is "spending money for you" one way a guy shows his true interest?

newyorkpsps · 07-03-2008, 04:56 PM

I'm a woman who never wants or do one night stand or friends with benifit. and I always offer to pay, if a guy pays for 1st date, I will pay for the 2nd. etc

anyway, my question is if a guy is interested in you as a person, will he spend money for you even if he knows you won't sleep with him untill months (or maybe a year)later?

just curious. is money sortof a measuring tool that helps you decide what a guy wants? thanks.

Cognitive_Canine · 07-03-2008, 05:03 PM

No, I wouldn't say so.

Some men just find it emasculating if a woman pays for dinner.

So, it's not always a good measurement.

Crazyaboutdogs · 07-03-2008, 05:09 PM

No, money is not an indicator of what a guy wants. Sure there are some men who think that they should get lucky if they spend money on the woman, but I don't think most men think like that. At any rate, in this day and age many women are so eager to have sex with a guy even if the guy doesn't pay for them so money for sex is no longer an issue!

newyorkpsps · 07-03-2008, 05:17 PM

I'd gone out with a guy before, he would spend $60 for dinner first date to show his interest, (I paid him back later in other ways) then we started dating for about two months, he never even offer to take me out to dinner again... maybe that's because I clearly stated that I don't want casual sex... he bails out after two months...anyway, that's where I get the impression that if a man won't offer to spend money for you, he's not interested enough.... I admit I might be wrong.

Mlost · 07-03-2008, 05:31 PM

I think the majority of guys see paying when you first start dating as a way of showing interest. It doesn't necessarily mean they're automatically expecting sex as a repayment. It's just still the traditional part of "courting" that's part of the whole process.

NewPhillyGuy · 07-03-2008, 05:31 PM

no, cause he just might like blowing money.

SpeedingCars · 07-03-2008, 05:43 PM

It depends on how rich he is. If he has money to blow out of his {edit}, I wouldn't take him dropping $100+ on dinner as a sign of anything...

If money is something that does not come easily for him and he works really really hard for it and he spends a good amount on dinner, presents, etc. then I'm sure he's genuinely interested in you.

But then again, I might be dead wrong. You can't really tell a man's intentions by obvserving how they spend their money on you.

Superfreak · 07-03-2008, 05:59 PM

You could try judging his character and actions as a whole rather then relying on this incredibly dubious indicator. If someone truly isn't interested in you, you'll know.

Lana0120 · 07-03-2008, 06:37 PM

No. A guy could spend money because he is serious about you or because he wants to get in your pants. At the end of the day, a drink or a meal is still cheaper than getting a hooker, I expect... How much money he spends on you is a factor combined with many others, and it isn't even the most important one imo. You should be looking at the way he treats you, how much he initiates contact with you, how much he tries to involve you in his life and get involved in yours, amongst many other things.

**lady00** · 07-03-2008, 10:07 PM

Nah, it's not a great indicator. I know some guys who spend money on women and expect nothing in return, just enjoy the company. Then there are some who expect something. Then there are those who are genuinely interested an want to treat the girl to something once in a while. They're all over the map.

07-03-2008, 04:56 PM	#1
newyorkpsps Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 125	is "spending money for you" one way a guy shows his true interest? I'm a woman who never wants or do one night stand or friends with benifit. and I always offer to pay, if a guy pays for 1st date, I will pay for the 2nd. etc anyway, my question is if a guy is interested in you as a person, will he spend money for you even if he knows you won't sleep with him untill months (or maybe a year)later? just curious. is money sortof a measuring tool that helps you decide what a guy wants? thanks.

07-03-2008, 05:31 PM	#5
Mlost Offline Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Orange County Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 560	I think the majority of guys see paying when you first start dating as a way of showing interest. It doesn't necessarily mean they're automatically expecting sex as a repayment. It's just still the traditional part of "courting" that's part of the whole process. __________________ Signposts don't normally provide you with advance photographs of what you'll find at the end of the road, but that doesn't mean they aren't pointing in the right direction. ~ N.T. Wright "Surprised by Hope"

07-03-2008, 05:43 PM	#7
SpeedingCars Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: TEXAS! Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 627	It depends on how rich he is. If he has money to blow out of his {edit}, I wouldn't take him dropping $100+ on dinner as a sign of anything... If money is something that does not come easily for him and he works really really hard for it and he spends a good amount on dinner, presents, etc. then I'm sure he's genuinely interested in you. But then again, I might be dead wrong. You can't really tell a man's intentions by obvserving how they spend their money on you. __________________ "And I hope one day you see nobody has it easy." - John Legend <3 Last edited by 15 Storeys High; 07-04-2008 at 10:05 AM. Reason: No swearing please

07-03-2008, 10:07 PM	#10
lady00 Offline Super Moderator Join Date: May 2004 Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 7,869	Nah, it's not a great indicator. I know some guys who spend money on women and expect nothing in return, just enjoy the company. Then there are some who expect something. Then there are those who are genuinely interested an want to treat the girl to something once in a while. They're all over the map. __________________ "When I fall in love, I take my time." - Jason Mraz "Can't sing but I've got soul." - U2

07-03-2008, 05:03 PM	#2
Cognitive_Canine Online Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Somewhere over the rainbow Gender: Female Posts: 11,326	No, I wouldn't say so. Some men just find it emasculating if a woman pays for dinner. So, it's not always a good measurement.

07-03-2008, 05:09 PM	#3
Crazyaboutdogs Online Platinum Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 46 Posts: 15,631	No, money is not an indicator of what a guy wants. Sure there are some men who think that they should get lucky if they spend money on the woman, but I don't think most men think like that. At any rate, in this day and age many women are so eager to have sex with a guy even if the guy doesn't pay for them so money for sex is no longer an issue!

07-03-2008, 05:17 PM	#4
newyorkpsps Offline Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 125	I'd gone out with a guy before, he would spend $60 for dinner first date to show his interest, (I paid him back later in other ways) then we started dating for about two months, he never even offer to take me out to dinner again... maybe that's because I clearly stated that I don't want casual sex... he bails out after two months...anyway, that's where I get the impression that if a man won't offer to spend money for you, he's not interested enough.... I admit I might be wrong.

07-03-2008, 05:31 PM	#6
NewPhillyGuy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 1,805	no, cause he just might like blowing money.

07-03-2008, 05:59 PM	#8
Superfreak Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Gender: Male Posts: 1,068	You could try judging his character and actions as a whole rather then relying on this incredibly dubious indicator. If someone truly isn't interested in you, you'll know.

07-03-2008, 06:37 PM	#9
Lana0120 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 3,465	No. A guy could spend money because he is serious about you or because he wants to get in your pants. At the end of the day, a drink or a meal is still cheaper than getting a hooker, I expect... How much money he spends on you is a factor combined with many others, and it isn't even the most important one imo. You should be looking at the way he treats you, how much he initiates contact with you, how much he tries to involve you in his life and get involved in yours, amongst many other things.