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07-11-2008, 07:07 PM
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A little rant...
The last 4 years I have asked about a dozen girls if they'd like to be more than just friends...
Ironic - the answer is usually: "I have a boyfriend" or "Let's just be friends" or some have even started to tell "I don't trust guys anymore", BTW those "I don't trust guys anymore" kind of girls somehow end up having guys after I meet them again in a while... What I don't understand is that they like hanging around or even cuddling with me, but it seems like I'm just a one-night fun guy for them... I'm fed up of having FUN with random girls, I want something more serious... Now I feel like the next girl I meet will cause me a heart-attack if she says "Let's just be friends" or something like that... The last thing was when I had a few dates with a very nice girl whom I met at the university - but then one night she sent a message to my cell phone which said: "wine, a great show, and great night with the greatest guy I've ever met..." (her now-boyfriend), at least after that I know how apathy feels like... That was the first time I really started to feel like my heart is going to stop working... What I know clearly is that I'm NOT trying too hard, I'm not desperately trying to get them, I just have a good time, dates and ask them if they'd like to establish something more, I don't even look at every girl like a freak or something... And I know MANY, MANY girls... I don't have problems with my appearance, out of 10 girls only one or two won't flirt with me, even some buddies lately fixed that their girlfriends like talking to me and thought that I'm going to hook up with them, lol... It would be fun for them to find out that the guy who's always having such great contact with girls has never had a girlfriend... That feels so stupid to have a plenty of female friends, even being popular among many people, but never having experienced a REAL relationship... Until now I was fine with who I am, but now it feels like I'm going to explode...
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07-11-2008, 07:18 PM
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Maybe they just feel too comfortable with you at first. You said yourself you meet up with them, have a nice cuddle and they like you. It sounds like you're a likeable guy, you just need to come across more like a potential partner than as a good friend.
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07-11-2008, 07:33 PM
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07-11-2008, 07:36 PM
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Have you though? By all accounts you're a good looking, likeable guy, but girls still end up only wanting to be your friend. Maybe the problem is you want a relationship too much and that comes across without you realising it? I don't know. I can understand your frustration though. Isn't there a good friend who you can take aside who can give you some idea of why this is happening?
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07-11-2008, 07:57 PM
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You don't ask a girl to be more....you just let it happen by making moves,asking out on dates and when the time is right you just move to the next level.
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07-11-2008, 09:52 PM
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On the other hand, perhaps you come off as too desperate for a relationship? I know you said that you don't. But your post to me sounds like you do.
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07-12-2008, 08:00 AM
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07-13-2008, 05:54 AM
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i think you're putting too much pressure on these situations.
Sounds like you are asking girls to be moe than friends who have already assumed that is all it is? Have you tried asking a girl you don't already know as a friend on a date? Surely if you ask a girl to have dinner with you...they will accept knowing it is a date, therefore not just friends hanging out? Also, maybe don't cuddle with these girls til you know they are interested in dating you? Good luck! And don't worry, I haven't had a relationship in 4 years and people always tell me they cant believe it either. But much better to wait for someone special than to have a serious relationship just for the sake of it.
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