My wife says she loves me a lot more than anything on this earth but she does not ever want to have sex with me'
Before we where married we had sex all the time. But since we have been married she does not want to be with me. She has in the past played with my penis, however she is distant and always makes me feel guilty that I even wanted to be with her. I love her and really do not want to cheat on her, but neither do I want to go the rest of my life without sex or feeling guilty after having sex. I am always trying to romance her... I may take her somewhere, for the weekend. I even Pack for her, compliment her, TALK to her, show her she's the most important person in the world to me... if she doesn't feel important and doesn't have quality time I don;t know what else I could do? I step up my efforts to help her out, I bring home flowers out of the blue, I do her most hated chore for her, I call from work just to say I love her. Sometimes I have surprised her with her favorite homemade meal/dessert, I am the one that does the dishes, cleans the house, and does the laundery most of the time. I will do anything she wants me to at any time without question.
More recently she has started to sleep in the spare room as my wife says she cannot stand my snoring, she also has Hot Flashes and she says it is cooler in there, but I know this is an excuse and just her way of not sleeping with me.
The problem is that now, I dont seem to be able to take it any more. I am becoming more and more desperate for physical and emotional closeness and am becoming obsessed with her - the way she looks, everything about her. I am depressed whenever she leaves the room, or goes to bed at night (separate room of course).
Here is the kicker...I am a decent guy I am bit overweight but I carry it pretty well I am told. I am no Brad Pitt...but for the most part I look good. I make a very good living and I treat my wife like a princess not because she demands it, but because I want to. She is fine driving a Focus or a Cadalic and although we live in a beautiful home, she would be happy in somethings less spectacular.
I really love her but the need for sex is efecting my health. What can I do?