I'm a little nervous about getting tested for STDs

Smyles · 10-30-2008, 02:47 PM

I emailed the guy I was seeing to inform him that I will be going in to get myself tested for my peace of mind and suggested that he do the same. He blew up at me, saying that I was accusing him. I could go get tested myself. He doesn't care and for me to never contact him again.

What if I tested positive for a communicable disease (knock on wood that it's a curable disease)? Do I dare contact him and tell him? Or give the DOH his information and let them deal with him?

Victoria66 · 10-30-2008, 02:54 PM

Yes, give them his information and they can tell him.

vmrhine18 · 10-30-2008, 02:55 PM

Do you have any reason to believe you may even have an STD?

Smyles · 10-30-2008, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by vmrhine18

Do you have any reason to believe you may even have an STD?

I hope not. It's been only two weeks since we've broken up. There should be symptoms, but I don't have any. It's hard to say because in some people, the disease can be asymptomatic. I know I have clearance back in May, before we slept together. We use condoms religiously for vaginal penetration, however, I gave him orals without condoms. There is just that small chance.

Vicky, yes, rather than face humiliation that he doesn't care. He can deal with the State's DOH.

vmrhine18 · 10-30-2008, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Smyles

I hope not. It's been only two weeks since we've broken up. There should be symptoms, but I don't have any. It's hard to say because in some people, the disease can be asymptomatic. I know I have clearance back in May, before we slept together. We use condoms religiously for vaginal penetration, however, I gave him orals without condoms. There is just that small chance.

Vicky, yes, rather than face humiliation that he doesn't care. He can deal with the State's DOH.

Sometimes the symptoms don't show at all. But you are making the right choice in getting tested. If you don't feel comfortable telling him they will gladly get ahold of him for you!

Victoria66 · 10-30-2008, 03:14 PM

That is the best hun. They have to inform him anyway if you do regardless I think. Plus then like you said there is no humilation talking to him, not that you should be humiliated anyway but you know what I mean. Plus there are many STD"s that can take years to show symptoms.

Crazyaboutdogs · 10-30-2008, 03:22 PM

Okay, you need to get a grip. This is the guy that you dated, he broke up with you and then you created a profile to see if he would respond to you and he did..and he wasn't too happy when he found out it was you and that you deliberately did this to "trap him". Now you are contacting him about the STD test. Why? You haven't even been tested yet so why contact him. You are looking like a stalker at this point. This is more shenanigans on your part to "get even" with him for jerking you around. This needs to stop now. Go for the test and ONLY if it is positive should you contact him.

Smyles · 10-30-2008, 03:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Crazyaboutdogs

Okay, you need to get a grip. This is the guy that you dated, he broke up with you and then you created a profile to see if he would respond to you and he did..and he wasn't too happy when he found out it was you and that you deliberately did this to "trap him". Now you are contacting him about the STD test. Why? You haven't even been tested yet so why contact him. You are looking like a stalker at this point. This is more shenanigans on your part to "get even" with him for jerking you around. This needs to stop now. Go for the test and ONLY if it is positive should you contact him.

Again, I didn't post that profile to entrap him. I don't even know that he ventures into CL. The emailed I sent him regarding my going in for testing was exchanged in the severals we had after I told him who I was, yesterday. I haven't had any contact with him since and I don't plan on having contact with him ever. I'd gladly let the DOH deal with him. And fyi, he didn't break up with me. I broke it off with him. Anyway, who broke up with whom is irrelevant at this point.

The point is, I'm scared.

10-30-2008, 02:47 PM	#1
Smyles Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Under the nose Posts: 122	I'm a little nervous about getting tested for STDs I emailed the guy I was seeing to inform him that I will be going in to get myself tested for my peace of mind and suggested that he do the same. He blew up at me, saying that I was accusing him. I could go get tested myself. He doesn't care and for me to never contact him again. What if I tested positive for a communicable disease (knock on wood that it's a curable disease)? Do I dare contact him and tell him? Or give the DOH his information and let them deal with him?

10-30-2008, 02:54 PM	#2
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	Yes, give them his information and they can tell him. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

10-30-2008, 03:14 PM	#6
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,601	That is the best hun. They have to inform him anyway if you do regardless I think. Plus then like you said there is no humilation talking to him, not that you should be humiliated anyway but you know what I mean. Plus there are many STD"s that can take years to show symptoms. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

10-30-2008, 02:55 PM	#3
vmrhine18 Offline Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Iowa Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 175	Do you have any reason to believe you may even have an STD?

10-30-2008, 03:22 PM	#7
Crazyaboutdogs Online Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,629	Okay, you need to get a grip. This is the guy that you dated, he broke up with you and then you created a profile to see if he would respond to you and he did..and he wasn't too happy when he found out it was you and that you deliberately did this to "trap him". Now you are contacting him about the STD test. Why? You haven't even been tested yet so why contact him. You are looking like a stalker at this point. This is more shenanigans on your part to "get even" with him for jerking you around. This needs to stop now. Go for the test and ONLY if it is positive should you contact him.