First STD check up- anyone else get like this?

limelight · 09-11-2008, 06:43 AM

Hey all

I went for my first STD check up yesterday, I admit I was nervous as Ive never had any kind of gynocologist examination.. I tend to be very tight and dry 'down there' and often dislike the use of fingers in that region at all. For some reason I got a little distressed when they used the plastic dialater for swabbing, I found it abit painful as I was tense shaky, and started sobbing! The women there was absolutley lovely but seemed concerned that I reacted that way and suggested it might be some psychological reason. I dont know why I was crying so much, I guess it was a combination of anxiety (which I suffer from periodically) and embarassment. It wasnt that big and they were very gentle.

Despite the somewhat unpleasent experience, It hasnt put me off going again if anything I think I wont find it as bad next time. I just wondered if anyone else has these kind of problems and what they do to help it?

Thanks

Honesty · 09-11-2008, 06:53 AM

I had my first one early this year and I CRIED a lot! Possibly for different reasons, it wasn't painful or physically uncomfortable, it was just the whole experience, it had built up inside of me and the nerves got to me. It is no problem that you found the experience emotional, it's normal.

Overall I'm glad I went. I requested to receive my results through text message..they said within 2 weeks. It was 3 and a half! But I got the text, it was a simple "the results of your recent screening test were negative".

I would go back, but I'd prefer not to, so I just won't put myself in a situation where I'll need to again

Hope this helps

Pocket Rocket · 09-11-2008, 06:53 AM

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Originally Posted by limelight

Hey all

I went for my first STD check up yesterday, I admit I was nervous as Ive never had any kind of gynocologist examination.. I tend to be very tight and dry 'down there' and often dislike the use of fingers in that region at all. For some reason I got a little distressed when they used the plastic dialater for swabbing, I found it abit painful as I was tense shaky, and started sobbing! The women there was absolutley lovely but seemed concerned that I reacted that way and suggested it might be some psychological reason. I dont know why I was crying so much, I guess it was a combination of anxiety (which I suffer from periodically) and embarassment. It wasnt that big and they were very gentle.

Despite the somewhat unpleasent experience, It hasnt put me off going again if anything I think I wont find it as bad next time. I just wondered if anyone else has these kind of problems and what they do to help it?

Thanks

Have you been sexually abused in the past? I think the reason she was worried may have been related to how some abuse victims react to getting tested. Going for an STD test can also be very nerve-racking when you suspect something is wrong - mixed with your usual anxiety and some embarassment it can tip you over the edge.

I think the more you go the more relaxed you'll become. You don't need to be embarassed there is nothing down there you should be ashamed of. They are very used to seeing everyone's 'bits', it's just their job, they're not judging you.

Batya33 · 09-11-2008, 08:21 AM

I hated my first checkup, and I never like getting my annual, but I've never been worried about having an STD, so the anxiety level about that was at a minimum. a good doctor will do her/his best to help you relax.

limelight · 09-11-2008, 10:13 AM

Thanks for feedback

I was embarrassed more by the fact I felt like a crybaby than what they actually saw. No ive never been abused, but I can see why they might have been concerned. Its not even as if I think Ive a high chance of having an STD, but yeah like you say- its emotional. Ive got to phone up for my results in a few weeks so just gonna put it at back of my mind for now

Scorpion Fury · 09-11-2008, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by limelight

Thanks for feedback

I was embarrassed more by the fact I felt like a crybaby than what they actually saw. No ive never been abused, but I can see why they might have been concerned. Its not even as if I think Ive a high chance of having an STD, but yeah like you say- its emotional. Ive got to phone up for my results in a few weeks so just gonna put it at back of my mind for now

I'm 24 and have been getting pap smears since I was 16 or so, and I still hate every minute of them. They are so uncomfortable and painful, and I always bleed a little after.

I think you were just nervous and that just made everything 100 times more uncomfortable and painful for you. and yeah, you feel pretty violated with them probing around in there. You'll be OK, it was just a first time experience and you didn't like it. Every woman I know hates going to the gyno.

I haven't found a way to make it pain-free, but trying to relax always helps. I know it's hard to relax thinking about a big plastic contraption going inside you, but the more tense you are the more painful it will be. I ALWAYS get cramping when they put the plastic thingie in me. So I guess the pain to some extent will be inevitable, but the good thing is it's over in a few minutes and you usually only have to do this about once a year!

amtjrtcet · 09-11-2008, 10:52 AM

I think its completely normal for an annual to feel uncomfortable and even slightly painful. I wish for one day a man could really understand what its like! EVERY SINGLE YEAR! To have to go and lay on a table naked and put your feet in stirrups and have a plastic tool put in your business and then be scraped and probed....They have no idea.

