Psychology of sex

Godless_Heathen · 06-16-2008, 09:28 AM

I read once that your most sensitive sexual organ is between your ears. What you're thinking has as much effect on how pleasurable sex is as the physical sensations.

In college, a professor said to me "the problem with students is that their hormones are all telling them to make babies, or at least practice." For me it's been tied up with that pretty much all my life. Even when I absolutely did not want a child, because I was too immature for fatherhood and an unplanned pregnancy would have been a financial disaster, some part of me wanted the illusion of trying for one. I was fine with the times we used a diaphragm, but psychologically the pill was nicer because it meant there was no barrier in there.

That's my personal kink. With other guys I guess it's things like dominance games, which I find completely unappealing. But for me I can think of few things more arousing than a woman saying to me "I want you to make me pregnant." Another huge turn-on was a post here on ENA a while back in which a woman said she really enjoyed the sensation of her boyfriend's sperm entering her.

I think this probably pretty common. As a female friend said to me once, "yes, the idea is appealing. Isn't that the purpose?" Yet she was embarrassed and blushed when she said it, so I guess we're not supposed to talk about it.

Of course, I also know men and women for whom possible parenthood is a huge turn-off. Presumably they have their own, different psychological things about sex that turn them on.

So what are yours?

civilservant · 06-16-2008, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Godless_Heathen

I read once that your most sensitive sexual organ is between your ears. What you're thinking has as much effect on how pleasurable sex is as the physical sensations.

Your so right in that respect. A good friend of mine often tells me thats its about the mental lay as much as the physical lay. That's why (for my own part) I don't do one night stands. I have to feel something for the person.

I don't know if I have a 'thing' in the way that you describe however, I've never given it much thought.

ycmanvs · 06-16-2008, 12:55 PM

Of course you enjoy it the way it's meant to be had, but in this day and age...with all the lovely bacterias and viruses around...a barrier (even though less of a turn on)...is actually quite appealing in the long run.
I enjoy having that barrier around.

Godless_Heathen · 06-16-2008, 01:12 PM

Oh man. Can we please not have this turn into another "condoms and STDs" thread?

ycmanvs · 06-16-2008, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Godless_Heathen

Oh man. Can we please not have this turn into another "condoms and STDs" thread?

It's not. I was saying that they turn me on, for whatever reason...maybe I like the feel, the lack of mess...don't know the why.(not to be too graphic, but that feel of it running down my leg is not that pleasant)
I just wish they smelled better !!!

Frangipani · 06-16-2008, 03:04 PM

Me, I find erotic stories quite a turn on. A combination of sensual and dirty talk...but mainly the sensual talk and descriptions of what is happening in the others persons daydream. I have kept a number of msn stories that I have shared with someone...just made up things we have written. Things we'd like to do or places we'd like to be doing them...like beaches in Tahiti

pinkelephant · 06-16-2008, 04:21 PM

oh im with the op. something about it is so intimate and sexy.

06-16-2008, 09:28 AM	#1
Godless_Heathen Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Boston Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 255	Psychology of sex I read once that your most sensitive sexual organ is between your ears. What you're thinking has as much effect on how pleasurable sex is as the physical sensations. In college, a professor said to me "the problem with students is that their hormones are all telling them to make babies, or at least practice." For me it's been tied up with that pretty much all my life. Even when I absolutely did not want a child, because I was too immature for fatherhood and an unplanned pregnancy would have been a financial disaster, some part of me wanted the illusion of trying for one. I was fine with the times we used a diaphragm, but psychologically the pill was nicer because it meant there was no barrier in there. That's my personal kink. With other guys I guess it's things like dominance games, which I find completely unappealing. But for me I can think of few things more arousing than a woman saying to me "I want you to make me pregnant." Another huge turn-on was a post here on ENA a while back in which a woman said she really enjoyed the sensation of her boyfriend's sperm entering her. I think this probably pretty common. As a female friend said to me once, "yes, the idea is appealing. Isn't that the purpose?" Yet she was embarrassed and blushed when she said it, so I guess we're not supposed to talk about it. Of course, I also know men and women for whom possible parenthood is a huge turn-off. Presumably they have their own, different psychological things about sex that turn them on. So what are yours?

06-16-2008, 03:04 PM	#6
Frangipani Offline Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Gender: Female Posts: 463	Me, I find erotic stories quite a turn on. A combination of sensual and dirty talk...but mainly the sensual talk and descriptions of what is happening in the others persons daydream. I have kept a number of msn stories that I have shared with someone...just made up things we have written. Things we'd like to do or places we'd like to be doing them...like beaches in Tahiti __________________ True love cannot be found where it truly does not exist, Nor can it be hidden where it truly does.

06-16-2008, 12:55 PM	#3
ycmanvs Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: New England Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,836	Of course you enjoy it the way it's meant to be had, but in this day and age...with all the lovely bacterias and viruses around...a barrier (even though less of a turn on)...is actually quite appealing in the long run. I enjoy having that barrier around.

06-16-2008, 01:12 PM	#4
Godless_Heathen Offline Bronze Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Boston Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 255	Oh man. Can we please not have this turn into another "condoms and STDs" thread?

06-16-2008, 04:21 PM	#7
pinkelephant Offline Platinum Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Lala land Gender: None Specified Posts: 2,617	oh im with the op. something about it is so intimate and sexy.