My boyfriend and I have been together for six months. He has been a great boyfriend so far, but I found out something last night that made me think maybe he isn't as wonderful as I thought
Awhile ago his ex had contacted him, and he told me about it, and he said she would never contact him again. His ex told him that she said she was sorry for calling him and that it was a silly thing to do when she knows he is dating me. I was thankful that she sent him that message.
I recently found out that they have still been talking. After that conversation with her, he later told her that it wasn't a big deal if they kept talking, with that being said she continued to call him. And he kept this all a secret from me. He has been hiding the fact that he talks to is ex for about 4 months now and it is really upsetting me. I know that she could care less if they are friends or not, because she is dating a wonderful man, but its clear to me that my boyfriend feels a need to stay on contact with her.
I sent his ex a very nice email saying that i was confused as to why my boyfriend was hiding their conversations from me. I told my boyfriend about this, and he became VERY worried. I know he is worried because he knows his ex is going to be VERY upset that he has been lying to me (his ex is against lying and has no idea he has been hiding their conversations from me).
I have looked through my boyfriends phone, and saw the calls from her... they are very few (about two a month), and i know they are mostly concerning her car because she bought it off of my boyfriend.
I'm not too sure if I'm making too big of a deal out of this. I know my boyfriend loves me, but I think he might need some time to think things through. Not too sure where to go from here... if I should let it slide or give myself, and my boyfriend some space.