False representation

Smyles · 09-26-2008, 05:44 AM

OK, so I was browsing some online personal profiles tonight and came upon a profile of a guy I went out on a date with one time (which turned out really bad). His profile had a lot of fabricated information, specifically the level of his education and profession. Our date turned awkward because he slipped when we were discussing his education. I called him on it and he became flustered, formulating an escape. I never heard from him again after that.

Should I report him for misrepresenting himself, especially when his profile is posted at a major online dating site?

dan10 · 09-26-2008, 05:49 AM

that really depends on the rules of the dating site. if it is just a site where people can post whatever they want then there is really no point. people will figure out he is lying on their own. if in the rules of conduct of the site it says no fabricating information about yourself then yes you should send an email to the site mediators with a link to his profile and tell them that he is lying. and if you dont know if it is against the rules then you can send a little note with a link to his profile and just say something to the effect of "i dont know if this is against the rules but, this guy is lying about himself and i know because i went on a date with him once. you can do what you want with that information" and then leave it at that and whatever happens will happen

gcollier2002 · 09-26-2008, 10:29 AM

It seems a bit vindictive to go after him over a tall tale about his education. It's not like he's lying about how many puppies he's killed or anything like that... Granted, lying is lying, and if he's doing it to meet women, he'll probably do it to "continue" to dupe the same woman. I think I'd just let this one go.

**annie24** · 09-26-2008, 10:33 AM

you can try if you want, but what's the point? they may or may not do something about it. i'm guessing they won't do anything about it. i've never seen any rules on online ads against lying. i think the only ads they may do something about are the ones that have profanity in them, or are advocating doing something illegal.

in any case, move on and forget this dude.... i'm sure that his next dates will be able to figure out he is lying.

Siriana · 09-26-2008, 10:46 AM

Provided that site encourages members to report such persons, I would probably do so.
Unless, it was a small lie (telling he graduated but has maybe one more exam or something like that) or people on site don't care.
I think majority of sites don't care because it would leave a lot of room for ruining other people chances by falsly reporting them.
It's a risk of online dating, you need to meet the person to see who you are actually dealing with.

fragmint · 09-26-2008, 11:29 AM

well im not sure if theyll do anything about it. i mean its pretty much your word against his anyways. i dont know how strict they are with this stuff but i guess you could report him and whatever happens, happens.

I'mThatGirl · 09-26-2008, 11:43 AM

Why bother? Really?

Scorpion Fury · 09-26-2008, 11:50 AM

Welcome to the Internet. A ton of people lie. That's what happens. Chuckle and move on.

confused25 · 09-26-2008, 11:59 AM

Who cares, just move on.

Smyles · 09-26-2008, 02:08 PM

Yes, it may seem spiteful to report him, but I have absolutely zero tolerance for compulsive liars and am sure that no one appreciates a lying person either. Women on this site pay to meet nice, decent, and honest men. Not men who falsify their personal information. And this site prides itself on the integrity of its members. I just feel a sense of duty though it'll probably come to nothing, it's worth a try.

09-26-2008, 05:44 AM	#1
Smyles Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Under the nose Posts: 122	False representation OK, so I was browsing some online personal profiles tonight and came upon a profile of a guy I went out on a date with one time (which turned out really bad). His profile had a lot of fabricated information, specifically the level of his education and profession. Our date turned awkward because he slipped when we were discussing his education. I called him on it and he became flustered, formulating an escape. I never heard from him again after that. Should I report him for misrepresenting himself, especially when his profile is posted at a major online dating site?

09-26-2008, 10:29 AM	#3
gcollier2002 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Southern Illinois Gender: Male Posts: 331	It seems a bit vindictive to go after him over a tall tale about his education. It's not like he's lying about how many puppies he's killed or anything like that... Granted, lying is lying, and if he's doing it to meet women, he'll probably do it to "continue" to dupe the same woman. I think I'd just let this one go. __________________ Never leave the one you love for the one you want- For the one you want will leave you for the one they love.

09-26-2008, 11:43 AM	#7
I'mThatGirl Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Somewhere Out There Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 4,873	Why bother? Really? __________________ Never make someone your priority when they only make you their option. Never waste time on someone not willing to waste or share time with you. Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Albert Einstein Wonder of these days.... how do they sleep at night? How? Is there something I'm missing? In search of. . . . understanding I guess.

09-26-2008, 11:50 AM	#8
Scorpion Fury Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: The states Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 4,525	Welcome to the Internet. A ton of people lie. That's what happens. Chuckle and move on. __________________ Your attitude determines your altitude.

09-26-2008, 05:49 AM	#2
dan10 Offline Silver Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: california Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 490	that really depends on the rules of the dating site. if it is just a site where people can post whatever they want then there is really no point. people will figure out he is lying on their own. if in the rules of conduct of the site it says no fabricating information about yourself then yes you should send an email to the site mediators with a link to his profile and tell them that he is lying. and if you dont know if it is against the rules then you can send a little note with a link to his profile and just say something to the effect of "i dont know if this is against the rules but, this guy is lying about himself and i know because i went on a date with him once. you can do what you want with that information" and then leave it at that and whatever happens will happen

09-26-2008, 10:33 AM	#4
annie24 Online Super Moderator Join Date: Oct 2004 Age: 29 Posts: 26,827	you can try if you want, but what's the point? they may or may not do something about it. i'm guessing they won't do anything about it. i've never seen any rules on online ads against lying. i think the only ads they may do something about are the ones that have profanity in them, or are advocating doing something illegal. in any case, move on and forget this dude.... i'm sure that his next dates will be able to figure out he is lying.

09-26-2008, 10:46 AM	#5
Siriana Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Europe Gender: Female Age: 29 Posts: 3,769	Provided that site encourages members to report such persons, I would probably do so. Unless, it was a small lie (telling he graduated but has maybe one more exam or something like that) or people on site don't care. I think majority of sites don't care because it would leave a lot of room for ruining other people chances by falsly reporting them. It's a risk of online dating, you need to meet the person to see who you are actually dealing with.

09-26-2008, 11:29 AM	#6
fragmint Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 628	well im not sure if theyll do anything about it. i mean its pretty much your word against his anyways. i dont know how strict they are with this stuff but i guess you could report him and whatever happens, happens.

09-26-2008, 11:59 AM	#9
confused25 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 586	Who cares, just move on.

09-26-2008, 02:08 PM	#10
Smyles Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Under the nose Posts: 122	Yes, it may seem spiteful to report him, but I have absolutely zero tolerance for compulsive liars and am sure that no one appreciates a lying person either. Women on this site pay to meet nice, decent, and honest men. Not men who falsify their personal information. And this site prides itself on the integrity of its members. I just feel a sense of duty though it'll probably come to nothing, it's worth a try.