Weight loss due to our breakups

Fireman Sam · 07-13-2008, 08:19 PM

Hopefully this will be a lighthearted thread. Lord knows we all need one!!!

I never thought I would ever have a six-pack again.....yet here I am, 60 days till my 40th birthday...and I'm in the best shape I've been in for the last decade.

In the first couple of weeks since breaking up, I went from 178lb to 161lb...in just about 3 weeks. That was almost 1lb each day. I'm also training like a madman (weights and running).

This is the only good thing thats happened to me in the last 7 weeks.

Any other good stories about how their breakups have given them the drive & motivation to improve their health/fitness/physique??

WaterIsLife · 07-13-2008, 09:24 PM

Oh yeah, same here. I lost the little bit of fat I had (I'm a slim guy anyway). Maybe 5-10 lbs lost. Started back in the gym and running, got the 6-pack back, way more energy than I've had for a long time, started my own garden (I find exercising makes me want to eat healthier), plus I've got the time to do what I want to do! Spur of the moment decision to spend the afternoon kayaking???? DONE!!!

stereoeclectic · 07-13-2008, 09:36 PM

i almost always lose weight after a breakup.

in 2005, i lost very near 100 pounds, about 60 of which were lost after the breakup.

after my breakup last year, i lost another 25.

i gained a little weight in between, so i lost a total of about 110.

i'm finally at my metlife tables ideal weight range. i am now thin, which i previously thought was impossible.

helplesslyhoping · 07-13-2008, 10:18 PM

I hear ya!

Last summer when my STBX moved out after telling me about his affair, I couldn't eat. I threw up every time I tried to. I went from 220 to 180 in 3 monhs. I hadn't gained any back at all this past year and I even quit smoking too.

He came back in the fall last year. Moved out again in May 08. I've gained 5#.

I'm terrified I might gain it all back!!!

Clementine orange · 07-13-2008, 10:45 PM

This was a bunch of years back but when I was dumped by my g/f, I quit smoking. I'd been meaning to for a while anyway but since she smoked it was really hard. Out of anger and dispear, I quit smoking and it gave me something to occupy my time with during the breakup grieving process ("I miss her" rapidly became "I miss smoking")

Flash forward a bit and though this isn't a breakup, a girl I really liked finally told me why she wouldn't date me - I wasn't "buff" enough. That inspired me to go to the gym. In fact sometimes when I'm doing reps and right near the end and needing focus/inspiration instead of counting I will spell out her name (fairly long name).

I should probably thank both these women. They have no idea what a positive affect they had on my life.

bambina maxima · 07-14-2008, 12:02 AM

Three years ago, after a rough breakup, I lost 25 pounds lickity-split, but it was not in a good way. I got way too skinny. But eventually I gained it back.

Over the crashing and burning of the latest split, i've more slowly (and more healthily) lost almost 15 pounds, and feel great. I've been running regularly and keeping a calorie log so I know exactly where I'm at every day. I've been varying my work-outs and running with friends, which has improved both my social life and my fitness level.

The trick for me is running -- if I feel anxious, it helps calm me down, and of course there's the benefit of losing weight.

I'd like to find a way to avoid gaining that 10-15 "comfort pounds" if I ever find myself in another serious relationship again. It feels good to be fit. I think this time around I've learned more healthy ways of dealing with the emotions that surround a break-up.

arcadefire · 07-14-2008, 12:19 AM

My breakup never gave me any desire to work on my body... I just naturally lost around ten pounds due to not having an appetite at all. I never knew my body could do that, where I could eat half a meal and couldn't stomach any more. It was bizarre. I'm slowly getting back though, and as I move over him I gradually see my appetite for life, love, and food coming back!

Panda2008 · 07-14-2008, 07:09 AM

You're so lucky! I have been going to the gym 3 or 4 times a week for three months and have only lost 7lbs - and that's with LOTS OF EFFORT!

Tiger_19 · 07-14-2008, 12:14 PM

It's funny how this all works. When you get of of a relationship you are thrown our of your comfort zone. This causes you to be more socially aware than you were when you were taken. You also obviously feel the desire to become more attractive to others when you are currently not in a dating relationship.

Survical of the fittest, haha.

lostnva · 07-14-2008, 08:26 PM

I have lost 15lbs. in 3 weeks! Not healthy I know...Im 5'9 and now weigh 120...but I cant eat, or sleep (without pills). And the smell of food makes me wanna get sick!

07-13-2008, 08:19 PM	#1
Fireman Sam Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: SoCal Gender: Male Posts: 151	Weight loss due to our breakups Hopefully this will be a lighthearted thread. Lord knows we all need one!!! I never thought I would ever have a six-pack again.....yet here I am, 60 days till my 40th birthday...and I'm in the best shape I've been in for the last decade. In the first couple of weeks since breaking up, I went from 178lb to 161lb...in just about 3 weeks. That was almost 1lb each day. I'm also training like a madman (weights and running). This is the only good thing thats happened to me in the last 7 weeks. Any other good stories about how their breakups have given them the drive & motivation to improve their health/fitness/physique??

