Boyfriend works alllll the tiiiiime

miss_chris · 08-25-2008, 08:51 PM

Ok, so my boyfriend is a workaholic. He works ATLEAST 12 hour days sometimes 12+ hour daysss and never gets a day off! argg. I usually don't have a problem with this, because hes a farmer and it is harvest time right now, so of course he's going to be busy, but what's bothering me is that he's leaving in less then a week to go to college and is spending like 0 time with me before he goes

He gets up at 6 or 7 am, is at work for 7am-8 am and works until 10 or 11 pm. by the time he gets home its either 10:30 or 11:30 and he comes over to my place *sometimes* to visit me but we only get to visit for like an hour max, because he falls asleep on me and gets up at 2 or 3 am to go home! I know i'm probably being selfish but it just makes me sad that he's leaving so soon and i'm not getting any time in with him. I don't want to complain to him but it's really getting me down as his leaving date arrives sooner and sooner

redhearts · 08-25-2008, 09:01 PM

Ask him if there is anyway possible that you could just get one day with him, or even a little extra, or if he could somehow get off? Because you want to do something just the two of you.

Ya know I heard of this site a farmer made, for other farmers to find people to date who are farmers, lol. Heh just something I thought was funny, because I didn't know farmers worked such long hours, how can they date?

miss_chris · 08-25-2008, 09:07 PM

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Originally Posted by redhearts

Ya know I heard of this site a farmer made, for other farmers to find people to date who are farmers, lol. Heh just something I thought was funny, because I didn't know farmers worked such long hours, how can they date?

ahhh you have no idea!! he is always fixing something or baling or hauling bales or checking cow's or swathing or combining..! drives me crazy. atleast when hes swathing or combining i sometimes drive out to the feild 40 mins from my house! to spend a few hours with him riding around while he does his work. ain't i a nice girlfriend? ha.

Daligal83 · 08-25-2008, 09:14 PM

He gets a lunch break, right? Maybe offer to bring him lunch a couple times a week so you have some extra time together and he's gets a nicer lunch than he'd probably bring for himself!

redhearts · 08-25-2008, 09:14 PM

Thats rather interesting, why not try to surprise him with a picnic!=] I'm sure he could spare 20-30 min and have a nice romantic picnic.

miss_chris · 08-25-2008, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Daligal83

He gets a lunch break, right? Maybe offer to bring him lunch a couple times a week so you have some extra time together and he's gets a nicer lunch than he'd probably bring for himself!

Sounds like a good idea, but he usually just eats his lunch on the go

Daligal83 · 08-25-2008, 09:23 PM

If you approached him and stated that you understand how hard he works and you'd like to have more time together before he goes, so you thought lunch together once in awhile would be a good way to do that. He might stop eating on the go for just two or three days out of the week so that you can be together.

redhearts · 08-25-2008, 09:23 PM

What the !!! LOL Why does he make it impossible?! Haha, okay can you ask him what time he gets his lunch at? Just say your curious or ya want to talk on the phone or make something up.=] Then show up 10 maybe 16 minutes early to make sure he didn't take it early or jets off at the second he gets it!

AwdreeHpburn · 08-25-2008, 09:28 PM

I feel ya. My husband works 12-16 hours days most of the time too. There's ALWAYS a problem needs troubleshooting or a deadline or a con call or a client visit... ALWAYS!

Ima keep my eye on this thread for ideas cos I haven't figgered it out yet either.....

miss_chris · 08-25-2008, 09:29 PM

haha, i dont know why he makes it impossible!! His lunch = eating a sandwich in the swather for like 10 mins, while hes driving. Not much of a lunch break if you ask me lol! I could ask him about having lunch together but he would probably have to check it over with his boss first. Ah i swear he works him to the bone.. thats why i feel so bad for complaining that he works way too much, its not really his fault..

08-25-2008, 08:51 PM	#1
miss_chris Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 133	Boyfriend works alllll the tiiiiime Ok, so my boyfriend is a workaholic. He works ATLEAST 12 hour days sometimes 12+ hour daysss and never gets a day off! argg. I usually don't have a problem with this, because hes a farmer and it is harvest time right now, so of course he's going to be busy, but what's bothering me is that he's leaving in less then a week to go to college and is spending like 0 time with me before he goes He gets up at 6 or 7 am, is at work for 7am-8 am and works until 10 or 11 pm. by the time he gets home its either 10:30 or 11:30 and he comes over to my place sometimes to visit me but we only get to visit for like an hour max, because he falls asleep on me and gets up at 2 or 3 am to go home! I know i'm probably being selfish but it just makes me sad that he's leaving so soon and i'm not getting any time in with him. I don't want to complain to him but it's really getting me down as his leaving date arrives sooner and sooner

08-25-2008, 09:14 PM	#4
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,033	He gets a lunch break, right? Maybe offer to bring him lunch a couple times a week so you have some extra time together and he's gets a nicer lunch than he'd probably bring for himself! __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

08-25-2008, 09:23 PM	#7
Daligal83 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Gender: Female Age: 26 Posts: 3,033	If you approached him and stated that you understand how hard he works and you'd like to have more time together before he goes, so you thought lunch together once in awhile would be a good way to do that. He might stop eating on the go for just two or three days out of the week so that you can be together. __________________ Have no fear of perfection, you'll never reach it. ~Salvador Dali~ "If you can't trust, then you can't be trusted" -Ben Folds

08-25-2008, 09:28 PM	#9
AwdreeHpburn Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Tiffany's Gender: Female Age: 37 Posts: 4,639	I feel ya. My husband works 12-16 hours days most of the time too. There's ALWAYS a problem needs troubleshooting or a deadline or a con call or a client visit... ALWAYS! Ima keep my eye on this thread for ideas cos I haven't figgered it out yet either..... __________________ What i really meant to say, is that I'm sorry for the way I am......

08-25-2008, 09:01 PM	#2
redhearts Offline Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 4,623	Ask him if there is anyway possible that you could just get one day with him, or even a little extra, or if he could somehow get off? Because you want to do something just the two of you. Ya know I heard of this site a farmer made, for other farmers to find people to date who are farmers, lol. Heh just something I thought was funny, because I didn't know farmers worked such long hours, how can they date?

08-25-2008, 09:29 PM	#10
miss_chris Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Posts: 133	haha, i dont know why he makes it impossible!! His lunch = eating a sandwich in the swather for like 10 mins, while hes driving. Not much of a lunch break if you ask me lol! I could ask him about having lunch together but he would probably have to check it over with his boss first. Ah i swear he works him to the bone.. thats why i feel so bad for complaining that he works way too much, its not really his fault..