in a relationship you may qualify for a domestic violence petition. These carry much more weight and deny the person who the DVP is filed against from carrying a weapon.

Prepare your house. Light up the outside, put an alarm in your car that sense motion. Put door blocks and dead bolts on every window. If you are comfortable with firearms go to your local Sheriff's Dept. or Law Enforcement Agency and inquire about going through a concealed weapon and basic firearm class. This class will teach you the anatomy and physiology of a weapon, how to use it, and when to legally use it to protect yourself. Always keep a cell phone with you while your in your house. If he were to cut your phone lines to make entry into your house and your phone is in your car, your gonna want it.

Consider an alarm for your house as well. The main thing is to not be a victim. Fight back, you control your future. Troop.

Exactly!!!

Cognitive_Canine · 11-03-2008, 08:59 AM

All that Trooper said.

Also, how could your parents be neutral? They should be looking out for YOU. Get them on your side and working on your team.

11-03-2008, 07:01 AM	#1
teddylove Offline Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Kuala Lumpur,Malaysia Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 6	Heeellppp me! Please i need some help...I was in an abusive relationship for 3 1/2 years and now i have finnally left him for good. But he doesnt seem to want to leave me alone. I have switched of my phone so he wont be able to call. But today he has called my dad and complained about me. I have explained to my parents..they are well..neutral about it..not much supportive. But im afraid this is not the last from him. Im scared and restless. I dont know what he might do next. What would he do? How do I deal with this? He has come unpredictable so i really dont know who to antecepate his next move. Can someone tell me..out of their experience...what happens? thank u soooo sooo much..i apperciate it.

11-03-2008, 07:12 AM	#2
CallingAllAngels Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 4,904	This is not uncommon behavior of an abuser. Most woman are in danger when they leave. Do you have someone to stay with? If he threatens you, go to the police. __________________ "Accept Life On Life's Terms"....JAH You can't change yesterday but you can ruin today worrying about tomorrow. God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change The Courage to change the things I can And the Wisdom to know the difference...

11-03-2008, 07:27 AM	#3
Trooper5 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Gender: Male Posts: 220	Go to your local courthouse and visit the Dept. of Domestic Battery. If you are from a smaller area go to a magistrate court or whatever court system you have. File a legal and binding restraining order which should not allow him to contact you, be within 1000 feet of you, or contact your parents. Explain the abuse you endured in detail to your parents to make an impression upon them as to why you want away from him. Keep a note book log of every time he tries to contact you and violates the restraining order. Since you were in a relationship you may qualify for a domestic violence petition. These carry much more weight and deny the person who the DVP is filed against from carrying a weapon. Prepare your house. Light up the outside, put an alarm in your car that sense motion. Put door blocks and dead bolts on every window. If you are comfortable with firearms go to your local Sheriff's Dept. or Law Enforcement Agency and inquire about going through a concealed weapon and basic firearm class. This class will teach you the anatomy and physiology of a weapon, how to use it, and when to legally use it to protect yourself. Always keep a cell phone with you while your in your house. If he were to cut your phone lines to make entry into your house and your phone is in your car, your gonna want it. Consider an alarm for your house as well. The main thing is to not be a victim. Fight back, you control your future. Troop. __________________ Only the dead have seen the end of war - Plato The difference between combat and sport fighting is that in combat you bury the guy who comes in second - Unkown Navy Seal

11-03-2008, 08:59 AM	#5
Cognitive_Canine Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 11,326	All that Trooper said. Also, how could your parents be neutral? They should be looking out for YOU. Get them on your side and working on your team.