God I just need to vent and get advice and just relax my thoughts for gods sake!

CoCo2009 · 08-26-2008, 11:23 AM

I am trying whatever I can do to lead a normal life and keep my thoughts in check but it seems impossible. I feel like I need to be in a mental institution or something. I can't stop obsessing over my boyfriend going to mexico this weekend. I nagged him to death about not dancing with other girls and he said he wouldn't and he isnt' going to partying like that blah blah blah . I don't know how to do this. I feel like I'm breaking down. I'm taking these damn anti depressants and trying to wait until I get into therapy and I'm just going crazy trying not to break up with him because I love him and I see he is trying to cooperate but who knows what he will do to hurt me. How am I going to survive?

**BlueAfterglow08** · 08-26-2008, 11:28 AM

I was just like you. It helped contribute towards the end of my relationship. When you really care about someone you worry and obsess sometimes. You have to learn to get a reign on it. Perhaps your anxiety meds will help you out with it.

He wont hurt you. If you love him, let him have some freedom and he'll love you and respect you all the more. Its so much easier said than done. but its possible. Hes with you, he got back with you, he loves you.

CoCo2009 · 08-26-2008, 11:31 AM

I feel like I'm panicking though because I won't see him after today for like 5 days or something and he won't call because he will be out having fun and doing things that I just don't know.....

You see why I was going to break up now? I'm not a good person to be with.

**BlueAfterglow08** · 08-26-2008, 11:45 AM

Yes you are, i've talked to you when your having an up moment and your lovely and funny. Your not a bad person you've got issues hence the anti depressents. Give yourself time and take it slow. Just talk yourself out of these thoughts.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. make some plans for yourself!

BeStrongBeHappy · 08-26-2008, 11:53 AM

Just take a deep breath and remind yourself you are not thinking clearly right now.

You definitely need some counseling, and should tell yourself it is OK to put these kinds of negative feelings on a shelf for a while until after you've got some counseling.

Make a goal to NOT break up with him until after you've had some therapy and can judge what to do. The point is you can always break up with him, but if it is a mistake, getting back with him won't be easy, so better to just put it aside for a while and not make a rash choice.

Perhaps you need anti-anxiety medication in addition to anti-depressents, or medication specifically targeted to obsessive thoughts. Consider making another appt. with your doctor right now to deal with this.

CoCo2009 · 08-26-2008, 11:54 AM

well I go back in two weeks and he then I am trying to come up with some money for therapy in 2 weeks also. But its just too much to handle. I feel like I can't deal or be happy.

Lana0120 · 08-26-2008, 12:54 PM

So what's the problem here? Do you have any reason not to trust your boyfriend? If you have a reason not to, finish with him. If you don't, just tell him to keep in touch and get on with other stuff.

Victoria66 · 08-26-2008, 12:58 PM

Just stay calm girl!! Do not look for things to panic about, I know it is hard but take things a minute at a time. For 5 mins do not panic and then another 5 etc. Really honey freaking out will not control people. You want him to be with you and love you cause he wants to, not because you are nagging him. Believe me if he loves you he is not going to do anything wrong while in Mexico. HUG

CoCo2009 · 08-26-2008, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Lana0120

So what's the problem here? Do you have any reason not to trust your boyfriend? If you have a reason not to, finish with him. If you don't, just tell him to keep in touch and get on with other stuff.

No he hasn't done anything untrust worthy but who knows I won't be there so what if he thinks I will never find out? I hate this crap.

Lana0120 · 08-26-2008, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by InLoveForSure

No he hasn't done anything untrust worthy but who knows I won't be there so what if he thinks I will never find out? I hate this crap.

It's interesting. A friend of mine once said something like that when her bf went away for some work training for six weeks. Who knows what he could have got up to, sort of thing. It's a waste of time thinking about anything like that and I'm sure you've got tons of better things to do anyway. Just trust him, relax, and if he comes home with lipstick on his shirt collars and his clothes smell like some woman's perfume and he won't look you in the eye, THEN worry.

08-26-2008, 11:23 AM	#1
CoCo2009 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 2,517	God I just need to vent and get advice and just relax my thoughts for gods sake! I am trying whatever I can do to lead a normal life and keep my thoughts in check but it seems impossible. I feel like I need to be in a mental institution or something. I can't stop obsessing over my boyfriend going to mexico this weekend. I nagged him to death about not dancing with other girls and he said he wouldn't and he isnt' going to partying like that blah blah blah . I don't know how to do this. I feel like I'm breaking down. I'm taking these damn anti depressants and trying to wait until I get into therapy and I'm just going crazy trying not to break up with him because I love him and I see he is trying to cooperate but who knows what he will do to hurt me. How am I going to survive?

08-26-2008, 11:28 AM	#2
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,256	I was just like you. It helped contribute towards the end of my relationship. When you really care about someone you worry and obsess sometimes. You have to learn to get a reign on it. Perhaps your anxiety meds will help you out with it. He wont hurt you. If you love him, let him have some freedom and he'll love you and respect you all the more. Its so much easier said than done. but its possible. Hes with you, he got back with you, he loves you. __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

08-26-2008, 11:45 AM	#4
BlueAfterglow08 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: UK Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 5,256	Yes you are, i've talked to you when your having an up moment and your lovely and funny. Your not a bad person you've got issues hence the anti depressents. Give yourself time and take it slow. Just talk yourself out of these thoughts. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. make some plans for yourself! __________________ Please see the forum rules before posting http://www.enotalone.com/forum/forum-rules.php ''Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.' -Mahatma Gandhi'

08-26-2008, 12:58 PM	#8
Victoria66 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: for now where the CF sends us Gender: Female Age: 43 Posts: 4,600	Just stay calm girl!! Do not look for things to panic about, I know it is hard but take things a minute at a time. For 5 mins do not panic and then another 5 etc. Really honey freaking out will not control people. You want him to be with you and love you cause he wants to, not because you are nagging him. Believe me if he loves you he is not going to do anything wrong while in Mexico. HUG __________________ ADHD= Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. For my Indigo son. Know how to suffer and how to laugh. Mother Teresa If you judge people you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa Run amok empath= the end of little miss nice girl. Tomorrow IS another day. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5EM7FaOc3Zk What Child Is This.

08-26-2008, 11:31 AM	#3
CoCo2009 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 2,517	I feel like I'm panicking though because I won't see him after today for like 5 days or something and he won't call because he will be out having fun and doing things that I just don't know..... You see why I was going to break up now? I'm not a good person to be with.

08-26-2008, 11:53 AM	#5
BeStrongBeHappy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 7,417	Just take a deep breath and remind yourself you are not thinking clearly right now. You definitely need some counseling, and should tell yourself it is OK to put these kinds of negative feelings on a shelf for a while until after you've got some counseling. Make a goal to NOT break up with him until after you've had some therapy and can judge what to do. The point is you can always break up with him, but if it is a mistake, getting back with him won't be easy, so better to just put it aside for a while and not make a rash choice. Perhaps you need anti-anxiety medication in addition to anti-depressents, or medication specifically targeted to obsessive thoughts. Consider making another appt. with your doctor right now to deal with this.

08-26-2008, 11:54 AM	#6
CoCo2009 Offline Silver Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: California Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 2,517	well I go back in two weeks and he then I am trying to come up with some money for therapy in 2 weeks also. But its just too much to handle. I feel like I can't deal or be happy.

08-26-2008, 12:54 PM	#7
Lana0120 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 3,467	So what's the problem here? Do you have any reason not to trust your boyfriend? If you have a reason not to, finish with him. If you don't, just tell him to keep in touch and get on with other stuff.