Just tried online dating

mr.wrong · 08-30-2008, 09:32 PM

Obviously online dating makes its way to being a reality. However the initial chat and discussions are done online. I haven't made it on a date from the internet yet, but have one coming up very shortly. I'm a little nervous simply because I don't want to put so much emphasis on looks but thats kind of where we go since neither of us have personally met. What advice do you have?

shes2smart · 08-30-2008, 09:48 PM

I've done online dating. Met my husband online (but not through a dating site). Before the internet (yes, I am that old) I used to date through newspaper personals.

Of all the tips/advice I could give, I think this is the one I'd find most valuable.

Keep the first meeting short. No dinner-and-a-movie-several-hour-long date. Meeting at a place like a Starbucks for about an hour is fine. I'd avoid places that primarily serve alcohol (bar). If things go well, you can extend the meeting to include something to eat. If things aren't going well, spend your hour to be polite, enjoy your latte or hot chocolate, and make a graceful exit.

DtD · 08-31-2008, 01:31 AM

im a young man (21) and, no offense, think online dating (unless you've known the person previously) as sort of taboo. I'm too simple of a person to give to the digital world to find a soulmate. call me old fashioned, but I still believe the next person you bump into could be the one, without the help of a search engine.

please note: it is 12:31am and Im a bit under the table right now, so if nothing makes sense, sorry. if it makes perfectly good sense, well then, its just my dumb luck to hit the topic right on the head. so sorry/your welcome and good luck

kissipher · 08-31-2008, 09:22 PM

i think online dating has its ups and downs,i mean for one the internet broadens your search,not just to the women at bingo or the girl next door and by having so many possiblities you have more of a chance of meeting the right one only if both the ppl involved are genuine,but its easy to get sucked into to this fantasy world and forgot about the reality side,yes it cool talking to a guy or girl behind the safty of a screen,would it work in reality? well ive basically ended up having sex with good looking girls offline,but never lasted,but ill keep you updated if i find the one

MinziGirl · 09-23-2008, 01:13 AM

Just 1 tip: It is easier for anyone to hide behind screens. If you find someone whom you like, try to meet up in real life first as a friend and not a potential. Also, do it before any hard feelings starts flying.

If you like him/her, then more dates can follow & then maybe feelings starts flying then.

In my opinion, i think nothing good comes out of online dating because (some) people hides so much behind screens and are totally not honest about themselves. I am there only to meet people for online chats & online forum and not to date.

Godwin · 10-09-2008, 04:27 AM

I am not so sure that nothing comes out of online dating.

I met a great girl through it and granted it never worked out we still has lots of fun.

In terms of quality, well I have see loads of stunning girl on these sites. The girl I dated recently was easily a 8/10, outgoing and had a great career.

In terms of my profile, well I am probably the opposite of mosy people, my picture is terrible and I have probably lost 20 pounds since it was taken. I am much better looking in the flesh.

I would say that online dating is like real life, 90% of the time the people you meet will be unsuitable, 10% of the time you will find a diamond.

lumu · 10-09-2008, 07:28 PM

Met a guy I think might be the one but now i'm miserable because his life is taking him away from me and I miss him already.

My self doubts are encrouching on me. I wonder is he married and just lied to me? He is such a nice guy why didn't he have a gf already?

If he was into me wouldn't he be compelled to write to me like I am to him?

The date was great but none of the other guys i've met online even got past the you are creepy stage for me to want to meet them.

So the pickings are slim to none of good guys. At least guys who are good for me. This guy is perfect for me. Not perfect but for me he is. I'm an acquired taste and so is he.

08-30-2008, 09:32 PM	#1
mr.wrong Offline Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 15	Just tried online dating Obviously online dating makes its way to being a reality. However the initial chat and discussions are done online. I haven't made it on a date from the internet yet, but have one coming up very shortly. I'm a little nervous simply because I don't want to put so much emphasis on looks but thats kind of where we go since neither of us have personally met. What advice do you have?

08-30-2008, 09:48 PM	#2
shes2smart Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: same world, different server Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 5,139	I've done online dating. Met my husband online (but not through a dating site). Before the internet (yes, I am that old) I used to date through newspaper personals. Of all the tips/advice I could give, I think this is the one I'd find most valuable. Keep the first meeting short. No dinner-and-a-movie-several-hour-long date. Meeting at a place like a Starbucks for about an hour is fine. I'd avoid places that primarily serve alcohol (bar). If things go well, you can extend the meeting to include something to eat. If things aren't going well, spend your hour to be polite, enjoy your latte or hot chocolate, and make a graceful exit. __________________ "But there's no use crying over every mistake You just keep on trying til you run out of cake"

09-23-2008, 01:13 AM	#5
MinziGirl Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 471	Just 1 tip: It is easier for anyone to hide behind screens. If you find someone whom you like, try to meet up in real life first as a friend and not a potential. Also, do it before any hard feelings starts flying. If you like him/her, then more dates can follow & then maybe feelings starts flying then. In my opinion, i think nothing good comes out of online dating because (some) people hides so much behind screens and are totally not honest about themselves. I am there only to meet people for online chats & online forum and not to date. __________________ Courtesy is for free and it is for you & me :-)

10-09-2008, 04:27 AM	#6
Godwin Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: UK Age: 31 Posts: 459	I am not so sure that nothing comes out of online dating. I met a great girl through it and granted it never worked out we still has lots of fun. In terms of quality, well I have see loads of stunning girl on these sites. The girl I dated recently was easily a 8/10, outgoing and had a great career. In terms of my profile, well I am probably the opposite of mosy people, my picture is terrible and I have probably lost 20 pounds since it was taken. I am much better looking in the flesh. I would say that online dating is like real life, 90% of the time the people you meet will be unsuitable, 10% of the time you will find a diamond. __________________ Who knows what tomorrow brings In this world where everyone lies Where to go No matter how far I find To let you know That you're not alone

08-31-2008, 01:31 AM	#3
DtD Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 29	im a young man (21) and, no offense, think online dating (unless you've known the person previously) as sort of taboo. I'm too simple of a person to give to the digital world to find a soulmate. call me old fashioned, but I still believe the next person you bump into could be the one, without the help of a search engine. please note: it is 12:31am and Im a bit under the table right now, so if nothing makes sense, sorry. if it makes perfectly good sense, well then, its just my dumb luck to hit the topic right on the head. so sorry/your welcome and good luck

08-31-2008, 09:22 PM	#4
kissipher Offline Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 46	i think online dating has its ups and downs,i mean for one the internet broadens your search,not just to the women at bingo or the girl next door and by having so many possiblities you have more of a chance of meeting the right one only if both the ppl involved are genuine,but its easy to get sucked into to this fantasy world and forgot about the reality side,yes it cool talking to a guy or girl behind the safty of a screen,would it work in reality? well ive basically ended up having sex with good looking girls offline,but never lasted,but ill keep you updated if i find the one

10-09-2008, 07:28 PM	#7
lumu Offline Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 423	Met a guy I think might be the one but now i'm miserable because his life is taking him away from me and I miss him already. My self doubts are encrouching on me. I wonder is he married and just lied to me? He is such a nice guy why didn't he have a gf already? If he was into me wouldn't he be compelled to write to me like I am to him? The date was great but none of the other guys i've met online even got past the you are creepy stage for me to want to meet them. So the pickings are slim to none of good guys. At least guys who are good for me. This guy is perfect for me. Not perfect but for me he is. I'm an acquired taste and so is he.