FWB wants me to meet the parents

ycmanvs · 07-03-2008, 10:30 AM

There is a guy I know who was an FWB for a short time after my ex and I initially broke up. Even though we stopped all sexual activity because I decided that I wanted a serious relationship, he has asked if I would like to go to a game with him and meet his parents who will be in town next week.
He has box seats and I am curious to meet his parents.
Do you think this is dangerous? I think of him as a friend at this point, but I know that I could see myself in a relationship with him.

Lana0120 · 07-03-2008, 10:31 AM

If you like him a lot and feel that this is dangerous, maybe you should ask him how he plans to introduce you to his parents (in terms of your relationship status).

Catdancer · 07-03-2008, 10:32 AM

Doesnt sound like he's after a relationship, just a ball game with a friend and family. I'd say go, enjoy it, have fun and dont read too much into it.

BeStrongBeHappy · 07-03-2008, 10:36 AM

Did he tell you he only likes you as a friend and doesn't want a relationship?

If that's the case, then he is probably just trying to continue being friends.

But if you didn't have that conversation, then maybe you should. Maybe he's changed his mind and is trying to open the door to dating.

Lana0120 · 07-03-2008, 10:39 AM

I agree with BeStrongBeHappy. Guys can be funny and whilst on the one hand, he may just want to be friends, he may now want to date you but doesn't know how to come straight out and say it.

ycmanvs · 07-03-2008, 10:49 AM

All of the above are true. He is my friend and wants to date me. However, he is bisexual and poly and needs to be in an open relationship. I would like monogamy, but I am not going to force anyone into it. I like him as a person, and the sex was good. However, I explained to him that I am more comfortable with him as a friend, than a lover because I do not want to get hurt.
He seems fine with the arrangement and he tells me about all the women and men that he meets. If I was his girlfriend, I would be hurt by this, but because we are just friends, I can listen to him and not feel any jealousy.
This may seem like a strange relationship, but I find that I am a better friend than girlfriend.

BeStrongBeHappy · 07-03-2008, 10:56 AM

Ah, then you are to be the beard with his parents! I suspect they don't know he's bisexual and poly, and may be asking why he doesn't bring a nice girl home ever.

So bringing you around may take some of the heat off with the parents.

ycmanvs · 07-03-2008, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by BeStrongBeHappy

Ah, then you are to be the beard with his parents! I suspect they don't know he's bisexual and poly, and may be asking why he doesn't bring a nice girl home ever.

So bringing you around may take some of the heat off with the parents.

Nope. Not that either. He was married until recently. His parents know about his lifestyle and do not care about that. He just wanted to do something nice for me because I have been there for him over the past 6 months. I told him that I would like to go. However, I reserve the right to change my mind by next Friday.

afonselaca · 07-03-2008, 11:41 AM

He's not a FWB because he respects your wishes so meeting his parents should be no big.

Sounds like nothing more than a friend asking a friend to a game. Have fun!

07-03-2008, 10:30 AM	#1
ycmanvs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New England Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,836	FWB wants me to meet the parents There is a guy I know who was an FWB for a short time after my ex and I initially broke up. Even though we stopped all sexual activity because I decided that I wanted a serious relationship, he has asked if I would like to go to a game with him and meet his parents who will be in town next week. He has box seats and I am curious to meet his parents. Do you think this is dangerous? I think of him as a friend at this point, but I know that I could see myself in a relationship with him.

07-03-2008, 10:31 AM	#2
Lana0120 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 3,467	If you like him a lot and feel that this is dangerous, maybe you should ask him how he plans to introduce you to his parents (in terms of your relationship status).

07-03-2008, 10:32 AM	#3
Catdancer Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,360	Doesnt sound like he's after a relationship, just a ball game with a friend and family. I'd say go, enjoy it, have fun and dont read too much into it.

07-03-2008, 10:36 AM	#4
BeStrongBeHappy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 7,417	Did he tell you he only likes you as a friend and doesn't want a relationship? If that's the case, then he is probably just trying to continue being friends. But if you didn't have that conversation, then maybe you should. Maybe he's changed his mind and is trying to open the door to dating.

07-03-2008, 10:39 AM	#5
Lana0120 Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 3,467	I agree with BeStrongBeHappy. Guys can be funny and whilst on the one hand, he may just want to be friends, he may now want to date you but doesn't know how to come straight out and say it.

07-03-2008, 10:49 AM	#6
ycmanvs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New England Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,836	All of the above are true. He is my friend and wants to date me. However, he is bisexual and poly and needs to be in an open relationship. I would like monogamy, but I am not going to force anyone into it. I like him as a person, and the sex was good. However, I explained to him that I am more comfortable with him as a friend, than a lover because I do not want to get hurt. He seems fine with the arrangement and he tells me about all the women and men that he meets. If I was his girlfriend, I would be hurt by this, but because we are just friends, I can listen to him and not feel any jealousy. This may seem like a strange relationship, but I find that I am a better friend than girlfriend.

07-03-2008, 10:56 AM	#7
BeStrongBeHappy Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Female Posts: 7,417	Ah, then you are to be the beard with his parents! I suspect they don't know he's bisexual and poly, and may be asking why he doesn't bring a nice girl home ever. So bringing you around may take some of the heat off with the parents.

07-03-2008, 11:41 AM	#9
afonselaca Offline Silver Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Gender: None Specified Posts: 333	He's not a FWB because he respects your wishes so meeting his parents should be no big. Sounds like nothing more than a friend asking a friend to a game. Have fun!