It Was A Gift! Yet He Expects The Money From It!

Angel_baby · 09-20-2008, 12:11 AM

My husband's friend gave us a pool table that he didn't want anymore 2 years ago. He now thinks he should get the money we got from selling it!!!!

This person used to be a roommate with us. Since he was my husband's friend he only paid $150 a month for one of the rooms in our 3 bedroom house. He used the house as his own to so it wasn't like he was only renting his room. He also ate the meals I prepared without chipping in for food EVER. He has always been the "mooch" type of person though.

Anyway, when my husband and I had our son we told him that we would like to have our own family without a roommate. We did not give him a time limit to move out.
3 months later he moved out.

---BUT--- He did not bother to pay us the last 3 weeks (almost a month) worth of rent. Not even when I asked him... he was short on money so he gave my husband a cheap pool table that he bought for $90, in exchange for the rent owed. He said he didn't want it anymore anyway.

Well time went by, we had the pool table in the garage for 2 years, never played. So I put it in our yard sale today. I sold it for $75.

My husband's friend found out through his girlfriend that we sold it.... here is the unbelievable part....!

He then TOLD my husband (phone call) that he gets half the money of the sale!!!!

When my husband told me this I got kind of mad and said "He can say whatever he wants but the money is ours and he isn't getting any of it".

Well my husband's friend came over later and told my husband that he would just take our Sega Genesis Console with the games and controllers instead of the money!!!

When my husband told me that I looked like this ---->

This friend though didn't confront me at all when I was around him. I know it is because he knows he won't get it from me so he keeps trying to get it from my husband. He does this with other things to... like babysitting their baby for 8 hours, last minute, no pay...
He knows my husband has trouble saying no.

ANYWAY, do you all think it is right to give a gift to someone and then later on when that person sells, etc that item.... would you demand some of the money back???

bijoux27 · 09-20-2008, 12:13 AM

The guy is just a loser, ignore him..

Victoria66 · 09-20-2008, 12:18 AM

NO, he gave it to you in PAYMENT of what he owed YOU. Screw em. Tell him to get lost.

kuiks8 · 09-20-2008, 12:18 AM

that is ridiculous...he's just a taker...you keep your money angel...frig it's not like you made a lot off of it!

fragmint · 09-20-2008, 12:22 AM

um tell him to stay off your property and ignore him. also tell your husband to stop being a doormat. oh and next time he comes over, dont wait him to say something to you, just say something to him first. tell him hes not getting anything because you guys dont owe him anything.

Angel_baby · 09-20-2008, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by bijoux27

The guy is just a loser, ignore him..

Yes a mooch = BIG time loser. To me anyway. My biggest pet peeve is someone that mooches off of people. Especially when that person has money and is mooching off of people who just barely get by.

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Originally Posted by Victoria66

NO, he gave it to you in PAYMENT of what he owed YOU. Screw em. Tell him to get lost.

Exactly! That is how I see it. He is my husband's best friend though so being rude to him will probably upset my husband... though my husband does agree with me on this about us not giving him anything.

I always have to be the "bad guy"

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Originally Posted by kuiks8

that is ridiculous...he's just a taker...you keep your money angel...frig it's not like you made a lot off of it!

And the sad thing is he makes 60,000k a year PLUS he has a $500,000 inheritance. He will start a big ordeal over this once he gets it that I am NOT going to give it to him.

I could do without all this stress. I just stayed up 36 hours doing a yard sale... HARD WORK! I did make $500 all together though!

kuiks8 · 09-20-2008, 12:27 AM

good on you angel...just make sure you keep yourself safe in all this k

Angel_baby · 09-20-2008, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by kuiks8

good on you angel...just make sure you keep yourself safe in all this k

I actually can't walk now. Stuck in bed. I look like an old person trying to walk around the house. I keep telling myself it was worth it.