07-13-2008, 09:24 PM	#2
WaterIsLife Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Sunny Florida Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 1,260	Oh yeah, same here. I lost the little bit of fat I had (I'm a slim guy anyway). Maybe 5-10 lbs lost. Started back in the gym and running, got the 6-pack back, way more energy than I've had for a long time, started my own garden (I find exercising makes me want to eat healthier), plus I've got the time to do what I want to do! Spur of the moment decision to spend the afternoon kayaking???? DONE!!! __________________ "...because as we know, there are known knowns; there are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns; that is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns-the ones we don't know we don't know." ~ former USA Secretary of Defense Donald Rumsfeld.

07-13-2008, 10:18 PM	#4
helplesslyhoping Offline Bronze Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Suburban Hell Gender: Female Age: 40 Posts: 138	I hear ya! Last summer when my STBX moved out after telling me about his affair, I couldn't eat. I threw up every time I tried to. I went from 220 to 180 in 3 monhs. I hadn't gained any back at all this past year and I even quit smoking too. He came back in the fall last year. Moved out again in May 08. I've gained 5#. I'm terrified I might gain it all back!!! __________________ If he's dumb enough to leave, be smart enough to let him

07-14-2008, 12:02 AM	#6
bambina maxima Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 273	Three years ago, after a rough breakup, I lost 25 pounds lickity-split, but it was not in a good way. I got way too skinny. But eventually I gained it back. Over the crashing and burning of the latest split, i've more slowly (and more healthily) lost almost 15 pounds, and feel great. I've been running regularly and keeping a calorie log so I know exactly where I'm at every day. I've been varying my work-outs and running with friends, which has improved both my social life and my fitness level. The trick for me is running -- if I feel anxious, it helps calm me down, and of course there's the benefit of losing weight. I'd like to find a way to avoid gaining that 10-15 "comfort pounds" if I ever find myself in another serious relationship again. It feels good to be fit. I think this time around I've learned more healthy ways of dealing with the emotions that surround a break-up. __________________ "Mr. Treehorn treats objects like women, man!" -- The Dude, The Big Lebowski

07-14-2008, 12:19 AM	#7
arcadefire Offline Platinum Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,288	My breakup never gave me any desire to work on my body... I just naturally lost around ten pounds due to not having an appetite at all. I never knew my body could do that, where I could eat half a meal and couldn't stomach any more. It was bizarre. I'm slowly getting back though, and as I move over him I gradually see my appetite for life, love, and food coming back! __________________ I've been searching for a heart of gold... - Neil Young

07-13-2008, 09:36 PM	#3
stereoeclectic Offline Bronze Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Male Age: 35 Posts: 172	i almost always lose weight after a breakup. in 2005, i lost very near 100 pounds, about 60 of which were lost after the breakup. after my breakup last year, i lost another 25. i gained a little weight in between, so i lost a total of about 110. i'm finally at my metlife tables ideal weight range. i am now thin, which i previously thought was impossible.

07-13-2008, 10:45 PM	#5
Clementine orange Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: La Belle Province Gender: Male Posts: 3,665	This was a bunch of years back but when I was dumped by my g/f, I quit smoking. I'd been meaning to for a while anyway but since she smoked it was really hard. Out of anger and dispear, I quit smoking and it gave me something to occupy my time with during the breakup grieving process ("I miss her" rapidly became "I miss smoking") Flash forward a bit and though this isn't a breakup, a girl I really liked finally told me why she wouldn't date me - I wasn't "buff" enough. That inspired me to go to the gym. In fact sometimes when I'm doing reps and right near the end and needing focus/inspiration instead of counting I will spell out her name (fairly long name). I should probably thank both these women. They have no idea what a positive affect they had on my life.

07-14-2008, 07:09 AM	#8
Panda2008 Offline Bronze Member Join Date: May 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 252	You're so lucky! I have been going to the gym 3 or 4 times a week for three months and have only lost 7lbs - and that's with LOTS OF EFFORT!

07-14-2008, 12:14 PM	#9
Tiger_19 Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Thunder Bay, Ontario Posts: 5	It's funny how this all works. When you get of of a relationship you are thrown our of your comfort zone. This causes you to be more socially aware than you were when you were taken. You also obviously feel the desire to become more attractive to others when you are currently not in a dating relationship. Survical of the fittest, haha.

07-14-2008, 08:26 PM	#10
lostnva Offline Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Ric Va Gender: Female Age: 31 Posts: 183	I have lost 15lbs. in 3 weeks! Not healthy I know...Im 5'9 and now weigh 120...but I cant eat, or sleep (without pills). And the smell of food makes me wanna get sick!