My Mother has disowned me.

noneeka · 10-10-2008, 04:16 PM

How do you move on when you no longer have your mother's love?

redhearts · 10-10-2008, 04:32 PM

Maybe it is for the best. You have to try to look at it in a positive way as much as possible. I'm sorry to hear that, but things do happen in life for a reason.

purpleduckie · 10-10-2008, 05:36 PM

i was disowned by my dad, too. it was devastating, at first, but now i'm quite indifferent. it's really for the best. he's a crappy father, wasn't a good influence before the disowning moment anyway.

do you have other people in your life to get support from? my "dad" is only sperm donor to me, really. lol

PixelPusher · 10-10-2008, 06:04 PM

A family's love and support is nice, but I don't think it's necessary to have a wonderful life. My g/f's mother was a terrible woman and left years ago. She hasn't talked to my g/f in 10-years or so and I know that while it bothers my g/f from time to time, she's much better off without that woman in her life.

noneeka · 10-10-2008, 06:06 PM

I have my brother and my children. I am sorry to hear about your Dad as well but it does sound like you are strong and have moved on. I grew up with my mom and still love her but the more I think about how she has treated me over the years I have to agree with both of you that it is probably for the best. thank you redhearts and purpleduckie and pixelpusher.

redhearts · 10-10-2008, 06:28 PM

You have a new family now with your children, you still have your brother, & when you meet the love of your life you will have her family in your life. It just makes it easier too LOL.

fantasia2004 · 10-10-2008, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by noneeka

How do you move on when you no longer have your mother's love?

If she truly disowned you surround yourself with those who truly love you and support all the time everytime.

RLW · 10-11-2008, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by noneeka

How do you move on when you no longer have your mother's love?

its over rated

missy-lou · 10-11-2008, 05:09 AM

my dad disowned me and i realised that once they die, ur left on ur own. u need to love ur self.. u cant rely on parental love for the rest of ur life i suppose..

SamiJayne · 10-11-2008, 02:25 PM

I was just recently disowned by my mother. For being pregnant, in a great happy stable relationship. For movin out to buy a house. And for not bailing her out of her debts that i've been bailing her out of since i was 16.

Its upsetting, but at the end of the day. It's there loss. And You learn from there mistakes, or how they treated us while growing up. Or during a bad time.

Mums are over rated anyhow. I adopted my ex's mum as a mother. Might sound weird, but during my 5 years of dating her son. She was amazing to me, treated me a lot better than my own mother ever did. And even though i no longer date her son, she was so happy about my pregnancy and asked if i would class her as grandmother.

DNA isn't everything!

xxx

10-10-2008, 04:16 PM	#1
noneeka Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: San Diego Gender: Female Posts: 35	My Mother has disowned me. How do you move on when you no longer have your mother's love? Last edited by noneeka; 10-10-2008 at 05:12 PM.

10-10-2008, 04:32 PM	#2
redhearts Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4,623	Maybe it is for the best. You have to try to look at it in a positive way as much as possible. I'm sorry to hear that, but things do happen in life for a reason.

10-10-2008, 05:36 PM	#3
purpleduckie Offline Gold Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 1,309	i was disowned by my dad, too. it was devastating, at first, but now i'm quite indifferent. it's really for the best. he's a crappy father, wasn't a good influence before the disowning moment anyway. do you have other people in your life to get support from? my "dad" is only sperm donor to me, really. lol

10-10-2008, 06:04 PM	#4
PixelPusher Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: US Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 1,058	A family's love and support is nice, but I don't think it's necessary to have a wonderful life. My g/f's mother was a terrible woman and left years ago. She hasn't talked to my g/f in 10-years or so and I know that while it bothers my g/f from time to time, she's much better off without that woman in her life.

10-10-2008, 06:06 PM	#5
noneeka Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: San Diego Gender: Female Posts: 35	I have my brother and my children. I am sorry to hear about your Dad as well but it does sound like you are strong and have moved on. I grew up with my mom and still love her but the more I think about how she has treated me over the years I have to agree with both of you that it is probably for the best. thank you redhearts and purpleduckie and pixelpusher.

10-10-2008, 06:28 PM	#6
redhearts Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4,623	You have a new family now with your children, you still have your brother, & when you meet the love of your life you will have her family in your life. It just makes it easier too LOL.

10-11-2008, 05:09 AM	#9
missy-lou Offline Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: brisbane. Gender: Female Posts: 8	my dad disowned me and i realised that once they die, ur left on ur own. u need to love ur self.. u cant rely on parental love for the rest of ur life i suppose..

10-11-2008, 02:25 PM	#10
SamiJayne Offline Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Posts: 595	I was just recently disowned by my mother. For being pregnant, in a great happy stable relationship. For movin out to buy a house. And for not bailing her out of her debts that i've been bailing her out of since i was 16. Its upsetting, but at the end of the day. It's there loss. And You learn from there mistakes, or how they treated us while growing up. Or during a bad time. Mums are over rated anyhow. I adopted my ex's mum as a mother. Might sound weird, but during my 5 years of dating her son. She was amazing to me, treated me a lot better than my own mother ever did. And even though i no longer date her son, she was so happy about my pregnancy and asked if i would class her as grandmother. DNA isn't everything! xxx