I need to know how to settle this calmly. He will make an ordeal but I don't want my husband mad at me for going off on his best friend.... EVEN though I would love to.

kuiks8 · 09-20-2008, 12:33 AM

what is your husband saying he must think this is pretty ludicrous as well.
Sorry you are in so much pain...love and light coming your way!

Angel_baby · 09-20-2008, 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by kuiks8

what is your husband saying he must think this is pretty ludicrous as well.
Sorry you are in so much pain...love and light coming your way!

My husband does agree with me. BUT he keeps saying that "I" need to tell his friend. That he isn't getting into it.
Fargmint said it best:

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Originally Posted by fragmint

um tell him to stay off your property and ignore him. also tell your husband to stop being a doormat. oh and next time he comes over, dont wait him to say something to you, just say something to him first. tell him hes not getting anything because you guys dont owe him anything.

My husband thinks the way to be good friends to people is to let them do, say and walk right over you.

So if I make his friend mad my husband will think that I am somewhat in the wrong.

09-20-2008, 12:11 AM	#1
Angel_baby Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Missouri Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,333	It Was A Gift! Yet He Expects The Money From It! My husband's friend gave us a pool table that he didn't want anymore 2 years ago. He now thinks he should get the money we got from selling it!!!! This person used to be a roommate with us. Since he was my husband's friend he only paid $150 a month for one of the rooms in our 3 bedroom house. He used the house as his own to so it wasn't like he was only renting his room. He also ate the meals I prepared without chipping in for food EVER. He has always been the "mooch" type of person though. Anyway, when my husband and I had our son we told him that we would like to have our own family without a roommate. We did not give him a time limit to move out. 3 months later he moved out. ---BUT--- He did not bother to pay us the last 3 weeks (almost a month) worth of rent. Not even when I asked him... he was short on money so he gave my husband a cheap pool table that he bought for $90, in exchange for the rent owed. He said he didn't want it anymore anyway. Well time went by, we had the pool table in the garage for 2 years, never played. So I put it in our yard sale today. I sold it for $75. My husband's friend found out through his girlfriend that we sold it.... here is the unbelievable part....! He then TOLD my husband (phone call) that he gets half the money of the sale!!!! When my husband told me this I got kind of mad and said "He can say whatever he wants but the money is ours and he isn't getting any of it". Well my husband's friend came over later and told my husband that he would just take our Sega Genesis Console with the games and controllers instead of the money!!! When my husband told me that I looked like this ----> This friend though didn't confront me at all when I was around him. I know it is because he knows he won't get it from me so he keeps trying to get it from my husband. He does this with other things to... like babysitting their baby for 8 hours, last minute, no pay... He knows my husband has trouble saying no. ANYWAY, do you all think it is right to give a gift to someone and then later on when that person sells, etc that item.... would you demand some of the money back??? __________________ Buy a PS3 if you like movies, Buy a 360 if you're a hardcore gamer. -- Tyler101

09-20-2008, 12:18 AM	#3
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,600	NO, he gave it to you in PAYMENT of what he owed YOU. Screw em. Tell him to get lost. __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

09-20-2008, 12:13 AM	#2
bijoux27 Offline Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,180	The guy is just a loser, ignore him..

09-20-2008, 12:18 AM	#4
kuiks8 Offline Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Female Posts: 3,273	that is ridiculous...he's just a taker...you keep your money angel...frig it's not like you made a lot off of it!

09-20-2008, 12:22 AM	#5
fragmint Offline Gold Member Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 628	um tell him to stay off your property and ignore him. also tell your husband to stop being a doormat. oh and next time he comes over, dont wait him to say something to you, just say something to him first. tell him hes not getting anything because you guys dont owe him anything.

09-20-2008, 12:27 AM	#7
kuiks8 Offline Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Female Posts: 3,273	good on you angel...just make sure you keep yourself safe in all this k

09-20-2008, 12:33 AM	#9
kuiks8 Offline Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Vancouver Gender: Female Posts: 3,273	what is your husband saying he must think this is pretty ludicrous as well. Sorry you are in so much pain...love and light coming your way!