Is is too late for reverse psychology in the rebound relationship?

[younique21]

Well here i am 5 months after we have broken up from our two year relationship. My ex has now been with his rebound gf for about 4 months. Yes it only took him a month to get with a new person. Through the grapevine i found out that they were already had plans of moving in together trying for a baby and what not. However i do know things between them arent always the greatest because it seems like every other day its something new betweem them. And yes me and my ex are still in contact just about everyday. He he still telling me loves me, doesnt want to lose me and all that crap they say. But to me if that were the case he would be with me and not someone else. We still hang out; he'll ask when can he see me and come over and we can watch a movie and ill make dinner: all things as though we are a couple which is shame on me. This all leads me to believe that i am his emotional crutch. He'll call and ask me where can he find furniture for his apartment, and when something comes along in his life hell tell me how it went and what not (but shouldnt you be asking your new gf this). I have made one attempt of NC and he called me like crazy that week even popped up at my job. But after that i began to speak with him yet again. However on sunday i am planning to get my stuff out his apartment so i wont have a reason to go back over there. and i am going to tell him that we cant be friends or speak or see each other until he has dropped the girl, and ready to be in a committed relationship with me and only me.

since it has been 5 months since we have broken up and 4 months since they have been together is it too late to use the reverse psyhchology and leave him alone, because honestly i dont think he know what its like to miss me and not have me around.

maybe reverse psychology was the wrong phrase to use....this is someone i want to be with, but i think me always being the other part that he is missing from his new relationship is not allowing him to miss me. I really only believe he got withi this girl because he was lonely and it was convinient . I guess what i am asking is if i should go completely NC to let him know what it is not to have me there

[blue_dahlia]

Originally Posted by younique21

He he still telling me loves me, doesnt want to lose me and all that crap they say. But to me if that were the case he would be with me and not someone else.

You're absolutely right. He misses you, and wants you in his life, but he doesn't miss you enough or want you enough to be with you. I'm sorry if this is harsh, but it's reality. Last night, I was reading some old emails. When another ex (C) and I broke up, I had emailed a quote to myself to remind me of something. It said,

"Just because an ex is still hanging around doesn't mean they're interested. They are probably just too scared to let go."

My ex (C) hung around for months after our break-up despite that he was in a relationship with his rebound girl who he met a month after we broke up. He just couldn't let me go, although he didn't think we were the right fit. He did like me as a person and a friend, just not enough to spend his life with me. Ugh. And I waited for him to realize he was wrong. I can't believe I spent months trying to convince him. Never again.

Originally Posted by younique21

since it has been 5 months since we have broken up and 4 months since they have been together is it too late to use the reverse psyhchology and leave him alone, because honestly i dont think he know what its like to miss me and not have me around.:confused

I think that the question here is why do you want to use reverse psychology? You have so much potential and deserve someone who can't wait to be with you, someone who adores you! Life is just way to short. This man is with another woman. I think you need NC for you, so you can finally let go and properly heal.

[pianoguy]

I definitely think you need to go NC for a while. Block his phone calls and texts this time. Tell him to leave you alone and you'll call security if he stalks you at your job.

Reverse psychology? Dear, he has a new girlfriend. Why do you want to be with somebody who runs out a moves in with somebody new without any thought like that? Plus, he has the gall to keep using you as an emotional crutch, like you said.