So eerie - prayers and doppelgangers

Imprecision · 10-09-2008, 11:51 PM

If you have been following my Vancouver adventures so far, you would remember my three criteria for the perfect woman:

1. Chinese or western brunette
2. Speaks Mandarin, the sexiest language in my opinion
3. Older than me by 2 year minimum, preferably at least 6

A while ago, I met this western brunette who satisfied these criteria. Unfortunately, I was too crazy. See here.

I haven't spoken with her since September. I feel deeply embarrassed about some things I did. These days, if I saw her on the streets, I would probably immediately turn around and run. (I haven't written about the last part of our encounters. Some things are too embarrassing for text.)

Nevertheless, I've been praying for a chance to apologise to her. It hasn't come about yet.

Today, I was at Chapters. I met a woman, a western brunette, who was the mirror resemblance of the previous girl. In addition to satisfying the three criteria, I noted these additional resemblances:

1. They both accomplished everything in their lives by themselves.
2. They both attended university later than most people.
3. They both speak a lot. With this new woman, she spoke 95% of the time. I asked questions.
4. They are both very positive people and into doing things by themselves.
5. They were both very impressed by me. With both, I spoke very little. Instead, I asked questions based on their replies to my questions. They both felt a strong sense of connection.
6. The favourite topic of each girl is life philosophy. They also have the same life philosophy - moderate, practical, into self-improvement.
7. I have the intuition that neither of them has close bosom-friends. I feel like no one ever listens to them. Since they both have so much to say - it must be very pleasurable for them to find a guy like me who guides the conversation to their favourite topics and then listens to them.

The main difference is that this girl is 30 whereas the other girl was 26.

I talked with this new woman for an hour. She clearly liked me, because she gave me her number unprompted. This was interesting, because I wasn't even trying to pick her up. I just needed to borrow a cell-phone.

I'm going to name this new woman - Doppelganger Girl.

Right now, I'm praying that I won't be as crazy as I was last time. I'll play it slow and cool.

I'm hoping to talk strategies with Frizzie and Flattie tomorrow. Maybe Flattie will be jealous. I can't wait - I'm so excited to tell her.

Well, wish me luck.

yellow_sweater · 10-10-2008, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Imprecision

5. They were both very impressed by me. With both, I spoke very little. Instead, I asked questions based on their replies to my questions. They both felt a strong sense of connection.

Imprecision, how do you determine that a woman is impressed by you? How do you know that she felt "a strong sense of connection?"

YS

Imprecision · 10-10-2008, 12:12 AM

Ah, it's easy. In addition to obvious signs such as:

1. A woman touches you unprompted. This indicates attraction.
2. A woman is very interested in what you say. This also indicates attraction.
3. The connection thing - you can tell by the eyes, the tone, the direction of the conversation. The way I'm explaining it sounds very artificial. It's natural intuition. It's instinctual. You just know it. Actually, with the direction of the conversation, it's easy to tell because you increasingly talk about personal things, emotional things, and things showing vulnerability. As for the tone, it won't be loud and rowdy. It would be soft. You can also tell by the pauses and the speech pattern. I'm just retrospectively thinking about the signs. It's actually about instincts.

Actually, for the most part, you have to pay attention. A lot of intuitions are hard to explain. But if you pay attention, they are clear as day.

You are a girl. How do you know if a guy is impressed with you?

bijoux27 · 10-10-2008, 12:20 AM

Nicee good luck!

Imprecision · 10-10-2008, 12:26 AM

Haha, thank you. I always enjoy your replies.

So, I haven't read your posts in the last few days. How's your life these days? Still studying sociology?

bijoux27 · 10-10-2008, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Imprecision

Haha, thank you. I always enjoy your replies.

So, I haven't read your posts in the last few days. How's your life these days? Still studying sociology?

Let us know how it works out.
Yep I'm still in sociology of course, with minors in HR and psychology. I have 2 years left. Life's alright, very busy, I have too much going on these days but of course I have time to read your threads

yellow_sweater · 10-10-2008, 03:20 PM

Here is why I ask...

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1. A woman touches you unprompted. This indicates attraction.

I have a warm communication style, and I naturally reach out to touch the person I'm talking to, especially if we're having a serious conversation. Guys, girls, flirting, not flirting, happy, sad--some people communicate through touch. (Of course, you have to sense whether the other person is receptive to touch, and not everyone is.)