I get checked annually for stds, every time i go for my annual. I always use protection, but I still think its a good idea to get checked, even if you're in a monogamous relationship....b/c you never 'really' know what the other person is capable of. And even though I'm careful I still get anxious for about ten days following the exam wondering if they're gonna call....its normal.

ghost69 · 09-11-2008, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by amtjrtcet

I think its completely normal for an annual to feel uncomfortable and even slightly painful. I wish for one day a man could really understand what its like! EVERY SINGLE YEAR! To have to go and lay on a table naked and put your feet in stirrups and have a plastic tool put in your business and then be scraped and probed....They have no idea.

I get checked annually for stds, every time i go for my annual. I always use protection, but I still think its a good idea to get checked, even if you're in a monogamous relationship....b/c you never 'really' know what the other person is capable of. And even though I'm careful I still get anxious for about ten days following the exam wondering if they're gonna call....its normal.

are you serious? they guy gets a huge q-tip looking thing shoved up the hole.

Scorpion Fury · 09-11-2008, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by ghost69

are you serious? they guy gets a huge q-tip looking thing shoved up the hole.

the pee hole? What? Why?

ghost69 · 09-11-2008, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by HighlyUpset

the pee hole? What? Why?

for the test.

09-11-2008, 06:43 AM	#1
limelight Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 57	First STD check up- anyone else get like this? Hey all I went for my first STD check up yesterday, I admit I was nervous as Ive never had any kind of gynocologist examination.. I tend to be very tight and dry 'down there' and often dislike the use of fingers in that region at all. For some reason I got a little distressed when they used the plastic dialater for swabbing, I found it abit painful as I was tense shaky, and started sobbing! The women there was absolutley lovely but seemed concerned that I reacted that way and suggested it might be some psychological reason. I dont know why I was crying so much, I guess it was a combination of anxiety (which I suffer from periodically) and embarassment. It wasnt that big and they were very gentle. Despite the somewhat unpleasent experience, It hasnt put me off going again if anything I think I wont find it as bad next time. I just wondered if anyone else has these kind of problems and what they do to help it? Thanks __________________ "If my faults deserve punishment, my youth at least, and my imprudence, were worthy of excuse. God and posterity will show me more favour" Lady Jane Grey 1554

09-11-2008, 06:53 AM	#2
Honesty Offline Silver Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: U.K Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 365	I had my first one early this year and I CRIED a lot! Possibly for different reasons, it wasn't painful or physically uncomfortable, it was just the whole experience, it had built up inside of me and the nerves got to me. It is no problem that you found the experience emotional, it's normal. Overall I'm glad I went. I requested to receive my results through text message..they said within 2 weeks. It was 3 and a half! But I got the text, it was a simple "the results of your recent screening test were negative". I would go back, but I'd prefer not to, so I just won't put myself in a situation where I'll need to again Hope this helps __________________ I guess I could be peed off about what happened to me, but its hard to stay mad when theres so much beauty in the world. Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, & it's too much. My heart fills like a balloon thats about to burst. Then I remember to relax & stop trying to hold on to it, & then it flows through me like rain, & I feel nothing but gratitude for every moment of my stupid life.

09-11-2008, 10:13 AM	#5
limelight Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 57	Thanks for feedback I was embarrassed more by the fact I felt like a crybaby than what they actually saw. No ive never been abused, but I can see why they might have been concerned. Its not even as if I think Ive a high chance of having an STD, but yeah like you say- its emotional. Ive got to phone up for my results in a few weeks so just gonna put it at back of my mind for now __________________ "If my faults deserve punishment, my youth at least, and my imprudence, were worthy of excuse. God and posterity will show me more favour" Lady Jane Grey 1554

09-11-2008, 10:52 AM	#7
amtjrtcet Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,876	I think its completely normal for an annual to feel uncomfortable and even slightly painful. I wish for one day a man could really understand what its like! EVERY SINGLE YEAR! To have to go and lay on a table naked and put your feet in stirrups and have a plastic tool put in your business and then be scraped and probed....They have no idea. I get checked annually for stds, every time i go for my annual. I always use protection, but I still think its a good idea to get checked, even if you're in a monogamous relationship....b/c you never 'really' know what the other person is capable of. And even though I'm careful I still get anxious for about ten days following the exam wondering if they're gonna call....its normal. __________________ Whah, whah, whah, whah, whah...... Does this knife in my back make my ass look big? ~ Dancers are the athletes of God. ~

09-11-2008, 08:21 AM	#4
Batya33 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 19,074	I hated my first checkup, and I never like getting my annual, but I've never been worried about having an STD, so the anxiety level about that was at a minimum. a good doctor will do her/his best to help you relax.