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2. A woman is very interested in what you say. This also indicates attraction.

Or that she thinks you're intelligent and/or interesting, but there is no attraction there. Or she's just being polite.

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3. The connection thing - ... Actually, with the direction of the conversation, it's easy to tell because you increasingly talk about personal things, emotional things, and things showing vulnerability. As for the tone, it won't be loud and rowdy. It would be soft. You can also tell by the pauses and the speech pattern. I'm just retrospectively thinking about the signs.

Again, and this is just me, I have no problem "going there" with emotional or vulnerable topics, even with people I don't know well.

The reason I was asking is because you seemed so sure that she was into you, and I recognized my own speech and communication patterns in your reasoning. So, I'm wondering 1) do I give the impression to other people that I'm attracted to them because of my communication style, and 2) are you reading too much into your interaction with this young woman?

But, as you point out, perhaps a lot (or most) of detecting attraction comes down to intuition. Just have to hope that your intuition is finely tuned, and that you're not seeing only what you want to see, rather than reality.

YS

10-09-2008, 11:51 PM	#1
Imprecision Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 1,360	So eerie - prayers and doppelgangers If you have been following my Vancouver adventures so far, you would remember my three criteria for the perfect woman: 1. Chinese or western brunette 2. Speaks Mandarin, the sexiest language in my opinion 3. Older than me by 2 year minimum, preferably at least 6 A while ago, I met this western brunette who satisfied these criteria. Unfortunately, I was too crazy. See here. I haven't spoken with her since September. I feel deeply embarrassed about some things I did. These days, if I saw her on the streets, I would probably immediately turn around and run. (I haven't written about the last part of our encounters. Some things are too embarrassing for text.) Nevertheless, I've been praying for a chance to apologise to her. It hasn't come about yet. Today, I was at Chapters. I met a woman, a western brunette, who was the mirror resemblance of the previous girl. In addition to satisfying the three criteria, I noted these additional resemblances: 1. They both accomplished everything in their lives by themselves. 2. They both attended university later than most people. 3. They both speak a lot. With this new woman, she spoke 95% of the time. I asked questions. 4. They are both very positive people and into doing things by themselves. 5. They were both very impressed by me. With both, I spoke very little. Instead, I asked questions based on their replies to my questions. They both felt a strong sense of connection. 6. The favourite topic of each girl is life philosophy. They also have the same life philosophy - moderate, practical, into self-improvement. 7. I have the intuition that neither of them has close bosom-friends. I feel like no one ever listens to them. Since they both have so much to say - it must be very pleasurable for them to find a guy like me who guides the conversation to their favourite topics and then listens to them. The main difference is that this girl is 30 whereas the other girl was 26. I talked with this new woman for an hour. She clearly liked me, because she gave me her number unprompted. This was interesting, because I wasn't even trying to pick her up. I just needed to borrow a cell-phone. I'm going to name this new woman - Doppelganger Girl. Right now, I'm praying that I won't be as crazy as I was last time. I'll play it slow and cool. I'm hoping to talk strategies with Frizzie and Flattie tomorrow. Maybe Flattie will be jealous. I can't wait - I'm so excited to tell her. Well, wish me luck. Last edited by Imprecision; 10-10-2008 at 12:08 AM.

10-10-2008, 12:12 AM	#3
Imprecision Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 1,360	Ah, it's easy. In addition to obvious signs such as: 1. A woman touches you unprompted. This indicates attraction. 2. A woman is very interested in what you say. This also indicates attraction. 3. The connection thing - you can tell by the eyes, the tone, the direction of the conversation. The way I'm explaining it sounds very artificial. It's natural intuition. It's instinctual. You just know it. Actually, with the direction of the conversation, it's easy to tell because you increasingly talk about personal things, emotional things, and things showing vulnerability. As for the tone, it won't be loud and rowdy. It would be soft. You can also tell by the pauses and the speech pattern. I'm just retrospectively thinking about the signs. It's actually about instincts. Actually, for the most part, you have to pay attention. A lot of intuitions are hard to explain. But if you pay attention, they are clear as day. You are a girl. How do you know if a guy is impressed with you?

10-10-2008, 12:20 AM	#4
bijoux27 Offline Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,180	Nicee good luck!

10-10-2008, 12:26 AM	#5
Imprecision Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 1,360	Haha, thank you. I always enjoy your replies. So, I haven't read your posts in the last few days. How's your life these days? Still studying sociology?